Lance specializes in relationship and marriage counseling, helping couples navigate challenges with empathy and practical strategies. Using techniques like Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), he fosters improved communication, emotional connection, and conflict resolution. Lance creates a supportive space for couples to rebuild trust, deepen their bond, and find lasting solutions together.
Are you feeling down or stuck in your relationship or marriage? Perhaps you are overwhelmed and not even sure what is going on. I get it. I have been in such relationships, and even in a bad marriage. There may be abuse going on, though there does not need to be to seek out support. I offer a complimentary session so we can talk a little bit about what is going on and if counseling with me can help you. Life is too short to not resolve whatever it is that is bringing you down and causing you stress and unhappiness. I hope you will reach out and schedule a complimentary session. Let's find out how I can help you.
Are you tired of fighting with your partner and frustrated with not getting your needs met?
These Often Leads To:
Infidelity – one of the partners being sexual outside the relationship
Financial Issues – couples with trouble communicating often don’t talk about money
Sexual Difficulties – struggling to connect sexually or getting your sexual needs met.
Intimacy Issues – Not feeling emotionally connected with your partner
Relationship issues happen because your needs or the needs of the other person are not getting met.
The key to resolving relationship issues starts with both of you getting your needs met.
I help clients do this in 4 steps:
1. Get familiar with your emotions, for example, happiness, sadness, anger and fear.
Your emotions are information that tell you how you’re doing and whether or not your needs are being met.
2. Get familiar with your needs. What is it you’re needing? Is it more communication? Integrity? Consideration? Support? Etc.
3. Ask for what you want. Once you know what you need, ask for what you want. Be as specific as possible. Your partner can’t read your mind so it’s often helpful if you’re direct about what you want.
4. Connect more deeply with your partner. Once you get clear on your feelings and needs, it becomes much easier to empathize and understand your partners feelings and needs more and more.
You can then ask them how you can help them meet their needs, and support them.
Following these 4 steps allows partners in a relationship to come back together in connection and understanding.
When we see that we both have feelings and needs, and how we can help each other meet our needs, we can move through conflict and come back into healthy relationship with each other.
I offer couples counseling for married and non-married couples alike to help repair, restore, and/or build a more adaptive relationship. I also work with individual relationship concerns as we work to understand some of the patterns that create distress when relating with others. For example, do you find yourself enduring the same pattern of conflict, fear of rejection, and consistent breakups in your relationships with partners? We can work to understand this pattern. I also work with sexual concerns.
Counseling is the most effective way of dealing with past traumas, changing negative thought patterns, creating healthier relationships and increasing productivity. I will help you identify and overcome your current difficulties until you find healing and hope. Schedule your free consultation today.
Do you feel like your relationship is at a standstill? Are you and your partner stuck in the same argument loop every night? Do you feel like you and your partner are drifting away? Do you desire more intimacy between you and your partner?
All things can be improved, changed and bettered, with just a little support, no matter how big or small. With couples therapy, you’ll learn how to communicate your feelings and needs, and get what you want out of your relationship.
Some issues that bring couples to therapy are:
Addiction/Partner Addiction Support
Balance (Work/Life/Family)
Blended Families
Chronic Illness
Divorce
Extended Family
Infidelity/Cheating
Intimacy
Mental Illness
Pre-Marital/Readiness
Pornography
Sex
In my couple’s therapy sessions, I help people develop the necessary skills needed to maintain sustaining love.
If any of the above relate to your and your partner in your relationship, contact me today for a free consultation. I would love to speak about how I may be able to help reconnect and rekindle your love for one another.
I work with couples through attachment theory and the Gottman Method. The work is to look at the strengths of the couple, explore the areas where couples get stuck, increase healthy communication and reflective listening and give couples tools to navigate relationships.
Creating and maintaining healthy relationships requires courage, self-awareness and insight. Often we need to understand and heal the wounds of our past in order to be successful in our present. I have nearly 20 years of experience helping couples facilitate meaningful conversation, learn to draw healthy boundaries, strengthen healthy connection and reduce harmful interactions. In couples therapy, we can develop effective communication tools and skills, explore the issues that keep you and your partner feeling stuck, unseen, resentful or distant. We can facilitate openness, gain clarity and understanding of you, your partner and your relationship.
Licensed Professional Counselor, Licensed Professional Counselors
While much of the counseling world usually focuses on helping individuals, Relationship and Family Counseling focuses on helping the relationships of families and Relationship, and the individuals within those relationships. Also known as couple’s counseling or relationship counseling, it can assist you in various ways, including your:
– Communication
– Sense of belonging
– Intimacy and sex
– Cooperation
Why Relationship Counseling?
As you are reading this page, you very likely have Relationship counseling questions but are unsure if it is right for you. While counseling can help any couple improve their relationship, there are ten signs that a couple should seriously consider counseling:
2 Years Experience
