Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified IMAGO Relationship Therapist, MFT, and EMDR
Certified in Imago Relationship therapy in 2010. In order to deepen intimacy we need a safe relationship container that requires both partners to close their exits. Then there is shared grief after an affair and trust broken must be re-earned. The healing power of Imago Dialogues teaches partners How to stay in their committed relationship and better get their needs met with one another.
An extramarital affair is considered by most partners to be a profound betrayal. In her book “Not Just Friends” Dr. Shirley Glass uses the metaphor of walls and windows to describe what happens when there is an affair. “In a love affair, the unfaithful partner has built a wall to shut out the marriage partner and opened a window to let in the affair partner. To re-establish a marriage that is intimate and trusting after an affair, the wall and window must be reconstructed to conform to the safety code and keep the structure of the marriage sound so that it can withstand the test of time.” Sometimes affairs are physical and sometimes they are emotional. Both types are destructive. We help couples using Shirley Glass’s model by assisting them to repair the wall that protects their marriage, creating a strong boundary between them and the affair partner. This means ending the affair and agreeing to no more secrets. Using the structure of the Gottman Method, we’ll guide you to talk about the affair safely without doing further damage. Once we understand what happened with both partners in the know, we can begin to look at rebuilding the trust and foundation of the relationship. Affairs are serious, but they are not the main reason couples get divorced.
Infidelity does not have to mean the end of a union. There are so many pathways to heal from infidelity and come out stronger as a united couple and restore trust.
Infidelity has been an area we have been working with as long as we have worked with couples. We have been able to help partners navigate the betrayal and repair required to recover. This is true for polyamorous partners as well when there is a break of trust.
Life Coach, Trauma, PTSD, BSc Sciences, DoD Career Councilor, SARC, DAPA, Pre Licensed Human Intelligence / Psychology, Life Coach. | Professional Support: LSSBB, PgM, Bluestone PMP,
We look at your infidelity concerns or issues and find the root cause for them and help you recover.
There is nothing quite like discovering infidelity. It is extremely and uniquely traumatic. You find yourself feeling and doing things that you never thought you were capable of. I have experience helping couples heal after the discovery and I have experience helping the betrayed move on and rebuild their lives. Don't doubt yourself - if you feel a bit crazy...that's a symptom of being betrayed.