Codependency therapists in Salem, Virginia VA
Codependency
Richard Forde
Licensed Professional Counselor, Licensed Professional Counselor
The common pattern in unhealthy relationship dynamics, is the "dance" between "the dominant controller" and the "compliant submissive." The "compliant submissive" typically "over functions" in the relationship, seeking to repair "ruptures" as they occur, and keep the relationship "connected" and moving forward. The "compliant submissive" is keeping themself "safe" through "pleaser" behaviors, trying to avoid conflict. This type of "survival" behavior is generally a result of inadequate attachment in childhood and fosters behaviors we refer to as "codependency." Therapy can be used for the purpose of "attachment repair" as a way of addressing the underlying cause of codependent behaviors.
25 Years Experience
Codependency
Grace in the Shadows
Licensed Professional Counselor, PhD, MDiv, MA, NCMHC, ALMHC, VALMHC
I address codependency by combining psychological expertise with Christian principles to guide individuals toward healthier relational dynamics. Recognizing the often complex and intertwined nature of codependent relationships, I incorporate biblical teachings on boundaries, self-worth, and dependence on God. Through therapeutic interventions, clients are encouraged to explore and understand the patterns of codependency, identifying unhealthy behaviors and fostering self-awareness. I integrate prayer and scriptural reflection to help clients find strength in their faith, emphasizing the importance of relying on God rather than solely on others for validation and fulfillment. Christian counseling for codependency often involves promoting a balanced understanding of love, emphasizing the significance of self-care, and encouraging clients to cultivate a deeper connection with their spiritual identity. By integrating Christian values, the counselor supports individuals in breaking free from codependent patterns and building relationships rooted in healthy interdependence and trust in God.
2 Years Experience
Codependency
Alan Brandis, Ph.D.
Psychologist, Ph.D., Licensed Psychologist
The concept of Co-Dependency was developed as a way of explaining how family members of alcoholics, especially their spouses, became emotionally ill apparently as a result of living with an alcoholic for years.
"Co" is a prefix that means "like" or "with" - the family member becomes sick like and with "the dependent" (the person dependent on a chemical). There are several common problems that often go along with life with an alcoholic or drug abuser, including their unpredictable moods, selfish and irresponsible behavior, angry outbursts which may include verbal or physical abuse, broken promises and commitments, embarrassing public behavior, financial irresponsibility, legal problems, and inability to return love or affection. However, most chemically dependent people have periods when they function well, and this generates the hope that they will stay well, quit or control their chemical use, and become responsible and loving for good.
34 Years Experience
Codependency
Dr. Walter J. Matweychuk
Psychologist, Ph.D.
My approach teaches you to depend on yourself and to be self-directed. You can learn to help yourself if you improve your discomfort tolerance for doing things for yourself, taking calculated risks, and accept yourself even when you fail.
34 Years Experience
Codependency
Elisha S Lee
Counselor/Therapist, LPC
Our counseling services for codependency are designed to address and heal the patterns of behavior that lead individuals to form or maintain one-sided, emotionally destructive, and often abusive relationships. Understanding that codependency stems from deep-seated needs and often begins in one's family of origin, we provide a supportive environment that promotes self-awareness, independence, and healthier relational dynamics.
Empowering Self-Sufficiency and Healthier Relationships
* Identifying Patterns: We help clients identify patterns of codependent behavior and understand the underlying psychological factors that contribute to these patterns, such as low self-esteem, fear of abandonment, or an excessive need for approval.
* Establishing Boundaries: A key focus of therapy is teaching clients how to establish and maintain healthy boundaries in relationships. This includes learning to say no, recognizing one's own needs and desires, and understanding the distinction between helping and enabling.
* Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT): CBT is utilized to challenge and change unhelpful beliefs and behaviors that perpetuate codependency, fostering a healthier, more autonomous sense of self.
* Building Self-Esteem: Therapy sessions are geared toward boosting self-esteem and self-worth, empowering clients to feel confident in standing alone and valuing their own well-being as much as they value the well-being of others.
* Encouraging Interdependence: We focus on transitioning from codependency to interdependence, where healthy, mutual give-and-take relationships are the norm.
Goals of Therapy for Codependency
Our therapy for codependency aims to:
* Promote Self-Reliance: Encourage a stronger, more independent self-identity separate from one’s relationships.
* Healthy Relationship Dynamics: Facilitate the development of relationships characterized by mutual respect, balance, and emotional honesty.
* Enhanced Emotional Regulation: Equip clients with skills to manage their emotions effectively, reducing the tendency to use relationships as a way to soothe or suppress these feelings.
* Increased Awareness: Heighten self-awareness regarding the origins and triggers of codependent behaviors, enabling proactive changes.
* Lifestyle Adjustments: Support clients in making practical changes to their lifestyles that reinforce healthy interpersonal behaviors and thought patterns.
Codependency can overshadow your sense of self and disrupt your ability to maintain balanced, fulfilling relationships. With our support, you can uncover the roots of your codependent behaviors, develop a healthier approach to relationships, and embrace a more self-directed life. Reach out today to start your journey toward lasting change and relational health.
7 Years Experience