Online Codependency therapists in San Jose, California CA
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Codependency
Jennifer Pudlo Therapy & Wellness Consulting
Marriage and Family Therapist, MS, LMFT
Codependency often develops from a deep desire to care for others, yet it can leave you feeling emotionally exhausted, disconnected from your own needs, and unsure of who you are outside of your relationships. Together, we'll explore the experiences and patterns that have shaped these dynamics, helping you develop healthier boundaries, greater self-awareness, and stronger self-worth. My goal is to empower you to build relationships that are balanced, authentic, and rooted in mutual respect rather than guilt, fear, or the need to please others.
16 Years Experience
Online in San Jose, CA (Online Only)
Codependency
Mia Turner
Therapist, MA, RYT, ASDCS, LMFT, NPT-C, CMNCS, CMIP
Support for people who find themselves chronically over-functioning, caretaking, people-pleasing, shape-shifting, minimizing their own needs, anticipating the needs of others, or feeling responsible for the emotions, wellbeing, comfort, or stability of those around them. These patterns often develop as intelligent adaptations within family systems, trauma, cultural expectations, caregiving roles, marginalization, neurodivergence, or environments where safety, belonging, acceptance, or survival depended upon attunement to others.
This work explores the protective and prescribed roles these patterns may have played throughout your life and the ways they may have shaped identity, relationships, self-worth, boundaries, decision-making, and connection to your own needs, desires, emotions, and body. Particular attention is given to the influence of family dynamics, culture, gender socialization, attachment experiences, systemic oppression, internalized beliefs, and the messages you may have received about responsibility, worthiness, sacrifice, and care.
These patterns often live not only in thoughts and beliefs, but within the nervous system itself. They may show up as hypervigilance, chronic self-monitoring, difficulty asking for help, guilt when resting, discomfort receiving care, difficulty identifying needs, over-explaining, conflict avoidance, perfectionism, or a persistent sense that your value comes from what you do for others rather than who you are.
Through a trauma-informed, attachment-focused, and nervous-system-centered lens, space is created for greater self-trust, authenticity, reciprocity, discernment, and connection to your own inner experience. The goal is not to stop caring for others, but to cultivate a deeper relationship with yourself and with relationships where care can flow in multiple directions and where your needs, humanity, and wellbeing are nurtured by the same compassion and attention you so readily offer to everyone else.
10 Years Experience
Online in San Jose, CA (Online Only)
Codependency
San Francisco Counseling Collective
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPCC, LMFT, LCSW
At San Francisco Counseling Collective ("SFCC"), when working with codependency issues, we help clients identify relational patterns rooted in overresponsibility, difficulty with boundaries, and self-sacrifice. Together we strengthen self-awareness, autonomy, and relational balance.
9 Years Experience
Online in San Jose, CA
Codependency
Anna Yu Lee
Life Coach, PhD, MPH, MA
I rely on scientific articles on the construct of codependency, as well as reasoning with clients regarding their concepts on the subject.
4 Years Experience
Online in San Jose, CA
Codependency
California Center for Change
Psychologist, PhD
When someone you love is struggling with addiction, it is easy to lose yourself in the effort to help them. You may find yourself managing their crises, making excuses for their behavior, or putting your own needs so far aside that you can no longer remember what they were. Codependency is not a character flaw. It is a learned pattern and it can change. We work with partners, parents, and family members to help them set healthier boundaries, rebuild their own sense of self, and find more effective ways to support their loved one without sacrificing their own wellbeing in the process.
17 Years Experience
Online in San Jose, CA (Online Only)
Codependency
Danielle Walker
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
Together, we’ll explore how early attachment patterns shape current relationships, and work toward healthier boundaries, deeper self-worth, and more balanced connections.
7 Years Experience
Online in San Jose, CA (Online Only)
Codependency
David Gumpert
Psychologist, PsyD
Codependency is much more than spending a lot of time with someone else. It is being tangled up together like 2 sets of stringed lights and when one tries to pull away to do something independently, the other feels threatened, upset, abandoned, or a variety of other experiences. These are often rooted in a childhood where healthy boundaries were not modeled.
