Perfectionism therapists in Thousand Oaks, California CA
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Perfectionism
Melanie Simms
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
I believe that self-compassion is the antidote for perfectionism. I work with clients to heal from early traumatic experiences that may have led to the development of perfectionism as a coping mechanism. I help clients develop their overall feeling of self-worth and treat themselves with greater compassion to reduce perfectionistic tendencies.
11 Years Experience
In-Person Near Thousand Oaks, CA
Online in Thousand Oaks, CA California
Perfectionism
Elizabeth Nims
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
For those experiencing perfectionism, I can help you understand the origins of this belief and give skills to shift to seeking excellence over perfectionism and understanding your innate worth.
7 Years Experience
In-Person Near Thousand Oaks, CA
Online in Thousand Oaks, CA California
Perfectionism
Tracey Kiernan
Marriage and Family Therapist, MA, AMFT
Perfectionism often looks like success on the outside but feels exhausting internally. I help you understand the drivers behind it and shift toward a more sustainable, self-supportive way of functioning.
2 Years Experience
In-Person Near Thousand Oaks, CA
Online in Thousand Oaks, CA California
Perfectionism
Layla Ashley Psychotherapy
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
Perfectionism can create constant pressure to perform or appear flawless. In sessions, we explore how to shift rigid expectations, and cultivate a healthier relationship with achievement and self-worth.
23 Years Experience
In-Person Near Thousand Oaks, CA
Online in Thousand Oaks, CA California
Perfectionism
LaTianna Williams, Therapy, Sexology, and Holistic Tantra
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT, CTRS, ABS
Perfectionism and Imposter’s Syndrome: Perfectionism can create the illusion of success while quietly fueling anxiety, self-criticism, burnout, procrastination, and fear of failure. No matter how much you achieve, it may never feel like enough.
I help clients uncover the beliefs and experiences driving perfectionism and develop healthier ways of relating to themselves and their goals. Together, we’ll cultivate self-compassion, resilience, and a more balanced approach to achievement.
This work is about letting go of impossible standards and creating space for growth, authenticity, and genuine fulfillment.
8 Years Experience
Online in Thousand Oaks, CA California (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Dr. Jag Soni
Psychologist, Ph.D., HSPP, PCC, SPHR, SHRM-SCP
While the drive for excellence is often rewarded, the weight of Perfectionism and "never being enough" leads to burnout and paralysis. Drawing on 35 years of clinical experience, I help you shift from self-criticism to a resilient, high-functioning sense of self. We work to uncover the root of your perfectionistic standards and foster the internal changes needed to achieve your goals without sacrificing your mental well-being. In a private Telehealth setting, I provide a sophisticated space to help you trade the burden of perfection for an authentic and manageable life. Contact me to schedule your first appointment.
36 Years Experience
Online in Thousand Oaks, CA California (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Kim Gibson
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPCC, ATR
Many of my clients experience perfectionism secondary to ADHD or anxiety. I enjoy helping clients identify this pattern and explore what is behind it and if its time to change it.
25 Years Experience
In-Person Near Thousand Oaks, CA
Online in Thousand Oaks, CA California
Perfectionism
Danielle Esses
Psychologist, PsyD
Perfectionism can look like high standards on the surface, but often comes with anxiety, self-criticism, and difficulty feeling satisfied or at ease. Therapy helps you understand the function of these patterns and develop a more flexible, sustainable way of approaching achievement and self-worth.
8 Years Experience
In-Person Near Thousand Oaks, CA
Online in Thousand Oaks, CA California
Perfectionism
G. Roman Gupta, LCSW
Therapist, LCSW
I have been practicing for almost 20 years and I have a strength-based, trauma-informed, culturally aware, LGBTQ+ affirmative, sex positive, kink positive, poly affirming, feminist perspective. I have trained and practiced in a variety of treatment methods that offer us a variety of ways to meet your goals whether as an individual, couple, or family.
