Codependency therapists in Lexington, Kentucky KY
Codependency
Mr. Dan Pugel
Licensed Professional Counselor, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor
Codependency is a well worn "buzz word" meaning when one person takes on some of the unhealthy characteristics of the unhealthy person they are in relationship with. One may have a sense of over-responsibility and the other person's problems become your problem. Self worth becomes dependent on the actions and attitudes of others and based on the approval of others.
There's often a sense of needing to solve the other persons problems, to give more in order to be loved. Symptoms of codependency may include: an intense fear of rejection, the need to control or the perception of being controlled.
Boundaries are designed to, define one self in, and live out healthier relationship. It is difficult to commit to what you will accept and what you will not accept when in a codependent relationship. You may waver on what you will do and not do, say and not say. Responsibility is one of the most freeing concepts in relationship and also can be one of the most distorted and confusing aspects between two people. Responsibility is a reciprocating aspect of boundaries and among other concepts allows for a healthy interdependence between two people (not independence nor dependence).
Codependency can stem from early experiences learned in relationship. Sometimes this learning is ingrained and requires some deeper healing work. It is possible to move past the pain, heal and design life around healthy boundaries.
27 Years Experience
Codependency
Abby Cobey
Psychologist, PsyD
I get asked a lot about codependency. It's a tricky concept and behavior pattern that is so easy to fall into particularly if we have had substance abuse or really any type of abuse in our relationship history. It's about seeking to control without knowing that's what we're doing. We will work on making choices that are consistent with your values so that you end up in meaningful relationships in which you be around the people in your life without compromising yourself.
13 Years Experience
Codependency
Charles R. Davenport, Psy.D., LLC.
Psychologist, Licensed Psychologist
Codependency is a popular term these days. It can be subtle or much more overt. Frequently seen with other problematic relationship problems, substance abuse, depression and anxiety. Many times this is seen passed through families. We are not sure if it is a nature or nurture thing. Therapy can be a helpful part of the puzzle. Treatment tends to take longer with this stuff.
19 Years Experience
Codependency
Alan Brandis, Ph.D.
Psychologist, Ph.D., Licensed Psychologist
The concept of Co-Dependency was developed as a way of explaining how family members of alcoholics, especially their spouses, became emotionally ill apparently as a result of living with an alcoholic for years.
"Co" is a prefix that means "like" or "with" - the family member becomes sick like and with "the dependent" (the person dependent on a chemical). There are several common problems that often go along with life with an alcoholic or drug abuser, including their unpredictable moods, selfish and irresponsible behavior, angry outbursts which may include verbal or physical abuse, broken promises and commitments, embarrassing public behavior, financial irresponsibility, legal problems, and inability to return love or affection. However, most chemically dependent people have periods when they function well, and this generates the hope that they will stay well, quit or control their chemical use, and become responsible and loving for good.
34 Years Experience
Codependency
Bold Expressions Therapy
Psychologist, Psy.D.
Codependency is a circular pattern that emerge in relationships when one person needs another person to need them in order to keep the relationship going. This is an unhealthy pattern and often leads to unhappiness and toxic patterns in relationships. I approach these relationships from a place of empathy and concern for all parties involved. It is my goal to illuminate these patterns and teach individuals to set healthy boundaries that will allow them to break free of codependent relationships and live healthier and happier lives with friends and family.
4 Years Experience