Perfectionism therapists in Mountain View, CA
Browse Perfectionism therapists in Mountain View, California. Compare credentials, specialties and therapeutic approach. Contact a therapist to learn more.
Romina Schnelle
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
Perfectionism can leave you feeling like nothing you do is ever good enough, despite your accomplishments. It often fuels anxiety, self-criticism, procrastination, burnout, and a constant fear of making mistakes or disappointing others. Together, we'll explore the underlying beliefs and experiences that contribute to these patterns while developing healthier ways to approach success, setbacks, and self-worth. My goal is to help you build greater self-compassion, flexibility, and confidence so you can pursue your goals without being held back by perfectionism.
6 Years Experience
Online in Mountain View, CA (Online Only)
J. Rosalyn Diehl
Licensed Mental Health Counselor, MA, LMHC, LPPC, LPC
Perfectionism can leave you feeling stuck in a cycle of overthinking, self-doubt, and relentless pressure to meet impossible standards. You may struggle with fear of failure, difficulty relaxing, or feeling like your worth is tied to achievement. I help women identify the patterns that fuel perfectionism, build self-compassion, and develop healthier, more balanced ways of approaching life and relationships.
12 Years Experience
Online in Mountain View, CA (Online Only)
Advent Christian Counseling
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT (R.N.-retired)
The compulsion to get everything right is both exhausting and spiritually corrosive. Perfectionism frequently presents as high standards while quietly robbing you of joy, straining your relationships, and distorting your understanding of God's grace. Together we will examine its roots, challenge the falsehoods that sustain it, and help you come to rest in the truth that you are God's workmanship — not because you are perfect, but because you are His.
10 Years Experience
Online in Mountain View, CA (Online Only)
Elena Duong
Psychologist, Psy.D.
Perfectionism is not effective because it shifts attention from progress to flaw-fixing. Instead of helping people do better, it often causes delay, stress, and self-doubt, which make work and life harder rather than more successful.
12 Years Experience
Online in Mountain View, CA (Online Only)
Mia Turner
Therapist, MA, RYT, ASDCS, LMFT, NPT-C, CMNCS, CMIP
Perfectionism is often less about striving for excellence and more about seeking safety, belonging, predictability, acceptance, or protection. It can develop in response to trauma, marginalization, giftedness, neurodivergence, family expectations, racism, ableism, cultural pressures, high-achievement environments, or experiences where mistakes felt costly and being "good enough" never quite felt good enough.
What is often labeled as perfectionism may also reflect a nervous system that learned to stay vigilant, perform, overprepare, overachieve, self-monitor, mask, or anticipate problems in order to avoid criticism, rejection, disappointment, conflict, shame, or harm. For many people, perfectionism becomes intertwined with identity, self-worth, productivity, competence, and the belief that value must be earned rather than inherently possessed. It may show up as chronic self-criticism, difficulty resting, procrastination, overthinking, people-pleasing, hyper-independence, fear of failure, fear of success, difficulty making decisions, or feeling as though there is always more that should be done.
This work explores the protective role perfectionism has played throughout your life while examining the ways it may be impacting relationships, wellbeing, creativity, joy, authenticity, and connection with yourself. Particular attention is given to the influence of family systems, culture, gender, neurodivergence, trauma, and the internalized narratives that shape how you relate to achievement, mistakes, success, failure, worthiness, and belonging.
My approach is grounded in the belief that perfectionism is often an adaptive survival strategy rather than a personal flaw. Rather than attempting to simply eliminate perfectionistic tendencies, we become curious about what those parts are protecting, what they fear might happen if they loosened their grip, and what needs may exist beneath the pressure to perform. Using EMDR, somatic therapy, mindfulness, polyvagal-informed practices, parts work, neuropsychotherapy, expressive arts, attachment-focused approaches, and liberation-oriented healing, therapy supports developing a more compassionate relationship with the parts of yourself that learned to equate achievement with safety.
Attention is also given to the ways perfectionism lives in the body and nervous system. This may include chronic tension, difficulty slowing down, overactivation, self-monitoring, exhaustion, difficulty experiencing satisfaction, or feeling unable to rest without guilt. Through greater awareness of sensation, emotion, nervous system states, and embodied experience, space is created for increased flexibility, self-trust, self-compassion, and choice.