18 Years Experience
In-Person Near Thousand Oaks, CA
Online in Thousand Oaks, CA California
Perfectionism
Mia Turner
Therapist, MA, RYT, ASDCS, LMFT, NPT-C, CMNCS, CMIP
Perfectionism is often less about striving for excellence and more about seeking safety, belonging, predictability, acceptance, or protection. It can develop in response to trauma, marginalization, giftedness, neurodivergence, family expectations, racism, ableism, cultural pressures, high-achievement environments, or experiences where mistakes felt costly and being "good enough" never quite felt good enough.
What is often labeled as perfectionism may also reflect a nervous system that learned to stay vigilant, perform, overprepare, overachieve, self-monitor, mask, or anticipate problems in order to avoid criticism, rejection, disappointment, conflict, shame, or harm. For many people, perfectionism becomes intertwined with identity, self-worth, productivity, competence, and the belief that value must be earned rather than inherently possessed. It may show up as chronic self-criticism, difficulty resting, procrastination, overthinking, people-pleasing, hyper-independence, fear of failure, fear of success, difficulty making decisions, or feeling as though there is always more that should be done.
This work explores the protective role perfectionism has played throughout your life while examining the ways it may be impacting relationships, wellbeing, creativity, joy, authenticity, and connection with yourself. Particular attention is given to the influence of family systems, culture, gender, neurodivergence, trauma, and the internalized narratives that shape how you relate to achievement, mistakes, success, failure, worthiness, and belonging.
My approach is grounded in the belief that perfectionism is often an adaptive survival strategy rather than a personal flaw. Rather than attempting to simply eliminate perfectionistic tendencies, we become curious about what those parts are protecting, what they fear might happen if they loosened their grip, and what needs may exist beneath the pressure to perform. Using EMDR, somatic therapy, mindfulness, polyvagal-informed practices, parts work, neuropsychotherapy, expressive arts, attachment-focused approaches, and liberation-oriented healing, therapy supports developing a more compassionate relationship with the parts of yourself that learned to equate achievement with safety.
Attention is also given to the ways perfectionism lives in the body and nervous system. This may include chronic tension, difficulty slowing down, overactivation, self-monitoring, exhaustion, difficulty experiencing satisfaction, or feeling unable to rest without guilt. Through greater awareness of sensation, emotion, nervous system states, and embodied experience, space is created for increased flexibility, self-trust, self-compassion, and choice.
The goal is not to stop caring, striving, creating, achieving, or growing. It is to cultivate a relationship with yourself that is not dependent upon performance, productivity, approval, or getting everything right. Often, the work involves reclaiming authenticity, playfulness, creativity, rest, joy, pace, and the internal permission to be fully human rather than a constant self-improvement project.
10 Years Experience
Online in Thousand Oaks, CA California (Online Only)
Perfectionism therapists in Thousand Oaks, California Statistics
Perfectionism therapists in Thousand Oaks, California average 13 years of experience and charge around $203 per session. 100% offer online sessions. The top treatment approaches are Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) (73%), Somatic Therapy (50%), and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) (48%).
Average years in practice
13 Years Experience
Average cost per session
$203
Accept insurance
45%
Offer sliding scale
43%
Gender ID
| 71% |
Female |
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| 15% |
Male |
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| 7% |
Non-Binary |
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| 7% |
Gender Fluid |
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Session Type
| 55% |
In Person and Online |
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| 45% |
Online Only |
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Top Treatment Approaches
| 73% | Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) |
| 50% | Somatic Therapy |
| 48% | Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) |
| 45% | Psychodynamic Therapy |
| 40% | Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) |
| 40% | Person-Centered Therapy (Rogerian) |
| 40% | Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) |
Ages Served
| 100% | Adult |
| 85% | Young Adult |
| 58% | Senior |
| 45% | Teen |
| 18% | Children |
Client Focus
| 68% | Women |
| 53% | LGBTQ+ |
| 38% | Hispanic / Latino |
| 35% | Asian |
| 35% | Persons with Disabilities |