5 Years Experience
Online in San Jose, CA (Online Only)
Codependency
Mona Saba Valeriano
Licensed Clinical Social Worker, LCSW
Many clients who grew up with parental alcoholism, chronic rage, or narcissistic or borderline traits find themselves struggling with codependency in adult relationships. Early environments shaped by volatility or emotional unpredictability can create profound anxiety in children, threatening their sense of safety and attachment. In response, many learn to prioritize maintaining connection at any cost—often at the expense of their own needs, feelings, and boundaries.
Using an integrative approach that includes IFS parts work, ISTDP, and the somatic processing of EMDR and Brainspotting, I help clients rebuild their relationship with themselves—strengthening self-esteem, self-trust, and assertiveness. As clients deepen their internal security, their external relationships often shift as well. They become more able to show up authentically, tolerate conflict, and make choices aligned with their well-being rather than fear.
18 Years Experience
Online in San Jose, CA
Codependency
Daniel Slavin
Marriage and Family Therapist
I help clients understand patterns of over-giving, people-pleasing, and losing oneself in relationships. Our work focuses on strengthening boundaries, self-trust, and the ability to feel whole and grounded while staying meaningfully connected to others.
41 Years Experience
Online in San Jose, CA
Codependency
Susanna La
Psychologist, Ph.D.
Codependency is about relationships and how others can affect us in unhealthy ways. This can often look like being consumed by worries for how others are doing (family, friends, colleagues, etc.), people-pleasing, not expressing our own thoughts/feelings, and/or losing our sense of self. Our identity can be dependent on trying to “fix” other people’s problems and not focusing on our own. This may also be due to not recognizing our own emotions and/or problems. Therapy can help you improve the relationship you have with yourself and others.
13 Years Experience
Online in San Jose, CA (Online Only)
Codependency
Dr. Stéphanie Gamache, PhD
Hypnotherapist, PhD
Codependency often reflects early relational patterns in which emotional needs, boundaries, and self-worth became entangled with the needs of others. My work integrates psychoanalytic exploration and somatic awareness to understand how these patterns continue to shape adult relationships. Together, we work toward greater emotional autonomy, clarity, and the capacity to remain connected to oneself while being close to others.
7 Years Experience
Online in San Jose, CA (Online Only)
Codependency
Ryan James Carroll
Therapist, AMFT, APCC
We explore the patterns of over-giving, people-pleasing, and enmeshment that keep codependency alive. Through parts work and emotional processing, I support you in reclaiming independence while building healthier, more fulfilling connections.
3 Years Experience
Online in San Jose, CA
Codependency
Barbara Jaurequi Counseling
Marriage and Family Therapist, MS, LMFT, MAC
Don't waste your life obsessing about the problems of someone else. Don't spend all your energy trying to control the behaviors of anyone. Codependency is a real addiction that masquerades as love. Love shouldn't hurt...love isn't self-destructive, but codependency is. This is an area of psychotherapy that I know VERY well. I will help you put the focus back on your own life - where it belongs. Nothing is more maddening than trying to do the impossible again and again only to fail again and again. That's codependency in a nut shell. The good news is that you can recover from codependency and learn to be happy. I use Reality Therapy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy interventions to help you get your life back in order and I will teach you ways to change codependent patterns so you can make healthy, self-respecting choices for a better life.
17 Years Experience
Online in San Jose, CA
Codependency
Jeanette Abney
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT, SAP
I have many years of assisting individuals identify and reduce codependency issues.
27 Years Experience
Online in San Jose, CA
Codependency
Dr. Ingrid Solano
Psychologist, PhD
I provide couples/family/relational therapy for adolescents and adults both in the context of their relationships as well as through relationship-focused therapy for individuals who want to improve their interpersonal lives. Our relationships impact our thoughts, our feelings, and our behaviors. Relationships can be supportive, or they can weigh us down. How our relationships impact us can be obvious to us and everyone around us, or they can be insidious and live in the pit of our stomachs-- creeping up on us as feelings we can’t put the right words to. ...and anywhere in between… It can be difficult to understand and connect how these feelings slowly change what we do and who we are. ‘Relational’ therapy with more than one client aims to help improve interactions with each other, achieve relational goals, and cultivate value and meaning together.
15 Years Experience
Online in San Jose, CA
Codependency
Shayda Ewalt
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
Codependency often develops as a survival strategy, especially for those who grew up needing to prioritize others' emotions or safety over their own. You may struggle with boundaries, guilt, people-pleasing, or losing yourself in relationships. In therapy, we explore where these patterns began, strengthen your sense of self, and build capacity for relationships rooted in mutual respect rather than self-abandonment.
