Low Self-Esteem: That Must Be Because I’m Worthless, Right Ever feel worthless? Most people do. But if you feel like that all or most of the time something’s wrong. Self-esteem is not a “thing,” it’s how you feel about yourself. It’s a feeling, a state of mind. Self-esteem is a judgment you make about yourself,…
Christina Schultz, MA, Counselor, New Directions Counseling Group, is offering a seminar to help support four couples facing the diagnosis and treatment of chronic and/or severe illnesses. This dyadic transition to illness program combines research findings from couples facing cancer and other illnesses, and techniques from The Gottman Couples Method, Emotion-Focused Therapy, and Acceptance and…
Obviously, we keep an eye on our overall wellness and progress throughout the year. We make adjustments and course corrections along the way. We recommit to habits and goals as we go. Some might have been forgotten and need a little dusting-off. In all, we stay the course to the best of our ability and…
Many people if they are honest, will tell you that they are not as happy and satisfied with their lives as they would like to be. At an earlier time in my life, I counted myself among the ranks of the dissatisfied. Through hard work, I no longer am disappointed with my life. I solved…
We’ve been on a little Journey together these past few issues. We’ve been diving into aspects of the 5 Elements in our Successful Couple Strategy™: Boundaries (Element1: Context & Mindset – Empower Yourself) Communication (Element2: Communication & Alignment – Improve Understanding) Repeating Patterns (Element3: Clarity & Dynamics – Change Patterns) Connection (Element4: Connection & Intimacy – Feel Connected) Today we’ll cover Collaboration (from Element5:…
This brings us to our current topic lineup. So far, we’ve covered aspects of Repeating Patterns (from Element3-Clarity & Dynamics), Communication (from Element2-Communication & Alignment), and Boundaries (from Element1-Context & Mindset) in our Successful Couple Strategy™… Repeating Patterns tend to kick relationships in the butt. Dissatisfying and reactive patterns that is. This is where partners feel stuck, get discouraged and potentially give up. But, these…
Last issue covered aspects of Communication (from Element2-Communication & Alignment in our Successful Couple Strategy™), the prior covered Boundaries (from Element1-Context & Mindset)… Communication is such an important part of a successful relationship. It is a very basic skill that most partners botch in their relating. They are not aware of all the different things that impact their communication and getting on the…
Piggybacking on last week’s issue about letting go, deconstructing, and continuing to streamline. No such venture is done well without setting proper effective boundaries… It’s funny, whenever I cover this topic with clients or in discussion with people, they all seem to believe that setting boundaries means being a jerk. They think they have to…
Are you enjoying more freedom and peace of mind this Summer? That is what Summer is all about… Freedom from the usual and the opportunity to Be… When was the last time you had a large chunk of time to do nothing? To just chill? To get in touch with your lightheartedness and ease? To…
Continuing with our Freedom theme, picking-up where we left off with reparenting around Fathering/Discipline (to reprogram ourselves), and combining it with more Summer goodness. Why not? Re-Fathering has to do with personal discipline and how we set ourselves up to succeed in life and in relationships. It has to do with personal power, with boundaries, with ownership, with accountability. It…