In Imago, we believe that we all come to adulthood with childhood wounds and they are always triggered in our most intimate relationships. We also view conflict as an opportunity to grow more deeply in love. Relationships go through developmental stages just as individuals do, so when a couple is hurting and confused, my training and guidance through learning new ways to communicate and view their relationship can be very helpful.
Marriage is difficult. The person we committed to loving the rest of our lives, is sometimes the person we can't stand to be around. Often times people wonder, "did I marry the wrong person?". These are common experiences and what I work on with couples. I utilize EFT to help a couple dive deep into their relationship, heal past wounds, and build the marriage they want
Marriage is the most challenging relationship. We all communicate on different levels and in different ways. Learning how to connect with your partner in an appropriate manner and learning how to correctly "reach" him/her is critical and has to be learned. It is not always inherent.
Situational awareness of each individuals likes and dislikes and acceptance for the unit to cope with difficulties when they arrive. Always remembering that compromise is necessary to maintain harmony
Over the years, I've found that seeing people individually for their relationship issues is actually far more productive than traditional couples counseling. Often couples counseling goes round and round and ultimately goes no where. All it takes is for one member of the couple to not be fully committed to the process, and that becomes the hole in the boat that sinks the whole process. Coming to counseling on your own to work on your relationship issues is ultimately more empowering and more successful. I would be happy to talk with you more about my perspective on helping relationships and marriages, so feel free to contact me with any questions you might have.