Relationship and Marriage Counseling therapists in Delta, Colorado CO
Patty Murray
Marriage and Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Relationships are hard -- and mostly because we are not taught basic foundations for how to be in conflict. I help couples get clear on how they might be contributing to the unhealthy conflict which takes out the blame and creates more opportunity for sustained and healthy change -- to get you and your partner into a space of consistent safety. We learn *how* to fight.
7 Years Experience
Alan Brandis, Ph.D.
Psychologist, Ph.D., Licensed Psychologist
Having worked with hundreds of couples over the last 40 years, I have developed a set of beliefs or ideas which, if adopted, help to ensure that a relationship will last. Here is a list of them.
1) Arguing helps nothing, so don't do it.
I like to say that I never met the person who started the fight! When two people argue, each of them believes that he or she is merely reacting to something the other one did or said. Neither one believes that they started the fight; but it started somehow, didn't it? 2) It is better to be close than it is to be “right.”
Blaming each other for the argument is counterproductive. So is trying to change the other person's opinion. Most couples who argue, argue about whose perception is "correct," whose way of doing something is the "right" way, and so on. The only possible outcome of these arguments is that someone will be "right" and someone will be "wrong." Do you know anyone who enjoys being wrong? Most people will fight tooth and nail to avoid being "wrong." 3) Commitment is the Foundation of the Therapy.Commitment implies that you are in the relationship "come Hell or high water," barring certain behaviors your partner might do such as having an affair (although I have seen a number of relationships recover from those, too).
34 Years Experience
Mariana Carabantes, Psy.D.
Psychologist, Licensed Psychologist
Couples argue about many things, and it's normal to have disagreements. What you do at those times will determine whether your relationship will survive. Learning how to communicate effectively, from a position of love and respect, is my main focus when working with couples.
14 Years Experience
Chuck Gray, Ph.D.
Psychologist
Rather than limit counseling to only one approach, I offer my clients what I think is best specifically for them from a wide array of expert approaches in my marriage and other counseling. In addition to leading seminars to train other professionals in marriage counseling, I have benefited by receiving extensive professional training from most of the leading marriage counseling experts in the country, including but not limited to John Gottman, Susan Johnson, John Gray, Harville Hendrix, Virginia Satyr, Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson, Gary Brainard, Frank Pittman, Shirley Glass, Janice Abrahms Spring, and Neil Jacobson. In conducting counseling, I am fortunate to be able to choose from numerous resources including principles from Gottman's research, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Mars & Venus Counseling, Imago Therapy, Positive Therapy, Interpersonal Therapy, Systems Therapy, Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy, Psychodynamic Therapy, Rogerian Therapy, Integrative Therapy, Humanistic Therapy, Transactional Analysis, Reality Therapy, Rational Emotive Therapy, Gestalt Techniques, NLP, and EMDR. I also offer counseling tools that I personally developed here in Houston.
37 Years Experience
Dr. Alexavery Hawkins
Psychologist, PhD
I help couples navigate conflict, responsibilities, roles, and communication issues while they work to build a healthy sustainable connection with themselves and each other. Whether y'all are just starting out, engaged, or in a longer-term commitment, I look forward to working with you to improve your relationship and start to see meaningful results.
11 Years Experience