At A Couples' Place we are focusing on relationship coaching. The Gottman Method of Couples' therapy is a coaching model, meaning that with our help and guidance you will be talking to each other. There are many structured exercises and interventions that we'll use to help you do this. Ideally your conversations, especially when upset, are still specific, symmetrical, include good summaries and a good back and forth exchange. Of course you will not always be able to do this and then you need to learn how to repair a negative regrettable event.
Therapy tends to focus on the wounded downside of ourselves — but just as much as we are capable of darkness and contraction, we are creatures of light and expansion. Coaching tends to emphasize these upside possibilities, these gestures towards greatness all of us feel in the core of ourselves, howsoever small they may be. When they are given voice, when they are encouraged, these gestures can become great movements of empowerment and expanded life.
Life just keeps happening, doesn’t it? Whether you are just starting out in life and are unsure of your direction or if you have been thrown a curve ball through a divorce, a death of a loved one or loss of career, it is often helpful to get support and perspective from a therapeutically.
Conflict often arises in these change times. Should I go this way or that way? It is often not easy to know. Fear of change often clouds the inner voice making it difficult to know the best direction. Anxiety can take over and you can just feel paralyzed. This paralyzed state just conjures up on the demons of self-doubt and fear of failure, so a much-needed change can be delayed, compounding the problem.
Taking time to understand yourself and your essential needs is an important step in caring for your future self. (The version of you that must live out the consequences of your present-day choices.) Having the support of a clear thinking ally, such as a trusted therapist can make the world of difference.
Often, utilizing cognitive behavioral therapy can be quite useful during these times. CBT helps to sort through the conflicting emotions by identifying core beliefs and cognitive distortions that are contributing to the confusion. Identifying these processes can help to gain control of an anxious mind, so that a clearer, more authentic voice can come through.
That can be a breath of fresh air. Now at least the next right step is laid out in front you. Often this is a small baby step rather than a huge leap into the unknown.
Coaching is an aspect of our practice, especially gender coaching, in helping people who are not struggling with psychological difficulties, but trying to find their way forward into more productive, happy and fulfilling lives.
Life can bring both joy and stress, often at the same time. We may struggle with big life transitions, family challenges, experience burn out, feel anxiety about the future or have questions about our identities. I support people of all ages navigate such challenging moments in life and work together to develop the clarity and skills to regain a balanced, grounded and more joyful life.
I'm an open-minded and accepting therapist with years of experience working with young and middle-aged adults - especially women - on exploring who we truly are and taking control of our lives so we can be the best versions of ourselves possible. Whether you are looking for support on identity concerns, what to do now that you're a "real" adult (yeah, adulting is hard!), or just someone outside your circle to talk things through with - we can create a counseling plan that fits your unique needs and goals.
I am passionate about providing a safe and welcoming space for people of all backgrounds and identities. Click that contact button and we can schedule a free consultation call today!
I am an achiever myself through very challenging circumstances and unlikely odds for success. We all possess the potential to go beyond our current circumstances and I can guide this blossoming of personal, professional, and relationship growth with concrete results.
28 Years Experience
