Online in
Multiple Canadian Provinces
Alberta, British Columbia, Manitoba, New Brunswick, Northwest Territories, Nova Scotia, Ontario, Saskatchewan, Yukon
(Online Only)
Do you feel emotionally exhausted from always putting everyone else first? Perhaps you've been in a relationship with a narcissistic partner, struggle to set healthy boundaries, or feel trapped in cycles of perfectionism and people pleasing. You may look like you're coping on the outside while feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or never quite "good enough" on the inside.
You don't have to continue carrying everything alone.
I specialize in helping adults recover from narcissistic abuse, emotional abuse, burnout, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and low self-worth. Together we'll work to understand the patterns that have kept you stuck, heal the wounds beneath them, and build healthier relationships with others and with yourself.
Many of my clients are caring, capable, high-functioning people who have spent years taking care of everyone else. They struggle with guilt when saying no, overthink conversations, question themselves after being gaslighted, or feel emotionally drained from unhealthy relationships. Therapy can help you reconnect with your confidence, trust your instincts, and create lasting change.
My approach is compassionate, collaborative, and practical. I integrate evidence-based therapies while tailoring each session to your unique experiences and goals. My focus is creating a safe, supportive space where you feel understood, not judged.
I can help with:
Narcissistic abuse recovery
Emotional abuse and toxic relationships
Gaslighting and relationship trauma
Burnout and chronic stress
People-pleasing
Perfectionism
Self-esteem and confidence
Boundaries
Anxiety
Women's issues
Life transitions
Relationship concerns
I provide secure virtual counselling for adults throughout Alberta, making therapy accessible wherever you live.
For those looking to make significant progress in a shorter period, I also offer extended Therapy Intensives. These longer sessions allow us to work deeply on long standing patterns and accelerate healing in a focused, supportive environment.
Reaching out for therapy takes courage. Whether you're beginning your healing journey or have tried therapy before, I'd be honoured to support you. Together, we can help you move beyond survival and create a life that feels calmer, more confident, and more authentic.
Client Focus
Session Format: Individual sessions.
Age Specialty: Adult
Demographic Expertise: Women clients.
Languages: English
Treatment Approach
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) One of the most widely used approaches, CBT helps people identify unhelpful thoughts and replace them with healthier patterns. It is effective for anxiety, depression, and many other concerns.
- Compassion-Focused Therapy (CFT) Builds skills in self-kindness and compassion toward others. It is especially helpful for people who struggle with shame or self-criticism.
- Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) Focuses on strengthening emotional bonds in couples or families. It helps people identify negative cycles and create more secure connections.
- Feminist Therapy Addresses how gender roles, power, and social inequality affect mental health. It empowers clients to challenge limiting beliefs and systems.
- Solution-Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT) Focuses on solutions and future goals rather than past problems. It is practical, short-term, and goal-driven.
Approach Description: I believe that symptoms such as anxiety, burnout, people pleasing, perfectionism, and difficulties in relationships are often responses to painful life experiences rather than personal flaws. Together, we'll work to understand not only what is happening in your life, but why these patterns developed and how they continue to affect you today.
My approach is warm, compassionate, and collaborative. I strive to create a space where you feel genuinely heard, understood, and accepted. Therapy isn't about judgment or telling you what to do it's about helping you gain insight, build confidence, and make choices that align with the life you want to live.
I draw from evidence based approaches including Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Solution Focused Therapy, mindfulness, and attachment-informed approaches. Rather than following a "one size fits all" method, I tailor therapy to your unique needs, personality, and goals.
In our work together, we may:
- Identify unhealthy relationship patterns and the beliefs that keep them going.
- Heal from narcissistic abuse, emotional neglect, or other difficult experiences.
- Develop healthier boundaries without overwhelming guilt.
- Reduce anxiety, self criticism, and perfectionism.
- Strengthen self worth and self compassion.
- Learn practical coping strategies for managing stress and difficult emotions.
- Build healthier relationships based on respect, authenticity, and confidence.
My goal is not simply to help you cope with your current challenges but to create lasting change so you can feel more confident, emotionally resilient, and connected to yourself.
Fees & Insurance
Fees
- Average Session Fee 200.00
- Accepts Insurance
- Please check with your insurance first to see if they cover Counsellors with the credential RPC-C and belong to the association CPCA. Receipts are provided for reimbursement from your insurance company.
Education & Credentials
Vanessa Fingland CCPCPR.cand, RPC-C
- Female
- License # #4356
- Licensed in Canada
- Practicing Since 2018
Education: Applied Psychology and Counselling through the Kelowna College of Professional Counselling. I’m also a member in good standing through the Canadian College of Professional Counsellors and Psychotherapists.
Vanessa Fingland Practice Details
Therapy Sessions
- Available Online for residents of Multiple Canadian Provinces Alberta, British Columbia, Manitoba, New Brunswick, Northwest Territories, Nova Scotia, Ontario, Saskatchewan, Yukon
- Online Therapy Details: I offer online therapy through Doxy video at this time.
Healing from emotional abuse, narcissistic abuse, childhood emotional neglect, burnout, anxiety, or difficult life experiences can feel overwhelming, but you don't have to go through it alone. My goal is to provide a compassionate, supportive, and non judgmental space where you feel truly heard, understood, and empowered to create lasting change.
I specialize in helping adults recover from narcissistic abuse, people-pleasing, perfectionism, childhood emotional neglect (CEN), burnout, family estrangement, relationship challenges, and low self-worth. As a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), I understand the importance of creating a gentle, thoughtful approach where you can explore difficult experiences at a pace that feels safe and comfortable.
Therapy is about more than simply talking through problems. Together, we'll gain insight into the patterns that are keeping you stuck while learning practical tools and strategies you can use between sessions to build confidence, strengthen boundaries, regulate emotions, and create healthier relationships.
Healing is possible, and you don't have to do it alone. I'd be honoured to support you on your journey toward greater peace, confidence, and emotional well being.