Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT) therapists in Washougal, WA

I believe knowledge is power, and the better we understand ourselves and our minds, the more equipped we are to handle symptoms and stressors as they occur. Having lived experience with both ADHD and anxiety, I am able to relate to clients in a way others may not. I understand the complexities and nuances of the way the neurodivergent or anxious mind works and offer concrete skills and tools, as well as a place to process what neurodivergence means to you.  

Hi, I’m Ryan. I became a therapist because I know how powerful it can be to have someone genuinely in your corner. Someone who sees the good in you when you’re struggling to see it yourself, who stays grounded when life feels overwhelming, and who believes that your current circumstances do not have to define your future. I believe people are capable of meaningful change, even after years of feeling stuck, lonely, anxious, disconnected, or shaped by painful experiences. Sometimes we simply need a relationship in which we feel safe enough to be honest, supported enough to take risks, and gently challenged enough to begin doing things differently. I hope to offer that kind of relationship to my clients. My path to becoming a therapist has not been entirely conventional. I grew up in Bellingham, Washington, earned degrees abroad in Italy and Spain, and previously worked as both a marketer and a psychometrist before entering the counseling profession. Living in different countries and moving through several professional worlds taught me to be curious about people. Their stories, cultures, relationships, contradictions, and the experiences that shape how they see themselves. In therapy, I want to know the person behind the symptoms. I want to understand what you long for, what keeps getting in the way, what you learned about yourself growing up, and who you might become if fear, shame, trauma, or self-doubt were no longer making so many of your decisions. You do not need to arrive with the perfect explanation for what is wrong. You may simply know that you feel lonely, overwhelmed, disconnected from yourself, haunted by the past, or tired of repeating the same relationship patterns. You may be outwardly successful while privately feeling insecure or lost. You may want deeper relationships but find yourself withdrawing, avoiding vulnerability, choosing unavailable partners, or questioning whether anyone could truly understand you. Whatever brings you here, you do not have to perform or pretend with me. I aim to create a space where you can speak honestly. Even about the thoughts, experiences, desires, fears, and parts of yourself that feel difficult to share elsewhere. My style is warm, grounded, direct, and deeply human. I will listen without judgment, but I will not simply nod along with everything you say. When helpful, I will gently challenge the beliefs or patterns that may be keeping you stuck. I believe we can be compassionate toward ourselves while also taking responsibility for creating change. Therapy with me is both insight-oriented and action-oriented. We will explore how early relationships, childhood experiences, unconscious beliefs, and protective behaviors may still influence your life today. I take an Adlerian and psychodynamic approach, meaning I am interested in the deeper story beneath your current struggles. However, I do not believe your past permanently determines who you are. Awareness gives us choices. Once we understand why a pattern developed and what purpose it once served, we can begin deciding whether it still belongs in the life you want today. Insight is important, but I also want therapy to extend beyond the hour we spend together. Depending on your goals, I may suggest small behavioral challenges (what I sometimes call “missions”) to help you practice new ways of relating to yourself and others. That might involve initiating an uncomfortable conversation, setting a boundary, reaching out to someone instead of isolating, tolerating the possibility of rejection, making eye contact, expressing a need, or interrupting a pattern of avoidance. These challenges are collaborative and paced carefully. The goal is not to overwhelm you or push you before you are ready. Instead, we gradually build your capacity to do things that once felt impossible. Little by little, you begin gathering evidence that you can survive discomfort, respond differently, and become more secure in yourself. I also use evidence-based approaches such as Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing therapy, or EMDR, as well as Cognitive Processing Therapy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. These approaches can be especially helpful when painful memories, traumatic experiences, intrusive thoughts, or deeply rooted negative beliefs continue to affect your relationships and daily life. We can discuss these options together and determine what feels most appropriate for you. Therapy is not one-size-fits-all, and I want you to understand and feel comfortable with the work we are doing. Many of the people who feel drawn to my practice are young adults, members of Gen Z and the millennial generation, and people who want to build more meaningful relationships. I often work with men experiencing loneliness, insecurity, relationship difficulties, or questions related to sexual identity. I particularly value working with gay and bisexual men and hope to provide a space where you can explore identity, dating, intimacy, coming out, attachment, and relationship dynamics without having to explain or defend who you are. I also enjoy working with women navigating attachment concerns, dating patterns, motherhood, single parenthood, major transitions, and the desire to form healthier, more secure relationships. Across identities, I tend to connect well with people who are introspective, curious about themselves, and ready to move toward a life that feels more authentic, even if they are not yet sure how to get there. My goal is not for therapy to become the only place where you feel known and supported. I want the trust we build together to ripple outward into the rest of your life. Over time, I hope you become more comfortable expressing yourself, navigating conflict, forming close relationships, recovering from setbacks, and allowing others to truly know you. Ultimately, my goal is to help you build a life so full, secure, and meaningful that you no longer need therapy in the same way. Outside of my work, I enjoy spending time with my fiancé, family, and friends. I love being outdoors, walking through neighborhoods and cities, riding my bike, growing food, and working on DIY and home-renovation projects. I also practice Vipassana meditation, although, like many people, not quite as consistently as I would like. These parts of my life help me stay curious, grounded, and connected to the ordinary moments that make life feel meaningful. Choosing a therapist is deeply personal. Training and therapeutic methods matter, but so does the feeling you have when you speak with someone. You deserve a therapist with whom you can gradually lower your guard and feel more like yourself. A free consultation is an opportunity for us to talk, for you to ask questions, and for you to get a sense of my personality and approach without pressure. You do not need to commit before knowing whether the connection feels right. I would be honored to meet you, hear what has been happening in your life, and explore whether I might be the person to walk alongside you as you begin creating something different.  

