Perfectionism therapists in East Palo Alto, CA
Browse Perfectionism therapists in East Palo Alto, California. Compare credentials, specialties and therapeutic approach. Contact a therapist to learn more.
Perfectionism
Romina Schnelle
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
Perfectionism can leave you feeling like nothing you do is ever good enough, despite your accomplishments. It often fuels anxiety, self-criticism, procrastination, burnout, and a constant fear of making mistakes or disappointing others. Together, we'll explore the underlying beliefs and experiences that contribute to these patterns while developing healthier ways to approach success, setbacks, and self-worth. My goal is to help you build greater self-compassion, flexibility, and confidence so you can pursue your goals without being held back by perfectionism.
6 Years Experience
Online in East Palo Alto, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
J. Rosalyn Diehl
Licensed Mental Health Counselor, MA, LMHC, LPPC, LPC
Perfectionism can leave you feeling stuck in a cycle of overthinking, self-doubt, and relentless pressure to meet impossible standards. You may struggle with fear of failure, difficulty relaxing, or feeling like your worth is tied to achievement. I help women identify the patterns that fuel perfectionism, build self-compassion, and develop healthier, more balanced ways of approaching life and relationships.
12 Years Experience
Online in East Palo Alto, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Elena Duong
Psychologist, Psy.D.
Perfectionism is not effective because it shifts attention from progress to flaw-fixing. Instead of helping people do better, it often causes delay, stress, and self-doubt, which make work and life harder rather than more successful.
12 Years Experience
Online in East Palo Alto, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Advent Christian Counseling
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT (R.N.-retired)
The compulsion to get everything right is both exhausting and spiritually corrosive. Perfectionism frequently presents as high standards while quietly robbing you of joy, straining your relationships, and distorting your understanding of God's grace. Together we will examine its roots, challenge the falsehoods that sustain it, and help you come to rest in the truth that you are God's workmanship — not because you are perfect, but because you are His.
10 Years Experience
Online in East Palo Alto, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
David Sudyka
Marriage and Family Therapist, Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, MA
Perfectionism can create constant pressure to get everything right, often leading to stress, procrastination, or feeling like nothing is ever good enough. It can be hard to relax or feel satisfied with what you accomplish. In therapy we will work on understanding where these patterns come from and how to shift them into something more balanced. The goal is to help you feel more flexible, more self accepting, and less weighed down by expectations.
4 Years Experience
Online in East Palo Alto, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Mia Turner
Therapist, MA, RYT, ASDCS, LMFT, NPT-C, CMNCS, CMIP
Perfectionism is often less about striving for excellence and more about seeking safety, belonging, predictability, acceptance, or protection. It can develop in response to trauma, marginalization, giftedness, neurodivergence, family expectations, racism, ableism, cultural pressures, high-achievement environments, or experiences where mistakes felt costly and being "good enough" never quite felt good enough.
What is often labeled as perfectionism may also reflect a nervous system that learned to stay vigilant, perform, overprepare, overachieve, self-monitor, mask, or anticipate problems in order to avoid criticism, rejection, disappointment, conflict, shame, or harm. For many people, perfectionism becomes intertwined with identity, self-worth, productivity, competence, and the belief that value must be earned rather than inherently possessed. It may show up as chronic self-criticism, difficulty resting, procrastination, overthinking, people-pleasing, hyper-independence, fear of failure, fear of success, difficulty making decisions, or feeling as though there is always more that should be done.
This work explores the protective role perfectionism has played throughout your life while examining the ways it may be impacting relationships, wellbeing, creativity, joy, authenticity, and connection with yourself. Particular attention is given to the influence of family systems, culture, gender, neurodivergence, trauma, and the internalized narratives that shape how you relate to achievement, mistakes, success, failure, worthiness, and belonging.
