Codependency therapists in Corso Italia-Davenport, Ontario ON, CanadaCA
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A good description of codependency is “when a person’s self-esteem rises and falls based on the other person’s mood, tone or experience.” But it is actually much more than that. The person is overly involved in the other person’s needs, wants, problems and issues. In reality, some of the nicest people in the world are codependent, and if not watched, all relationships have the potential to become codependent. Codependency takes healthy emotions and corrupts them. For example, empathy is a positive emotion, but in codependency the empathy rises to a level where there is no division between the two people. Generosity is also a beautiful emotion, but in codependency it turns into control and over enmeshment. In addition, the codependent person often feels excessively guilty for having any need that may create discomfort in the other person, even if the need is healthy and necessary for their emotional well-being.
The undoing of this pattern is crucial to finding one's joy and peace. We unpack this as it relates to one's relationships to others as well as to the relationship with oneself.
Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Registered Social Worker, BBA, MDiv, MSW, CMAT, CSAT
Depending on others for approval or a sense of purpose is a very stressful life. It can feel too scary to be alone while having someone close romantically can feel overwhelming. Despite these extremes, you wish for more stability. I have experience helping people discover and build internal structures so that they can be themselves and feel safe with others.
Reach out today to get the care that you deserve.
Codependency can feel confusing and confounding. We are trying to sort out "who am I and who is the other?" Setting and maintaining boundaries and developing self awareness can be just two responses. The reward of doing this work is a clearer sense of one's self in relation to others.
I'll draw on relational, attachment-based, and psychodynamic approaches to help you understand and shift codependency patterns. 'Codependency' has become a stigmatized term, which can leave people feeling stuck or even ashamed. I think it's important to have a compassionate lens towards this relational dynamic and why it's developed. First, we'll work together to explore what codependency is like for you. What needs does it fulfill or not? What fears does it soothe or ignite? What longings are being expressed or repressed? We'll also explore how you can fulfill your needs for intimacy and safety in ways that also honour your boundaries. We may need to make space for inner conflicts between connection and individuality. How can those co-exist in your relationships? Alone, it may be hard to see beyond codependency—together, we can open up new possibilities for a more fulfilling relationship with yourself and others.
Jessica Weeks, Liz Bostwick, Nic Cadman, Benjamin Rubinoff, and Barbara Brown come with great experience working with folks on co-dependency and addiction patterns. Feel free to check out all our therapists to see who's the best fit for you. We can all work with you around stepping out of codependent patterns. Contact our Intake Worker to help determine who will be the best fit for you.
Perhaps you find yourself losing a sense of your own identity or what matters to you when you enter into close relationships; perhaps there's a sense of helplessness that arises in you when you try to pursue your own independent aspirations, ambitions, or needs. Perhaps you become paralyzed at the thought of relationship loss and so another's goals become more important than your own. I'd be honored to support you in finding a sustainable sense of separateness in your relationships, or in navigating separateness when it feels overwhelming.
entangled relationships start when we are born and are learned behaviours. Learning to create healthy boundaries and recognize each person is still seperate within the relationship can help create healthy relationships.
Oh boy... I know this is a tough one.
What does Co-dependency actually look like?
These are 20 signs of Co-dependency...
Do you have...
Depression?
Anxiety?
Stress?
Low self-esteem?
Low levels of narcissism?
Familial dysfunction?
Low emotional expressivity?
These are some of the things (Marks et al., 2012) found to correlate with codependency.
According to Lancer, 2016; Mental Health America other signs of Co-dependency may also include:
Having poor boundaries;
Having a hard time saying no;
Having trouble communicating honestly;
Showing emotional reactivity;
Having a need for control, especially over others;
Feeling compelled to take care of people;
Feeling a need to be liked by everyone;
Feeling a need to always be in a relationship;
Fixating on mistakes;
Denying one’s own needs, thoughts, and feelings;
Having intimacy issues;
Confusing love and pity;
Displaying fear of abandonment.
If that's you or your partner I recommend couples therapy!
Codependency can look so different from person to person and relationship to relationship. Often times when we are in these types of relationships, we can feel fully dependent on others to meet all our attachment needs and can feel extremely powerless, insecure, and fearful when these needs aren't met. For others, it can look like needing to take control of most aspects of the relationship and our partners to create a sense of certainty and security, which can leave us in distress when we lose that "control". I hope to help you understand your feelings and needs, learn how to express those to your partner, set healthy boundaries, and build independence and internal self-esteem.
32 Years Experience
