Perfectionism therapists in New York City, NY
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Perfectionism
Merry Alijoski
Therapist, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist -LMFT
I truly enjoy working with perfectionism and treating it at it’s core with deeper insight to reach unperfectionism ⚡️Is that a word? lol
3 Years Experience
Online in New York City, NY (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Taylor Lee
Pre-Licensed Professional, MHC-LP, Ed.M., M.A.
I specialize in working with clients struggling with perfectionism, especially those who feel driven by self-criticism, fear of mistakes, or pressure to meet high expectations. Many of my clients have spent years holding themselves to rigid standards or tying their worth to achievement. Together, we explore the roots of these patterns, soften harsh inner dialogue, and build a more compassionate, flexible way of relating to yourself.
2 Years Experience
Online in New York City, NY (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Ayden Ferstenberg
Psychologist, PsyD
You may be accomplished, dependable, and highly capable, yet rarely feel satisfied with what you do. Mistakes can feel disproportionately threatening, rest can bring guilt, and even meaningful achievements may provide only brief relief before the next internal imperative takes over. I work with high achievers who are tired of being driven by self-criticism, fear of failure, or the feeling that they must continually prove their worth. Rather than simply trying to counteract perfectionist urges, we explore what perfectionism has come to mean and what it helps you avoid or protect against. The goal is to preserve your ambition while loosening the grip of the inner critic, so that your effort becomes a value-driven choice rather than a condition you use to determine your worth.
5 Years Experience
Online in New York City, NY (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Chrissie Chua- Ly van manh
Counselor/Therapist, LMHC-D, LPC
I work with many high-achieving, hardworking individuals who often define their identity, worth, and sense of meaning through productivity, performance, and external success. While these strengths can lead to accomplishment and reliability, they can also create pressure, burnout, and a persistent sense of never feeling “enough,” no matter how much is achieved.
Perfectionism often shows up as self-criticism, difficulty resting, fear of failure, people-pleasing, or feeling anxious even during moments of success. Many clients come to me feeling exhausted by their own standards, yet unsure how to slow down or step away from the patterns that have helped them succeed.
In our work together, we explore the deeper roots of perfectionism- often shaped by past experiences, family expectations, or learned beliefs about worth and achievement. At the same time, we focus on practical ways to challenge rigid thinking patterns, reduce anxiety, and develop a more balanced and compassionate relationship with oneself.
My goal is to help clients begin to separate their identity from their productivity, reconnect with what actually matters to them, and build a life that feels not only successful on the outside, but also grounded, sustainable, and meaningful on the inside.
10 Years Experience
Online in New York City, NY (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Brittany Speed, Hudson Valley Psychology
Psychologist, PhD
Being driven, conscientious, and holding yourself to high standards can be strengths, but when perfectionism takes over, it can come at a cost to your emotional well-being and your functioning. You may find yourself struggling with avoidance of important tasks, harsh self-criticism, fear of making mistakes, difficulty relaxing, or a persistent feeling that no matter how much you accomplish, it’s never quite enough. Over time, perfectionism can contribute to anxiety, burnout, and difficulty finding satisfaction in your achievements. Using evidence-based approaches such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), I help you recognize and challenge unhelpful patterns, develop a more flexible relationship with expectations, and build self-compassion. Together, we’ll work toward maintaining the ambition and conscientiousness you value while letting go of the rigid standards that keep you feeling stressed, stuck, or never quite good enough.
8 Years Experience
Online in New York City, NY (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Michael Brustein
Psychologist, Psy.D
I have spent an extensive amount of time researching, writing and working with patients with perfectionism. I am aware and address the many challenges perfectionists face when entering therapy. In general, perfectionists may be prone to terminating therapy prematurely. For example, a self-oriented perfectionist may interpret seeking help as though they are flawed and end the relationships quickly. Socially oriented perfectionists may want to please their therapist and thus not reveal thoughts and feelings and feel dissatisfied with the therapy process. By discussing the therapy relationship and monitoring thoughts and feelings throughout the process premature termination can be avoided. Through the therapy relationship perfectionists may also develop and internalize new coping skills to manage expectations. For example, new relationship experiences that occur in the therapy relationship (ex: expressing needs or being vulnerable) may generalize to other social settings. Other oriented perfectionists who can learn to accept the imperfections of their therapist can learn to possibly be more tolerant of others.
I also work with perfectionist patients on learning to manage anxiety regarding expectations and teach self-acceptance and compassion skills using mindfulness and Buddhist influenced interventions. I also help perfectionists identify and manage maladaptive cognitions and patterns that lead to distress. I help perfectionists develop more balanced thinking. I help teach self-oriented perfectionists how to set boundaries and say “no” to others. Many perfectionists, particularly self-oriented perfectionists are reluctant to let go of expectations fearing this will impair performance. Managing perfectionism however, does not necessarily mean desiring less, but changing one’s relationship and response to when expectations are not met.
