Perfectionism therapists in El Cajon, California CA
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Perfectionism
Sarah Koerner
Psychologist, PsyD
I have many years of experience working with clients stuck in a perfectionism loop, especially those with trauma histories. I often see perfectionism as a coping strategy which used to be helpful for a client but now is perhaps getting in their way. Sessions with me feel like a real conversation with clinical info and suggestions peppered in. I believe humor and joy are often useful to help shift perspective. My goal is for clients to learn how to live in the present so that they can engage more fully in their lives.
19 Years Experience
In-Person Near El Cajon, CA
Online in El Cajon, CA California
Perfectionism
Tara McGrath
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
You may not identify as a "perfectionist" because you're not doing things perfectly. In reality, people who struggle with perfectionism feel like they're never performing well enough, and they can always find the flaws in everything they do. These tendencies can also with correlate with procrastination. I work with people to improve their self-compassion and self-worth to allow for excellence instead of unrealistic perfection.
23 Years Experience
In-Person Near El Cajon, CA
Online in El Cajon, CA California
Perfectionism
Amy @ Inner Nature Therapy
Licensed Clinical Social Worker, LCSW, PMH-C
Perfectionism is the thief of joy! As a recovering perfectionist myself, I will be kind but honest with you when I notice perfectionism creeping in to your thinking and self-image. By gently rooting it out, I can support you towards accepting things as they are while remaining confident in yourself and motivated to make positive changes.
13 Years Experience
Online in El Cajon, CA California (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Mary Mallinson Therapy
Licensed Clinical Social Worker, LCSW
Perfectionism often shows up as pressure, self-criticism, and fear of failure. Together, we explore the roots of perfectionism and work toward building self-compassion, flexibility, and a more balanced, sustainable way of relating to yourself.
5 Years Experience
Online in El Cajon, CA California (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Mia Turner
Therapist, MA, RYT, ASDCS, LMFT, NPT-C, CMNCS, CMIP
Perfectionism is often less about striving for excellence and more about seeking safety, belonging, predictability, acceptance, or protection. It can develop in response to trauma, marginalization, giftedness, neurodivergence, family expectations, racism, ableism, cultural pressures, high-achievement environments, or experiences where mistakes felt costly and being "good enough" never quite felt good enough.
What is often labeled as perfectionism may also reflect a nervous system that learned to stay vigilant, perform, overprepare, overachieve, self-monitor, mask, or anticipate problems in order to avoid criticism, rejection, disappointment, conflict, shame, or harm. For many people, perfectionism becomes intertwined with identity, self-worth, productivity, competence, and the belief that value must be earned rather than inherently possessed. It may show up as chronic self-criticism, difficulty resting, procrastination, overthinking, people-pleasing, hyper-independence, fear of failure, fear of success, difficulty making decisions, or feeling as though there is always more that should be done.
This work explores the protective role perfectionism has played throughout your life while examining the ways it may be impacting relationships, wellbeing, creativity, joy, authenticity, and connection with yourself. Particular attention is given to the influence of family systems, culture, gender, neurodivergence, trauma, and the internalized narratives that shape how you relate to achievement, mistakes, success, failure, worthiness, and belonging.
My approach is grounded in the belief that perfectionism is often an adaptive survival strategy rather than a personal flaw. Rather than attempting to simply eliminate perfectionistic tendencies, we become curious about what those parts are protecting, what they fear might happen if they loosened their grip, and what needs may exist beneath the pressure to perform. Using EMDR, somatic therapy, mindfulness, polyvagal-informed practices, parts work, neuropsychotherapy, expressive arts, attachment-focused approaches, and liberation-oriented healing, therapy supports developing a more compassionate relationship with the parts of yourself that learned to equate achievement with safety.
Attention is also given to the ways perfectionism lives in the body and nervous system. This may include chronic tension, difficulty slowing down, overactivation, self-monitoring, exhaustion, difficulty experiencing satisfaction, or feeling unable to rest without guilt. Through greater awareness of sensation, emotion, nervous system states, and embodied experience, space is created for increased flexibility, self-trust, self-compassion, and choice.
The goal is not to stop caring, striving, creating, achieving, or growing. It is to cultivate a relationship with yourself that is not dependent upon performance, productivity, approval, or getting everything right. Often, the work involves reclaiming authenticity, playfulness, creativity, rest, joy, pace, and the internal permission to be fully human rather than a constant self-improvement project.
10 Years Experience
Online in El Cajon, CA California (Online Only)
Perfectionism therapists in El Cajon, California Statistics
Perfectionism therapists in El Cajon, California average 14 years of experience and charge around $204 per session. 100% offer online sessions. The top treatment approaches are Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) (82%), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) (53%), and Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT) (47%).
Average years in practice
14 Years Experience
Average cost per session
$204
Accept insurance
50%
Offer sliding scale
42%
Gender ID
| 65% |
Female |
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| 21% |
Male |
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| 8% |
Non-Binary |
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| 6% |
Gender Fluid |
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Session Type
| 53% |
In Person and Online |
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| 47% |
Online Only |
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Top Treatment Approaches
| 82% | Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) |
| 53% | Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) |
| 47% | Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT) |
| 45% | Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) |
| 45% | Psychodynamic Therapy |
| 45% | Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) |
| 42% | Somatic Therapy |
Ages Served
| 97% | Adult |
| 76% | Young Adult |
| 63% | Senior |
| 47% | Teen |
| 21% | Children |
Client Focus
| 68% | Women |
| 58% | LGBTQ+ |
| 39% | Persons with Disabilities |
| 39% | Hispanic / Latino |
| 39% | Men |