Relationship and Marriage Counseling therapists in Keene, New Hampshire NH
Relationship and Marriage Counseling
Alan Brandis, Ph.D.
Psychologist, Ph.D., Licensed Psychologist
Having worked with hundreds of couples over the last 40 years, I have developed a set of beliefs or ideas which, if adopted, help to ensure that a relationship will last. Here is a list of them.
1) Arguing helps nothing, so don't do it.
I like to say that I never met the person who started the fight! When two people argue, each of them believes that he or she is merely reacting to something the other one did or said. Neither one believes that they started the fight; but it started somehow, didn't it? 2) It is better to be close than it is to be “right.”
Blaming each other for the argument is counterproductive. So is trying to change the other person's opinion. Most couples who argue, argue about whose perception is "correct," whose way of doing something is the "right" way, and so on. The only possible outcome of these arguments is that someone will be "right" and someone will be "wrong." Do you know anyone who enjoys being wrong? Most people will fight tooth and nail to avoid being "wrong." 3) Commitment is the Foundation of the Therapy.Commitment implies that you are in the relationship "come Hell or high water," barring certain behaviors your partner might do such as having an affair (although I have seen a number of relationships recover from those, too).
34 Years Experience
Relationship and Marriage Counseling
Sarita R. Schapiro, Ph.D., P.A.
Psychologist, Florida Licensed Psychologist PY4914, APIT Certified
Using Gottman and family systems methods, identify relationship goals, foster effective communication skills, and provide supportive counseling
42 Years Experience
Relationship and Marriage Counseling
Dr. Kristyn Neckles
Psychologist, Psy.D.
I specialize in providing couples therapy services that are designed to heal, nurture, and revitalize your relationship. Whether you are experiencing conflicts, struggling with trust issues, or simply looking to enhance your emotional connection, as an experienced therapist, I am here to guide you on this journey of growth and rediscovery. My approach to working with those in a partnership emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and personal growth. Just like the metaphor of putting on your own oxygen mask first, I highlight the significance of taking care of oneself before attending to others. This approach acknowledges that individuals have control over themselves and their actions, and it encourages one to reflect on their emotional state and how they contribute to the relationship.
10 Years Experience
Relationship and Marriage Counseling
Dr. Brian Weir
Psychologist, PsyD
My work with couples often focuses on finding the underlying conflict and/or unmet needs that can end up festering and eroding the foundation of the relationship. I help each partner discover these needs and communicate in more accurate and productive ways. This can help each other genuinely want to understand and meet each other's needs, instead of deny/defend patterns that may exist. In cases of various forms of infidelity, after the direction and goal of therapy is explored, we may examine conditions that led to the behavior and learn from them to build a stronger and healthy relationship. Moreover, this process can help toward establishing long term forgiveness and trust. It can be surprising what is possible to overcome and how much better things can be.
21 Years Experience
Relationship and Marriage Counseling
Norma J. Perez
Psychologist, PhD
I have been married over 40 years so I can tell you, relationships are hard but so worth it. I love working with couples to help them realize what really is normal and messy and how to navigate normal and messy. I will listen to you and your partner describe what each of you see as an issue, then hear your examples and teach each of you how you can approach the situation differently to give you a better outcome. Couples come in thinking they are going to tell me everything that is wrong with their partner and to fix them. I help individuals realize how their own actions can change the outcome. Once everyone focuses on doing their own work, then they see the desired outcome in the relationship. It sounds uncomfortable, but it's really a lot of fun and we laugh a lot.
20 Years Experience