Codependency therapists in Dumbarton, Virginia VA
Codependency
Bethany Anderson
Counselor/Therapist, LPC
Codependency can often lead to unhealthy relationships, low self esteem, and abuse. I work with clients to challenge codependent behaviors to increase freedom and autonomy in their life.
4 Years Experience
Codependency
Richard Forde
Licensed Professional Counselor, Licensed Professional Counselor
The common pattern in unhealthy relationship dynamics, is the "dance" between "the dominant controller" and the "compliant submissive." The "compliant submissive" typically "over functions" in the relationship, seeking to repair "ruptures" as they occur, and keep the relationship "connected" and moving forward. The "compliant submissive" is keeping themself "safe" through "pleaser" behaviors, trying to avoid conflict. This type of "survival" behavior is generally a result of inadequate attachment in childhood and fosters behaviors we refer to as "codependency." Therapy can be used for the purpose of "attachment repair" as a way of addressing the underlying cause of codependent behaviors.
25 Years Experience
Codependency
Camille Larsen
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC, LAC
One of the areas I work with a lot is codependency. People who complete this work report relating to people in positive ways they did not know were possible. They report more confidence, less resentment, and less of setting themselves up to be taken advantage of. We talk about what healthy boundaries look like and how to gradually move toward them in a relational way.
8 Years Experience
Codependency
Michelle Bloom, PsyD
Psychologist, PsyD, PsyPact
Setting healthy boundaries is something many of us did not effectively learn in childhood, even in the most well meaning and loving of families. We have, instead, learned to live life to serve others and to prioritize the needs of others, even when doing so harms ourselves. My approach is to help my clients create healthy boundaries, advocate for the self, learn to communicate our needs clearly and directly, and then learn to act upon the needs we have outlined to those we love so we can cultivate healthy and mutually effective relationships. Cutting the ties of codependency is central to this process: staying in one's own lane, letting others solve their own problems, offering compassion and help when asked, letting go of the rescue fantasy, living without an emotional hangover, and learning to accept that there is much we cannot control.
27 Years Experience
Codependency
Alan Brandis, Ph.D.
Psychologist, Ph.D., Licensed Psychologist
The concept of Co-Dependency was developed as a way of explaining how family members of alcoholics, especially their spouses, became emotionally ill apparently as a result of living with an alcoholic for years.
"Co" is a prefix that means "like" or "with" - the family member becomes sick like and with "the dependent" (the person dependent on a chemical). There are several common problems that often go along with life with an alcoholic or drug abuser, including their unpredictable moods, selfish and irresponsible behavior, angry outbursts which may include verbal or physical abuse, broken promises and commitments, embarrassing public behavior, financial irresponsibility, legal problems, and inability to return love or affection. However, most chemically dependent people have periods when they function well, and this generates the hope that they will stay well, quit or control their chemical use, and become responsible and loving for good.
34 Years Experience