Perfectionism therapists in Dalkeith, Scotland
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Natalie Jane Counsellor and Therapist - Narcissistic Abuse & Relationship Recovery Counsellor
Counsellor/Therapist, Dip Counselling, Dip CBT, Dip Gestalt, Dip Addictions, Dip IPV, Dip DBT, EFT, NLP, Hypnotherapy
Perfectionism can look like high standards from the outside but feel like constant pressure and fear of failure on the inside. Together we explore where the drive comes from and build a kinder, more flexible relationship with achievement and mistakes.
4 Years Experience
Online in Dalkeith, Scotland (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Anna Nolan Counselling & Psychotherapy
Counsellor/Therapist, Master of Counselling (UQ), ACA Registered Member, Cancer Counselling Professionals Clinical Member.
Perfectionism can bring pressure to meet high expectations, fear of making mistakes and a tendency towards self-criticism or feeling that you are never quite good enough. It can also affect relationships, particularly when the expectations and standards we hold ourselves or others to create tension, conflict or emotional distress. I offer a supportive space to explore these patterns and their impact, develop greater self-understanding and self-compassion, and consider ways of relating to yourself and others with greater flexibility, acceptance and understanding.
4 Years Experience
Online in Dalkeith, Scotland
Perfectionism
Kelly McAleer
Psychologist, Psy.D.
Perfectionism is one of the primary areas of focus in my practice. I work with adults who set exceptionally high standards for themselves and struggle with self-criticism, fear of failure, overthinking, procrastination, or the persistent sense that what they accomplish is never quite enough. My approach helps clients understand the deeper patterns driving perfectionism while developing greater flexibility, self-compassion, and the ability to pursue meaningful goals without their worth depending on how well they perform.
17 Years Experience
Online in Dalkeith, Scotland (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Marianna Trezza -The Growing mindset
Counsellor/Therapist, MA (Hons), Adv Dip. Counsel. & Psychoth.,Dip. Hypnoth., X-Cultural Adaptation Coun. Reg. BACP 572613
For many women, perfectionism is not simply about high standards or wanting to “do things well”.
Often it develops as a way of feeling safe, accepted and emotionally protected.
Many women living abroad become highly skilled at monitoring themselves:
how they speak,
how they appear,
how they are perceived,
whether they are doing enough,
achieving enough,
adapting enough.
Over time, this constant self-monitoring can create emotional exhaustion, anxiety, chronic pressure and a nervous system that struggles to fully relax.
For many Italian women living between cultures and expectations, perfectionism can become deeply connected to belonging, identity and the fear of being judged as “too much”, “not enough” or somehow different.
My work explores the deeper emotional and nervous system patterns underneath perfectionism, people pleasing and over-functioning.
I offer a warm, reflective and holistic space where women can begin reconnecting with self-worth, authenticity and inner safety without constantly needing to perform, adapt or prove themselves.
I integrate psychotherapy, hypnotherapy, EFT, embodiment, lifestyle medicine, reflective dialogue and nature-based approaches to support women in moving from chronic pressure toward greater emotional ease, regulation and self-trust.
23 Years Experience
Online in Dalkeith, Scotland
Perfectionism
Kevin Martin
Counsellor/Therapist, Psychotherapist Psychodynamic Analysis & Transactional Analysis, BACP, ITTA, EA
Perfectionism is a personality style and mindset characterised by striving for flawlessness, setting excessively high performance standards, and engaging in overly critical self-evaluation. While many praise it in professional and academic settings as a driver of success, clinical psychology views it not as a healthy pursuit of excellence but as a rigid, self-defeating trap rooted in fear of failure, judgment, or rejection.
Understanding the Difference: Perfectionism vs Healthy Striving
Healthy Striving: Focuses on personal growth, enjoys the learning process, feels satisfied with a job well done, and views mistakes as valuable feedback.
Perfectionism: Focuses on avoiding failure, measures self-worth entirely by achievements, views anything less than flawless as total failure, and is driven by intense anxiety.
Common Dimensions of Perfectionism
Self-Oriented Perfectionism: Imposing unrealistic standards and harsh self-criticism
Other-Oriented Perfectionism: Expecting flawlessness, high precision, and perfection from family members, friends, or colleagues.
Socially Prescribed Perfectionism: The belief that others (parents, bosses, society) expect perfection, and that acceptance and love depend on meeting those impossible expectations. (This dimension is most closely linked to anxiety, burnout, and depression.)
Common Behaviours & Signs
Procrastination & Paralysis: Delaying tasks because the fear of not doing them perfectly makes starting feel too overwhelming.
All-or-Nothing Thinking: Believing that if a project or performance isn't 100% successful, it isn't a complete failure (e.g., "If I get a B, I'm a 'total failure'"). Chronic Dissatisfaction: Inability to celebrate achievements. Once a goal is met, the perfectionist immediately moves the goalposts or focuses on minor flaws.
Hyper-Focus on Detail: Spending excessive time on minor elements of a task at the expense of the bigger picture, often leading to severe burnout.
Masking Mistakes: Going to extreme lengths to hide errors or imperfections out of fear of looking incompetent.
The Impact on Well-Being
While perfectionists often achieve external success, it comes at a high internal cost. Chronic perfectionism is strongly linked to anxiety, depression, eating disorders, chronic stress, relationship friction, and physical exhaustion.
Remember: Perfectionism tries to convince you that your worth depends on your output. Letting go of perfection doesn't mean lowering your standards; it means valuing your well-being, progress, and humanity as much as your achievements.
10 Years Experience
Online in Dalkeith, Scotland (Online Only)
Perfectionism therapists in Dalkeith, Scotland Statistics
Perfectionism therapists in Dalkeith, Scotland average 10 years of experience and charge around ¤168 per session. 100% offer online sessions. The top treatment approaches are Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) (61%), Integrative Therapy (56%), and Somatic Therapy (50%).
Average years in practice
10 Years Experience
Average cost per session
¤168
Accept insurance
33%
Offer sliding scale
44%
Gender ID
| 78% |
Female |
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| 22% |
Male |
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Session Type
| 50% |
In Person and Online |
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| 50% |
Online Only |
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Top Treatment Approaches
| 61% | Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) |
| 56% | Integrative Therapy |
| 50% | Somatic Therapy |
| 44% | Person-Centered Therapy (Rogerian) |
| 44% | Psychodynamic Therapy |
| 39% | Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT) |
| 39% | Motivational Interviewing (MI) |
Ages Served
| 100% | Adult |
| 72% | Young Adult |
| 50% | Senior |
| 39% | Teen |
| 28% | Children |
Client Focus
| 67% | Women |
| 50% | LGBTQ+ |
| 39% | Men |
| 33% | Persons with Disabilities |
| 22% | Black / African American |