Perfectionism therapists in Brentwood, California CA
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Perfectionism
Nes Pinar Psychotherapy
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
Many people don’t realize that perfectionism isn’t about doing things perfectly—it’s about feeling like anything less than what they had in their minds is unacceptable. This mindset often creates constant self‑criticism, pressure, and a sense that nothing is ever “good enough,” even when you’re working incredibly hard. I help clients notice these patterns with compassion and begin shifting toward a more grounded, accepting way of relating to themselves.
15 Years Experience
In-Person Near Brentwood, CA
Online in Brentwood, CA California
Perfectionism
Mia Turner
Therapist, MA, RYT, ASDCS, LMFT, NPT-C, CMNCS, CMIP
Perfectionism is often less about striving for excellence and more about seeking safety, belonging, predictability, acceptance, or protection. It can develop in response to trauma, marginalization, giftedness, neurodivergence, family expectations, racism, ableism, cultural pressures, high-achievement environments, or experiences where mistakes felt costly and being "good enough" never quite felt good enough.
What is often labeled as perfectionism may also reflect a nervous system that learned to stay vigilant, perform, overprepare, overachieve, self-monitor, mask, or anticipate problems in order to avoid criticism, rejection, disappointment, conflict, shame, or harm. For many people, perfectionism becomes intertwined with identity, self-worth, productivity, competence, and the belief that value must be earned rather than inherently possessed. It may show up as chronic self-criticism, difficulty resting, procrastination, overthinking, people-pleasing, hyper-independence, fear of failure, fear of success, difficulty making decisions, or feeling as though there is always more that should be done.
This work explores the protective role perfectionism has played throughout your life while examining the ways it may be impacting relationships, wellbeing, creativity, joy, authenticity, and connection with yourself. Particular attention is given to the influence of family systems, culture, gender, neurodivergence, trauma, and the internalized narratives that shape how you relate to achievement, mistakes, success, failure, worthiness, and belonging.
My approach is grounded in the belief that perfectionism is often an adaptive survival strategy rather than a personal flaw. Rather than attempting to simply eliminate perfectionistic tendencies, we become curious about what those parts are protecting, what they fear might happen if they loosened their grip, and what needs may exist beneath the pressure to perform. Using EMDR, somatic therapy, mindfulness, polyvagal-informed practices, parts work, neuropsychotherapy, expressive arts, attachment-focused approaches, and liberation-oriented healing, therapy supports developing a more compassionate relationship with the parts of yourself that learned to equate achievement with safety.
Attention is also given to the ways perfectionism lives in the body and nervous system. This may include chronic tension, difficulty slowing down, overactivation, self-monitoring, exhaustion, difficulty experiencing satisfaction, or feeling unable to rest without guilt. Through greater awareness of sensation, emotion, nervous system states, and embodied experience, space is created for increased flexibility, self-trust, self-compassion, and choice.
The goal is not to stop caring, striving, creating, achieving, or growing. It is to cultivate a relationship with yourself that is not dependent upon performance, productivity, approval, or getting everything right. Often, the work involves reclaiming authenticity, playfulness, creativity, rest, joy, pace, and the internal permission to be fully human rather than a constant self-improvement project.
10 Years Experience
Online in Brentwood, CA California (Online Only)
Perfectionism
The Connection Clinic
Marriage and Family Therapist
We assist individuals struggling with perfectionism by helping them cultivate self-compassion and realistic expectations. Our goal is to allow for healthier living and greater life satisfaction.
9 Years Experience
Online in Brentwood, CA California (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Kristina Anzell
Licensed Clinical Social Worker, LCSW, CPSC
You are used to putting in extra work to get it right. When you don't do something right the first time, you beat yourself up and then spend time learning, researching and then don't stop trying until you get it perfect. The issue... babies do not work that way. They are all different, they are not predictable and they are not able to be controlled. You are spending too much time and energy on something that is "supposed to come naturally" and it feels awful! Get the support you need!
10 Years Experience
Online in Brentwood, CA California
Perfectionism
Kristin Robert
Marriage and Family Therapist, AMFT
Perfectionism is rarely about excellence alone. It often develops when achievement, control, or being beyond criticism becomes tied to safety, worth, belonging, or protection from shame. What may appear as discipline can quietly produce procrastination, overworking, indecision, self-criticism, and an inability to feel satisfied even after success. Therapy explores what imperfection has come to mean, separates healthy ambition from fear-driven performance, and builds the capacity to take risks, make mistakes, and remain worthy without continually proving it.
3 Years Experience
Online in Brentwood, CA California
Perfectionism therapists in Brentwood, California Statistics
Perfectionism therapists in Brentwood, California average 12 years of experience and charge around $202 per session. 100% offer online sessions. The top treatment approaches are Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) (73%), Somatic Therapy (48%), and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) (45%).
Average years in practice
12 Years Experience
Average cost per session
$202
Accept insurance
45%
Offer sliding scale
41%
Gender ID
| 69% |
Female |
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| 17% |
Male |
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| 8% |
Non-Binary |
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| 6% |
Gender Fluid |
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Session Type
| 55% |
In Person and Online |
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| 45% |
Online Only |
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Top Treatment Approaches
| 73% | Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) |
| 48% | Somatic Therapy |
| 45% | Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) |
| 41% | Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) |
| 41% | Psychodynamic Therapy |
| 41% | Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) |
| 39% | Person-Centered Therapy (Rogerian) |
Ages Served
| 100% | Adult |
| 82% | Young Adult |
| 59% | Senior |
| 45% | Teen |
| 18% | Children |
Client Focus
| 66% | Women |
| 52% | LGBTQ+ |
| 36% | Hispanic / Latino |
| 32% | Asian |
| 32% | Buddhist |