Codependency therapists in Sterling, Virginia VA

I get asked a lot about codependency. It's a tricky concept and behavior pattern that is so easy to fall into particularly if we have had substance abuse or really any type of abuse in our relationship history. It's about seeking to control without knowing that's what we're doing. We will work on making choices that are consistent with your values so that you end up in meaningful relationships in which you be around the people in your life without compromising yourself.  

The concept of Co-Dependency was developed as a way of explaining how family members of alcoholics, especially their spouses, became emotionally ill apparently as a result of living with an alcoholic for years. "Co" is a prefix that means "like" or "with" - the family member becomes sick like and with "the dependent" (the person dependent on a chemical). There are several common problems that often go along with life with an alcoholic or drug abuser, including their unpredictable moods, selfish and irresponsible behavior, angry outbursts which may include verbal or physical abuse, broken promises and commitments, embarrassing public behavior, financial irresponsibility, legal problems, and inability to return love or affection. However, most chemically dependent people have periods when they function well, and this generates the hope that they will stay well, quit or control their chemical use, and become responsible and loving for good.  

In our work together, I help you explore the underlying causes of your codependency, develop healthier coping skills, boundaries, and communication strategies, so you can create more fulfilling relationships and lead a more balanced life.  

Your happiness and success is not dependent on others. Let's learn why you have learned to become co-dependent and begin to gain your autonomy back!  

Exploring issues that would have lead you to a co-dependent relationship. Boundary setting to break unhealthy patterns and more satisfying relationships.