As a dedicated therapist, I specialize in helping couples build and strengthen their relationships. Whether it’s premarital counseling, communication challenges, or navigating conflicts, I provide evidence-based strategies to enhance connection, foster understanding, and promote healthy dynamics. Together, we work towards creating a resilient and fulfilling partnership.
My specialty is in marriage and family therapy. I have been fortunate to be trained by some of the best professors and trainers in the field. I am trained in the Gottman Method including being a Bringing Baby Home educator, and 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work educator. Additionally, I have completed training in using Gottman Method in infidelity and PTSD. I have also completed certification training in Discernment Counseling through the Doherty Institute. I am trained in PREPARE/Enrich.
I work with couples throughout the entire relationship spectrum from premarital counseling, to established couples needing assistance, to parenting challenges and including divorce/uncoupling therapy if necessary. I am not marriage neutral and prefer to help couples create mutually satisfying relationships wherever possible. I have additional training and expertise in working with ADHD couples, understanding the unique issues commonly found in relationships where one or both partners has ADHD.
Revitalize Wellness Therapy offers relationship and marriage counseling in a variety of ways, including individual therapy focusing on relationships, as well as couples counseling. Specialties include relationships where one or both partners suffers from anxiety and depression.
I have helped many, many couples work through issues around communication, conflict resolution, infidelity, addictions, the staleness that comes with time, sexual struggles and other issues. The goal: to help each couple stay together with restoration and repair as well as happiness and contentment.
Dr. Kessler helps couples improve their communication, resolve conflict, and build stronger relationships. With over 25 years of experience working with couples, he uses a variety of evidence-based techniques, including cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), and Gottman therapy. He can help couples with a variety of concerns related to communication issues, sexuality and intimacy, extended families, parenting and blended families.
The most effective way to help couples is to create a safe and supportive space where they can feel comfortable talking about their challenges, focusing on improving communication and understanding. Therapy will help couples to identify and address the underlying issues in their relationship, and develop the skills they need to communicate more effectively and resolve conflict.
Relationships are special and take considerable work. It doesn't matter if you are seeking a therapist to help you early in your relationship before "stuff happens" or are trying to back up and address longer standing patterns, I can help you be a strong "Us". When working with relationships we are going to talk about ways to make you a team and help you improve the ways you talk with each other to increase your understanding. The Gottman's talk about "Masters" and "Disasters" - I can help you be the former.
Marriage/committed relationship is a wonderful thing... when it is working well. It is amazing to have someone who will always be there, supporting you, sharing life with you. Unfortunately, when things go south, it can be unbearable. When things start to decline, it is better to begin to address the problems. Rather than consistent conflict, we need to change the pattern so we can have those enjoyable times as well. If your relationship is moving in the wrong direction, let's make the changes now to spare the pain later.
If you're looking for a better way of relating, either through couples work or individually, I can help. If you and your spouse /partner are looking back and seeing a repeating cycle of negativity, I help with Emotionally Focused Counseling for couples (EFT-c). If there's been infidelity and I can help with Affair Recovery - a specific process prior to the start of couples or marriage counseling. If you are at the brink of your relationship, I can help them with discernment counseling. Discernment helps couples clarify if they want to go one of three directions: keep everything the same, amicably break up, or dedicating the next 6 months to working on the relationship through couples or marriage counseling. DIscernment really strives to just help that clarity.
If you are an individual who wants to do your relationship differently, but either are in between relationships, or have an unwilling spouse or partner, I help in the following ways:
1. Really understand the root cause of the conflict or growing apart in the relationship.
2. Possibly do trauma work around those root causes using EMDR, Guided meditation, and family of origin work.
3. Understand how to communicate what you understand about your partner's or spouse's experience that may be helpful in healing.
4. Invite your partner into couples counseling.
10 Years Experience