22 Years Experience
Online in New York City, NY (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Liberation Therapy
Counselor/Therapist, LMHC
Perfectionism is often driven by fear, shame, and a belief that you are only worthy if you do things perfectly. Together we work on understanding the roots of perfectionism, reducing the anxiety around mistakes, and helping you build a life that is more flexible, creative, and humane.
5 Years Experience
Online in New York City, NY (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Brittany Statler, Intuitive Wellness Therapy Group
Licensed Clinical Social Worker, LCSW
Headline: When "Doing it All" Still Feels Like Falling Behind
The Burden of Being "The Best"
To the world, you have it together. You are the high-achiever, the reliable one, the one who doesn't miss a detail. But internally, the "inner critic" is never satisfied. Whether it’s at work, in your relationships, or in your own self-image, you feel like you are one mistake away from being "exposed." This relentless drive for perfection isn't just a habit—it’s a survival strategy that has left you burnt out and disconnected.
My Approach: From Performance to Presence
In my private-pay practice, we don't just "talk" about your stress. We work to dismantle the rigid rules that keep you stuck. I help high-achieving perfectionists move from a life of constant performance to one of authentic presence. Using an integrated approach, we will:
Neutralize the Inner Critic: Learn to hear the perfectionist voice without letting it drive your decisions.
Embrace "Good Enough": Build the psychological flexibility to prioritize your well-being over an impossible standard.
Reconnect with Values: Pivot your energy away from external validation and toward the things that actually bring you fulfillment.
20 Years Experience
Online in New York City, NY (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Alexis Smith
Pre-Licensed Professional, MHC-LP
I help clients recognize and work through perfectionistic thinking, self-criticism, and the pressure of unrealistic expectations that can create stress and burnout. Together, we explore the underlying fears driving these patterns and begin developing more flexible, balanced, and self-compassionate ways of thinking and responding. My approach is supportive and practical, focused on helping you reduce the constant sense of pressure, tolerate imperfection, and relate to yourself with more understanding. The goal is greater ease, emotional flexibility, and a stronger sense of self-acceptance in both daily life and personal goals. If you’re ready to step out of constant self-pressure, I invite you to reach out or explore my profile to learn more.
2 Years Experience
Online in New York City, NY (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Lisa Botticelli
Psychologist, Ph.D., PMH-C, c-DBT
Together we'll look at the ways in which perfectionism may lead to maladaptive or problematic behaviors, or otherwise take you away from your core goals and values. We'll focus on compassion and accountability, rather than meeting an impossible standard.
5 Years Experience
Online in New York City, NY (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Jamilet Calderon
Licensed Mental Health Counselor, LMHC-D
We will work collaboratively to quiet the constant need to "have it all together" and replace relentless self-criticism with self-compassion and realistic growth.
14 Years Experience
Online in New York City, NY (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Fufan Chiang
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
Perfectionism isn't just a drive to do well; it is an exhausting survival strategy that tells you your worth is only earned by performing, pleasing, and never letting anyone down. Carrying the invisible burden of "never good enough" leaves you hypervigilant, deeply self-critical, and entirely disconnected from your own needs. Through specialized, body-centered trauma therapy, we will move past these rigid standards and quiet your inner critic. You can transition away from constant overextension and step into real, lasting self-trust and genuine, physical calm.
17 Years Experience
Online in New York City, NY (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Skye D Ross, EMDR Therapist for High Achieving Women
Licensed Clinical Social Worker, LCSW, PMH-C, MPH, EMDR-Certified Therapist & Consultant In Training
Pushing your needs aside to take care of business, family, and manage a household leaves you prone to burning out. If you've been ignoring your feelings because you're focusing on the facial expressions and change of tone in the room, you're in the right place. We will help you move through the longstanding messages driving your perfectionism and high-achievement anxiety and burnout so that you can let your nervous system settle.
11 Years Experience
Online in New York City, NY (Online Only)
Perfectionism therapists in New York City, NY Statistics
Perfectionism therapists in New York City, NY average 12 years of experience and charge around $226 per session. 100% offer online sessions. The top treatment approaches are Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) (62%), Psychodynamic Therapy (44%), and Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT) (40%).
Average years in practice
12 Years Experience
Average cost per session
$226
Accept insurance
33%
Offer sliding scale
42%
Gender ID
| 70% |
Female |
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| 20% |
Male |
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| 5% |
Gender Fluid |
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| 5% |
Non-Binary |
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Session Type
| 52% |
Online Only |
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| 48% |
In Person and Online |
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Top Treatment Approaches
| 62% | Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) |
| 44% | Psychodynamic Therapy |
| 40% | Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT) |
| 40% | Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) |
| 38% | Internal Family Systems (IFS) |
| 38% | Relational Psychotherapy |
| 27% | Somatic Therapy |
Ages Served
| 98% | Adult |
| 85% | Young Adult |
| 42% | Senior |
| 42% | Teen |
| 17% | Children |
Client Focus
| 58% | Women |
| 42% | LGBTQ+ |
| 33% | Men |
| 29% | Persons with Disabilities |
| 27% | Asian |