My approach is grounded in the belief that perfectionism is often an adaptive survival strategy rather than a personal flaw. Rather than attempting to simply eliminate perfectionistic tendencies, we become curious about what those parts are protecting, what they fear might happen if they loosened their grip, and what needs may exist beneath the pressure to perform. Using EMDR, somatic therapy, mindfulness, polyvagal-informed practices, parts work, neuropsychotherapy, expressive arts, attachment-focused approaches, and liberation-oriented healing, therapy supports developing a more compassionate relationship with the parts of yourself that learned to equate achievement with safety.
Attention is also given to the ways perfectionism lives in the body and nervous system. This may include chronic tension, difficulty slowing down, overactivation, self-monitoring, exhaustion, difficulty experiencing satisfaction, or feeling unable to rest without guilt. Through greater awareness of sensation, emotion, nervous system states, and embodied experience, space is created for increased flexibility, self-trust, self-compassion, and choice.
The goal is not to stop caring, striving, creating, achieving, or growing. It is to cultivate a relationship with yourself that is not dependent upon performance, productivity, approval, or getting everything right. Often, the work involves reclaiming authenticity, playfulness, creativity, rest, joy, pace, and the internal permission to be fully human rather than a constant self-improvement project.
10 Years Experience
Online in East Palo Alto, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Erin Powers
Counselor/Therapist, APCC 9590
I am a self-identified perfectionist, as many of my clients are. I utilize various modalities and offer guidance in navigating the challenges of perfectionism.
6 Years Experience
Online in East Palo Alto, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Sarah Jane Thomas
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
Perfectionism keeps you stuck in all-or-nothing thinking, where everything has to be perfect or it feels like a total failure. This mindset makes it really hard to exist in the grey area where life actually happens. We will explore where those rigid standards came from and practice getting comfortable with the messiness of being human instead of striving for unattainable perfection. Our work is about reminding you that you matter even when you are not producing, achieving, or grinding your way through the day.
11 Years Experience
Online in East Palo Alto, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Abigail (Abi) Zarate Ramsay
Pre-Licensed Professional, Marriage and Family Therapist Trainee, Professional Clinical Counselor Trainee
I help clients struggling with perfectionism, self-criticism, and burnout learn to set kinder expectations, tolerate mistakes, and build a more flexible, values-based sense of success.
0 Years Experience
Online in East Palo Alto, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Dr. Jag Soni
Psychologist, Ph.D., HSPP, PCC, SPHR, SHRM-SCP
While the drive for excellence is often rewarded, the weight of Perfectionism and "never being enough" leads to burnout and paralysis. Drawing on 35 years of clinical experience, I help you shift from self-criticism to a resilient, high-functioning sense of self. We work to uncover the root of your perfectionistic standards and foster the internal changes needed to achieve your goals without sacrificing your mental well-being. In a private Telehealth setting, I provide a sophisticated space to help you trade the burden of perfection for an authentic and manageable life. Contact me to schedule your first appointment.
36 Years Experience
Online in East Palo Alto, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism therapists in East Palo Alto, CA Statistics
Perfectionism therapists in East Palo Alto, CA average 13 years of experience and charge around $227 per session. 100% offer online sessions. The top treatment approaches are Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) (70%), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) (46%), and Somatic Therapy (42%).
Average years in practice
13 Years Experience
Average cost per session
$227
Accept insurance
38%
Offer sliding scale
38%
Gender ID
| 71% |
Female |
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| 21% |
Male |
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| 4% |
Gender Fluid |
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| 4% |
Non-Binary |
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Session Type
| 56% |
In Person and Online |
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| 44% |
Online Only |
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Top Treatment Approaches
| 70% | Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) |
| 46% | Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) |
| 42% | Somatic Therapy |
| 38% | Psychodynamic Therapy |
| 36% | Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) |
| 32% | Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT) |
| 32% | Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) |
Ages Served
| 100% | Adult |
| 68% | Young Adult |
| 62% | Senior |
| 38% | Teen |
| 24% | Children |
Client Focus
| 70% | Women |
| 52% | LGBTQ+ |
| 36% | Asian |
| 34% | Hispanic / Latino |
| 34% | Men |