A little about me I’m a therapist who gets how overwhelming this stage of life can feel. You’re juggling pressure, expectations, relationships, and figuring out who you are—all at the same time. I don’t believe in a one-size-fits-all approach, and I’m not here to judge or “analyze” you. My style is real, collaborative, and practical. I’ll help you understand what’s happening in your mind and body, and give you tools you can actually use in everyday life—not just in a therapy session. Why reach out If you’re tired of overthinking everything, feeling stuck, or reacting in ways you wish you could change, you don’t have to figure it out on your own. Reaching out is the first step toward feeling more grounded, more confident, and more in control of your life. Even if you’re not sure where to start—that’s okay. We’ll figure it out together.  

Starting from your first session, we’ll dive into your growth journey together, picking up practical tools and making real progress toward what matters to you. Whether you’re craving deeper connections with yourself or others, a more vibrant sex life, or healing from trauma or betrayal, I’ve got your back. I’m a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Couples and Sex Therapy Informed Professional with over 20 years of experience—and I don’t just teach this stuff, I live it too. Each session, you’ll walk away with a clearer sense of who you are, what’s holding you back, and how to move forward with your partner(s) or on your own. I love sparking that creative spark in you to help you live your brightest, most authentic life.  

You may be successful, capable, and accustomed to handling a lot, yet still find yourself feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, anxious, or simply tired of holding everything together. Perhaps you are navigating burnout, relationship challenges, grief, trauma, a major life transition, or the pressure of being the person others consistently depend on. I work with adults and couples who want more than a place to simply talk. Together, we make sense of the patterns keeping you stuck, strengthen the tools you already possess, and develop practical strategies for meaningful and lasting change. My approach is warm, collaborative, culturally responsive, and gently direct, with therapy tailored to your experiences, values, relationships, and goals. You do not have to wait until life is falling apart to seek support. Therapy can also be a space to pause, gain clarity, strengthen your relationships, reconnect with yourself, and decide how you want to move forward. My goal is to help you move beyond simply managing life toward living with greater intention, connection, and resilience.