Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) therapists in Oklahoma

I became a therapist because I understood, early on, what it felt like to keep moving when something underneath wasn't right. That experience shaped how I see people, not as problems to fix, but as individuals who adapted to what life asked of them. For over seven years, I've worked with people who are capable, driven, and often very good at holding things together, while quietly carrying something heavier beneath the surface. Burnout. Disconnection. A persistent sense that the life they've built doesn't quite fit who they are anymore. That's the work I care most about. Not just helping people feel better, but helping them understand themselves, the patterns, the adaptations, the survival strategies that made sense once and may be costing them now. I wrote The Secret Life of Silent Suffering because I wanted to name what so many people experience but rarely say out loud. That same thread runs through everything I do: therapy, training, speaking, and education for other clinicians. I believe healing is possible. Not as a return to who you were before, but as a gradual movement toward greater clarity, freedom, and alignment with who you actually are.  

You may understand your patterns and still find yourself repeating them. Perhaps anxiety keeps you on edge, you and your partner struggle to feel heard, or addiction is affecting someone you love. I help individuals, couples, and families understand what keeps them stuck and work toward meaningful change. I am Richard Turnham, LPC-S, LADC-S, with 17 years of counseling experience. My approach begins with getting to know you—your experiences, motivations, fears, strengths, and ways of coping. Together, we explore the roots of painful patterns and build practical ways to respond differently. I enjoy working with couples on communication, recurring conflict, trust, and emotional connection. My addiction experience includes helping people in recovery and supporting spouses, parents, and other family members affected by a loved one's substance use. I also work with anxiety, grief, trauma, depression, boundaries, and self-worth. My style is warm, honest, and collaborative. I want you to feel understood and supported while also having room to examine difficult truths and make changes. I am a Christian and welcome people of all faiths and no faith; spiritual perspectives are included according to your preferences. Please contact me with your available days and times, insurance or private-pay preference, and whether you prefer video or in-person sessions.