Perfectionism therapists in Coachella, CA
Browse Perfectionism therapists in Coachella, California. Compare credentials, specialties and therapeutic approach. Contact a therapist to learn more.
Melissa Berschauer
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
Holding yourself to impossible standards usually results in a lot of anxiety and procrastination rather than actual satisfaction. Feeling burned out is sometimes the next level of perfectionism. I help you untangle your worth from your productivity, allowing you to breathe a little easier without losing your drive.
14 Years Experience
Online in Coachella, CA (Online Only)
Dr. Susie King
Psychologist, Psy.D.
Help in letting go of the perfectionism that hold you back and gets in the way of getting things done.
15 Years Experience
Online in Coachella, CA (Online Only)
Mia Turner
Therapist, MA, RYT, ASDCS, LMFT, NPT-C, CMNCS, CMIP
Perfectionism is often less about striving for excellence and more about seeking safety, belonging, predictability, acceptance, or protection. It can develop in response to trauma, marginalization, giftedness, neurodivergence, family expectations, racism, ableism, cultural pressures, high-achievement environments, or experiences where mistakes felt costly and being "good enough" never quite felt good enough.
What is often labeled as perfectionism may also reflect a nervous system that learned to stay vigilant, perform, overprepare, overachieve, self-monitor, mask, or anticipate problems in order to avoid criticism, rejection, disappointment, conflict, shame, or harm. For many people, perfectionism becomes intertwined with identity, self-worth, productivity, competence, and the belief that value must be earned rather than inherently possessed. It may show up as chronic self-criticism, difficulty resting, procrastination, overthinking, people-pleasing, hyper-independence, fear of failure, fear of success, difficulty making decisions, or feeling as though there is always more that should be done.
This work explores the protective role perfectionism has played throughout your life while examining the ways it may be impacting relationships, wellbeing, creativity, joy, authenticity, and connection with yourself. Particular attention is given to the influence of family systems, culture, gender, neurodivergence, trauma, and the internalized narratives that shape how you relate to achievement, mistakes, success, failure, worthiness, and belonging.
My approach is grounded in the belief that perfectionism is often an adaptive survival strategy rather than a personal flaw. Rather than attempting to simply eliminate perfectionistic tendencies, we become curious about what those parts are protecting, what they fear might happen if they loosened their grip, and what needs may exist beneath the pressure to perform. Using EMDR, somatic therapy, mindfulness, polyvagal-informed practices, parts work, neuropsychotherapy, expressive arts, attachment-focused approaches, and liberation-oriented healing, therapy supports developing a more compassionate relationship with the parts of yourself that learned to equate achievement with safety.
Attention is also given to the ways perfectionism lives in the body and nervous system. This may include chronic tension, difficulty slowing down, overactivation, self-monitoring, exhaustion, difficulty experiencing satisfaction, or feeling unable to rest without guilt. Through greater awareness of sensation, emotion, nervous system states, and embodied experience, space is created for increased flexibility, self-trust, self-compassion, and choice.
The goal is not to stop caring, striving, creating, achieving, or growing. It is to cultivate a relationship with yourself that is not dependent upon performance, productivity, approval, or getting everything right. Often, the work involves reclaiming authenticity, playfulness, creativity, rest, joy, pace, and the internal permission to be fully human rather than a constant self-improvement project.
10 Years Experience
Online in Coachella, CA (Online Only)
Hayden Dover
Marriage and Family Therapist, MFT, CST
Perfectionism often looks like high standards, but underneath it there may be anxiety, self-pressure, fear of mistakes, shame, or difficulty trusting yourself. I work with perfectionism as a pattern that can limit freedom, pleasure, creativity, and connection. Our work focuses on understanding what perfectionism is protecting, how it lives in the body and relationships, and how to build more flexibility, self-acceptance, and alignment with your values.
22 Years Experience
Online in Coachella, CA
G. Roman Gupta, LCSW
Therapist, LCSW
I have been practicing for almost 20 years and I have a strength-based, trauma-informed, culturally aware, LGBTQ+ affirmative, sex positive, kink positive, poly affirming, feminist perspective. I have trained and practiced in a variety of treatment methods that offer us a variety of ways to meet your goals whether as an individual, couple, or family.
18 Years Experience
Online in Coachella, CA
Perfectionism therapists in Coachella, CA Statistics
Perfectionism therapists in Coachella, CA average 14 years of experience and charge around $213 per session. 100% offer online sessions. The top treatment approaches are Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) (74%), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) (44%), and Somatic Therapy (42%).
Average years in practice
14 Years Experience
Average cost per session
$213
Accept insurance
42%
Offer sliding scale
36%
Gender ID
| 69% |
Female |
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| 23% |
Male |
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| 4% |
Gender Fluid |
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| 4% |
Non-Binary |
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Session Type
| 56% |
In Person and Online |
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| 44% |
Online Only |
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Top Treatment Approaches
| 74% | Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) |
| 44% | Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) |
| 42% | Somatic Therapy |
| 40% | Psychodynamic Therapy |
| 36% | Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) |
| 34% | Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT) |
| 32% | Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) |
Ages Served
| 100% | Adult |
| 70% | Young Adult |
| 62% | Senior |
| 40% | Teen |
| 24% | Children |
Client Focus
| 68% | Women |
| 50% | LGBTQ+ |
| 36% | Asian |
| 36% | Men |
| 32% | Christian |