Many years ago I was in a very co-dependent marriage. That was a very painful period of my life. Co-dependent behaviors are often learned in families with alcoholism, addiction, dysfunctional families; families where feelings and needs are often not being communicated or met. If you are in a relationship or marriage where you don't feel seen or heard, where you feel small, not confident, where you don't feel you are being your real self, give yourself the gift of some counseling. Let me help you own your heart and voice. Let me help you find your confidence so you can live an authentic life and improve all your relationships. Your happiness matters! Sessions can be in-person in Boulder, Colorado, or by video from anywhere in the world. I am looking forward to supporting you.
Through the therapeutic process, I help family members diffuse intense emotions with their loved ones using mindfulness exercises. With practical communication skills and a plan for next steps, families and couples experience hope, knowing that things can change for the better.
I specialize in helping people strengthen their sense of self-worth, develop their identity, learn to set boundaries, and increase their capacity to tolerate uncomfortable emotions. Through this process you will learn who you are (independent of your relationship) and learn how to be ok, even if your loved one isn't ok.
Patterns of codependency develop for complex reasons (e.g. personality traits, childhood environments) and require a thorough multimodal approach to treatment. Codependency develops as a unconscious and valid protective response to relational dynamics. Overtime you may have started to recognize the harmful effects this tendency, that likely protected you during childhood, is having on you and your current relationships. Together we can explore the unconscious patterning that has led to this and work to implement healthy boundaries and behaviors. While doing this, we will hold space for the inevitable emotions that arise when setting new patterns into place. Overtime, my hope is that you will be able to integrate your compassion for others into an empowered self, meeting your own needs as well as others.
Codependency and compulsive care-taking are attachment disturbances. Happy to work with you on addressing the deeper roots of this and to do the deep work to repattern it.
Breaking free from the chains of codependency is a courageous journey towards reclaiming autonomy and building healthier relationships. I provide a compassionate space to untangle the intricate threads that bind unhealthy patterns. Together, we explore the roots of codependency, unraveling the dynamics that hinder personal growth. Together we focus on establishing boundaries, fostering self-awareness, and cultivating a strong sense of self.
Codependency usually back into our attachment style. I use Attachment Theory to help clients learn and identify their attachment style, process relationships either past and/or current, and heal the wounds related to where the attachment started. Look at trauma, beliefs, sense of self, and more.
Using Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Behavorial Therapy and psychodynamic approach, I help you develop healthy boundaries and self-esteem, so you no longer feel the need to pursue or remain in unhealthy relationships that have negative impacts on your mental health.
Do you feel like your happiness is dependent on others or that you lean on people/vices in your life to fulfill your needs and wants but you want to break free from that sense of being controlled by something or someone other than yourself? Being codependent can develop overtime and can be difficult to steer away from but it is not impossible. Through psychoeducation, self-esteem and confidence building as well as mindfulness/coping strategies, we will collaboratively work on gaining back your sense of self, freedom and happiness again. Contact me today for a free 15-minute consultation to get started on your therapeutic journey today!
Codependency can occur when we've forgotten our innate belonging and ability to trust ourselves. I can help you reclaim your sense of worth and personal power.