The goal is not to stop caring, striving, creating, achieving, or growing. It is to cultivate a relationship with yourself that is not dependent upon performance, productivity, approval, or getting everything right. Often, the work involves reclaiming authenticity, playfulness, creativity, rest, joy, pace, and the internal permission to be fully human rather than a constant self-improvement project.
10 Years Experience
Online in Mountain View, CA (Online Only)
Erin Powers
Counselor/Therapist, APCC 9590
I am a self-identified perfectionist, as many of my clients are. I utilize various modalities and offer guidance in navigating the challenges of perfectionism.
6 Years Experience
Online in Mountain View, CA (Online Only)
Abigail (Abi) Zarate Ramsay
Pre-Licensed Professional, Marriage and Family Therapist Trainee, Professional Clinical Counselor Trainee
I help clients struggling with perfectionism, self-criticism, and burnout learn to set kinder expectations, tolerate mistakes, and build a more flexible, values-based sense of success.
0 Years Experience
Online in Mountain View, CA (Online Only)
Sarah Jane Thomas
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
Perfectionism keeps you stuck in all-or-nothing thinking, where everything has to be perfect or it feels like a total failure. This mindset makes it really hard to exist in the grey area where life actually happens. We will explore where those rigid standards came from and practice getting comfortable with the messiness of being human instead of striving for unattainable perfection. Our work is about reminding you that you matter even when you are not producing, achieving, or grinding your way through the day.
11 Years Experience
Online in Mountain View, CA (Online Only)
Dr. Jag Soni
Psychologist, Ph.D., HSPP, PCC, SPHR, SHRM-SCP
While the drive for excellence is often rewarded, the weight of Perfectionism and "never being enough" leads to burnout and paralysis. Drawing on 35 years of clinical experience, I help you shift from self-criticism to a resilient, high-functioning sense of self. We work to uncover the root of your perfectionistic standards and foster the internal changes needed to achieve your goals without sacrificing your mental well-being. In a private Telehealth setting, I provide a sophisticated space to help you trade the burden of perfection for an authentic and manageable life. Contact me to schedule your first appointment.
36 Years Experience
Online in Mountain View, CA (Online Only)
Heidi Hartston
Psychologist, PhD
Therapy can help you navigate the traps related to perfectionism, including procrastination, self-criticism, fear of failure, imposter syndrome, overthinking and fear of falling short. We can work to quiet the inner critic, address black and white thinking in evaluating yourself and your work, and find purpose driven motivation (rather than fear driven). Shifting your inner conversation can result in great relief and can unlock your creativity, reinvigorate your interest and have you feeling proud of your work and your skillset. I combine insightful, caring depth work with evidence based techniques that effectively free you from self-sabotaging patterns, and help you to build the balanced, happy life you deserve.
35 Years Experience
Online in Mountain View, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism therapists in Mountain View, CA Statistics
Perfectionism therapists in Mountain View, CA average 13 years of experience and charge around $215 per session. 100% offer online sessions. The top treatment approaches are Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) (67%), Somatic Therapy (45%), and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) (43%).
Average years in practice
13 Years Experience
Average cost per session
$215
Accept insurance
41%
Offer sliding scale
41%
Gender ID
| 71% |
Female |
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| 21% |
Male |
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| 4% |
Gender Fluid |
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| 4% |
Non-Binary |
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Session Type
| 57% |
In Person and Online |
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| 43% |
Online Only |
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Top Treatment Approaches
| 67% | Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) |
| 45% | Somatic Therapy |
| 43% | Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) |
| 39% | Psychodynamic Therapy |
| 37% | Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) |
| 33% | Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) |
| 31% | Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT) |
Ages Served
| 100% | Adult |
| 69% | Young Adult |
| 61% | Senior |
| 41% | Teen |
| 24% | Children |
Client Focus
| 69% | Women |
| 53% | LGBTQ+ |
| 37% | Asian |
| 35% | Hispanic / Latino |
| 33% | Men |