10 Years Experience
Online in San Jose, CA (Online Only)
Codependency
Russell Wilkie
Marriage and Family Therapist, MFT
Growing up in a less than nurturing environment can lead to all sorts of codependent traits, resulting in struggles with: self-esteem, self-care, boundaries, controlling others, taking care of your adult needs, perfectionism, and emotional flooding, to name a few. I am well versed in the 12-step program of codependents anonymous and the issues that are helped through attending meetings. I recommend the program, but it is not required to understand or heal the above issues.
34 Years Experience
Online in San Jose, CA (Online Only)
Codependency
G. Roman Gupta, LCSW
Therapist, LCSW
I have been practicing for almost 20 years and I have a strength-based, trauma-informed, culturally aware, LGBTQ+ affirmative, sex positive, kink positive, poly affirming, feminist perspective. I have trained and practiced in a variety of treatment methods that offer us a variety of ways to meet your goals whether as an individual, couple, or family.
18 Years Experience
Online in San Jose, CA
Codependency
Sandy Kong
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT 119380
Ever feel like your worth is attached to someone else's behavior? What they do or don't do for you? Or what you can or can't do for them? Codependency is when your sense of self-worth and identity starts to depend too much on someone else. Healthy relationships are mutually beneficial, providing love and support to both parties. Codependent relationships, on the other hand, are lopsided, casting one person in the role of constant caregiver. Over time, this dynamic can lead to emotional burnout, resentment, low self-esteem, and difficulty forming mutually healthy relationships. In a healthy relationship, both parties give and receive equally and are able to retain their own identity separate from the other person.
Codependency can start for many different reasons, often going back to your early life and the relationships you had growing up. For many people, codependency begins in childhood, particularly in environments marked by addiction, neglect, emotional volatility, or inconsistent caregiving. If you grew up in a home where one or both caregivers were emotionally unavailable, unpredictable, or overly dependent on you for support, you may have learned, consciously or not, that love and safety were earned by putting others’ needs before your own. Cultural messages, especially ones that tell you always to put others’ needs before your own, can also play a big role, especially for women. If you struggle with low self-esteem or have trouble setting boundaries, it can make you more likely to fall into codependent patterns in your relationships.
11 Years Experience
Online in San Jose, CA
Codependency
Julie Levin
Marriage and Family Therapist, MFT
When a family member struggles with addiction, mental illness, cognitive deficits or developmental differences, it’s normal to want to help. Codependency arises when we try to control the situation or the other person through care-taking. This happens a lot when the other person has impulse control or anger problems. We learn to overfunction and become hyper-responsible to compensate and make life a little more stable. Together we can look at new ways to find stability and ease so you don’t have to continue placating and people-pleasing. We can explore the boundaries that would give you true control - not trying to change the other person or get them to understand, but to decide what you will and won’t do, and then staying true to yourself.
27 Years Experience
Online in San Jose, CA (Online Only)
San Jose sits at the heart of Silicon Valley, where the pressures of the tech industry — performance anxiety, imposter syndrome, and the psychological cost of relentless innovation culture — drive significant demand for therapists experienced in high-achievement environments. The city's large South Asian and East Asian communities mean culturally competent therapists who understand the intersection of immigrant identity, family expectations, and mental health are particularly sought after. Santa Clara Valley Medical Center and Kaiser Permanente provide institutional mental health resources alongside a growing independent therapy community. Many South Bay therapists offer evening and weekend hours to accommodate the demanding work schedules common in the tech sector.
Codependency therapists in San Jose, California Statistics
Codependency therapists in San Jose, California average 14 years of experience and charge around $205 per session. 100% offer online sessions. The most commonly treated issues are Codependency (100%), Anxiety or Fears (88%), and Depression (81%).
Average years in practice
14 Years Experience
Average cost per session
$205
Gender ID
| 69% |
Female |
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| 25% |
Male |
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| 3% |
Non-Binary |
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| 3% |
Gender Fluid |
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Session Type
| 65% |
In Person and Online |
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| 35% |
Online Only |
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Top Specialties
| 100% | Codependency |
| 88% | Anxiety or Fears |
| 81% | Depression |
| 76% | Trauma and PTSD |
| 71% | Stress |
| 71% | Self Esteem |
| 61% | Loss or Grief |