Anger Management therapists in Abercarn, Wales Wales, United Kingdom GB
Anger Management
Miranda Seymour-Smith
Registered Psychotherapist, UKCP registered psychoanalytic psychotherapist
Anger management is a frequent issue which comes up in my practice and I have helped many people successfully address this worrying issue
15 Years Experience
Anger Management
Sara Aicart-Pendlebury
Art Therapist, Human Givens Practitioner (HG.Dip.P), Member of Human Givens Institute, IFS therapist Levels 1&2, Narm Practitioner
Road rage, plane rage, even art-gallery rage (when an exhibition is too crowded) are becoming all too familiar terms and are just some of the forms that over-the-top anger can take in modern-day life. Excessive anger can have an obvious trigger or else seem to occur out of the blue; and it can ruin lives, as work and relationships suffer. Excessive anger always results from stress and essential emotional needs not being met. That’s why the human givens approach, which focuses on helping people in distress find healthy ways to meet their emotional needs, is so successful.
The ability to get angry is natural. It is part of the ancient ‘fight or flight’ survival mechanism, which evolved to help our long-distant ancestors survive when, faced with attack from wild animals or invading tribes, they either had to stand up for themselves or flee. The pulse races, adrenalin surges, breath gets fast and shallow, blood surges into the muscles of the legs and arms and the body gets flooded with stress hormones, all so that we are ready to take action if we decide to act aggressively to ward off something or someone. Once action has been taken, the feelings subside.
But, today, there are far fewer occasions when threat is as real and physical as just described. If we get frustrated or feel angry with the boss, we may have to keep those feelings to ourselves, which leaves them circulating with no obvious way of being discharged. Or we may become more and more wound up by little annoyances that build up over the day until we reach a point when, over something seemingly trifling, we snap. There are many other circumstances that can lead us to have lower tolerance for irritations – for instance, overtiredness, feeling ill or hungry, hormonal changes, chronic pain or addictive cravings.
Sometimes people have a tendency towards anger because of chronic low self-esteem, which usually stems from abuse or neglect during childhood. As adults, they may never feel good or worthy enough and tend to lash out if they perceive themselves as slighted in any way. Mild brain damage can cause a loss of impulse control and aggression. And people on the autistic spectrum are often more prone to angry outbursts because of their difficulties and frustrations in trying to relate to other people and make sense of the social world.
More often than is realised, aggression is triggered by fear and sometimes it is a long-forgotten fear. For instance, a man who, as a child, was locked in a tiny dark space under the stairs as a punishment, may lash out, seemingly inexplicably, at his wife when she wants him to check the space under their stairs for damp. This is because an ‘alarm system’ in our brain, called the amygdala, accesses our emotional memories and, on the basis of previous experience, alerts us to anything that may represent a risk. Because the stair cupboard experience was so traumatic and frightening, it stays ‘live’, causing the man to experience terror all over again, usually without knowing why. Sometimes, too, repeated and seemingly inexplicable anger outbursts stem from ‘pattern matching’ to a shocking situation in childhood, when anger was felt but, at the time, suppressed.
Fortunately, people can be helped to deal with their anger, whatever its cause. Human givens practitioners will show people how to calm themselves down quickly (this is essential, as high emotional arousal makes us stupid, stopping us from listening to reason); encourage them to take exercise (doing enjoyable physical activity is a great way to discharge accumulated stress); and help them to examine and change their self-talk – having hostile thoughts only harms us – and to look at situations from other people’s perspectives as well as their own.
Simple, effective techniques can be used to resolve anger outbursts arising from incidents in the past, so that these cease to occur in the future.
Finally, human givens practitioners will help people explore what needs are not being met in their lives, which may be fuelling anger – for instance, a lack of a sense of achievement or status or control or connection with others may cause feelings of inferiority and hostility. Experiencing uncontrollable or excessive anger always means that something is not working well in a person’s life. No one is naturally an ‘angry’ person; they are just, temporarily, overcome by anger and can learn how to cease to be its victim.
15 Years Experience
Anger Management
Shareen Birges
Registered Social Worker, BASS, GDYMH, MSW
I believe in emotional management as opposed to anger management. Its important to understand that anger is often linked to other emotions & can be triggered by these linked emotions, as well as value based conflicts. I have extensive experience in working with people in this area.
16 Years Experience
Anger Management
Jerry Ramsden
Counsellor/Therapist, (Dip.Couns)
I'm experienced in working with clients who struggle with their anger and find it difficult to regulate their emotions.
Whether the client is just irritated or absolutely raging, even been diagnosed with 'chronic anger disorder', I'm able to quickly treat the presenting issues whilst identifying the root cause.
20 Years Experience
Anger Management
Mario Uosis-Martin
Counsellor/Therapist, PGDip Advanced Psychotherapy
Are you looking for a warm, understanding and empathic therapist? Someone who is open and non-judgmental? I’d say you came to the right place. I can help you with various difficulties, whether anxiety, stress, depression, relationship difficulties or childhood trauma; as an example of a few areas my work focuses on. So, get in touch with me and let’s talk.
6 Years Experience