Anger Management therapists in Scarborough, England ENG, United Kingdom GB
Anger Management
Sara Aicart-Pendlebury
Art Therapist, Human Givens Practitioner (HG.Dip.P), Member of Human Givens Institute, IFS therapist Levels 1&2, Narm Practitioner
Road rage, plane rage, even art-gallery rage (when an exhibition is too crowded) are becoming all too familiar terms and are just some of the forms that over-the-top anger can take in modern-day life. Excessive anger can have an obvious trigger or else seem to occur out of the blue; and it can ruin lives, as work and relationships suffer. Excessive anger always results from stress and essential emotional needs not being met. That’s why the human givens approach, which focuses on helping people in distress find healthy ways to meet their emotional needs, is so successful.
The ability to get angry is natural. It is part of the ancient ‘fight or flight’ survival mechanism, which evolved to help our long-distant ancestors survive when, faced with attack from wild animals or invading tribes, they either had to stand up for themselves or flee. The pulse races, adrenalin surges, breath gets fast and shallow, blood surges into the muscles of the legs and arms and the body gets flooded with stress hormones, all so that we are ready to take action if we decide to act aggressively to ward off something or someone. Once action has been taken, the feelings subside.
But, today, there are far fewer occasions when threat is as real and physical as just described. If we get frustrated or feel angry with the boss, we may have to keep those feelings to ourselves, which leaves them circulating with no obvious way of being discharged. Or we may become more and more wound up by little annoyances that build up over the day until we reach a point when, over something seemingly trifling, we snap. There are many other circumstances that can lead us to have lower tolerance for irritations – for instance, overtiredness, feeling ill or hungry, hormonal changes, chronic pain or addictive cravings.
Sometimes people have a tendency towards anger because of chronic low self-esteem, which usually stems from abuse or neglect during childhood. As adults, they may never feel good or worthy enough and tend to lash out if they perceive themselves as slighted in any way. Mild brain damage can cause a loss of impulse control and aggression. And people on the autistic spectrum are often more prone to angry outbursts because of their difficulties and frustrations in trying to relate to other people and make sense of the social world.
More often than is realised, aggression is triggered by fear and sometimes it is a long-forgotten fear. For instance, a man who, as a child, was locked in a tiny dark space under the stairs as a punishment, may lash out, seemingly inexplicably, at his wife when she wants him to check the space under their stairs for damp. This is because an ‘alarm system’ in our brain, called the amygdala, accesses our emotional memories and, on the basis of previous experience, alerts us to anything that may represent a risk. Because the stair cupboard experience was so traumatic and frightening, it stays ‘live’, causing the man to experience terror all over again, usually without knowing why. Sometimes, too, repeated and seemingly inexplicable anger outbursts stem from ‘pattern matching’ to a shocking situation in childhood, when anger was felt but, at the time, suppressed.
Fortunately, people can be helped to deal with their anger, whatever its cause. Human givens practitioners will show people how to calm themselves down quickly (this is essential, as high emotional arousal makes us stupid, stopping us from listening to reason); encourage them to take exercise (doing enjoyable physical activity is a great way to discharge accumulated stress); and help them to examine and change their self-talk – having hostile thoughts only harms us – and to look at situations from other people’s perspectives as well as their own.
Simple, effective techniques can be used to resolve anger outbursts arising from incidents in the past, so that these cease to occur in the future.
Finally, human givens practitioners will help people explore what needs are not being met in their lives, which may be fuelling anger – for instance, a lack of a sense of achievement or status or control or connection with others may cause feelings of inferiority and hostility. Experiencing uncontrollable or excessive anger always means that something is not working well in a person’s life. No one is naturally an ‘angry’ person; they are just, temporarily, overcome by anger and can learn how to cease to be its victim.
15 Years Experience
Anger Management
Angela Sterling-Noel
Counsellor/Therapist, PG Cert. Systemic Practice, Dip HE Counselling, PG Cert., Supervision, NLP Practitioner Cert, PG Cert. Teaching in Higher Ed.
Anger is a normal emotional response, but it can become a problem when it starts to negatively impact your relationships at work and at home. It is also a response to feelings of hurt, frustration, and fear. I will work with you to identify your unmet needs and help you to develop strategies to meet those needs.
21 Years Experience
Anger Management
Dr. Bonnie Wims
Psychologist, UK Chartered Counseling Psychologist
Anger is a valid emotion just like joy or sadness. It gets a bad reputation because of what people do when they are angry, not the anger itself. We all have a choice when it comes to our emotions of what action we are going to take. Let's learn together how to feel and understand your anger without acting it out in a way that hurts you and others.
16 Years Experience
Anger Management
Dr. Christiana Eke, PhD.
Counsellor/Therapist, BA. MBA, PhD. Dip Couns, Dip Life Coach.
I will provide anger management to help you work on your anger issue.
28 Years Experience
Anger Management
Adrian Sonnex, Wellbeing Hypnotherapy & Mindfulness
Therapist, DCH, DHP, MCH, MBCT, SQHP
We work with clients struggling with anger issues. This might be impacting on areas such as relationships, road rage or work and social situations. We will provide you with Mindfulness-based Stress Reduction techniques and tools. We can also give you hypnotherapy sessions to release and resolve underlying anger issues.
17 Years Experience