Online Self Esteem therapists in Gossops Green, England ENG, United Kingdom UK

You are not broken—you just have parts of you that forgot how worthy you are. Low self-esteem often stems from early experiences that left parts of us believing we weren’t good enough, lovable, or deserving. These beliefs can quietly shape how we show up in relationships, work, and even how we talk to ourselves. Through Internal Family Systems (IFS), I help you connect with the parts of you that carry shame, self-doubt, or the need to constantly prove your worth. As someone who has walked this healing path myself, I know what it takes to rebuild that connection to your True Self—the part of you that knows you are enough just as you are.  

I work with those going through issues related to self-esteem.  

Reconnect with the you that is already there. Explore your strengths, and lean into self-compassion, so you can embrace all of who you are.  

I hear the struggle you're facing with self-doubt and its impact on your life. It's heartbreaking to feel like you're not reaching your full potential due to a lack of self-confidence. This can affect every area of your life, from personal relationships to professional achievements and social interactions. It's common to feel like you're stuck in a cycle of self-doubt, where negative self-talk and fear of failure hold you back. But know that you're not alone in this feeling. Many people face similar challenges, and there is hope for change. Here are some ways we can work together to help you break free from these limitations: Identify and Challenge Negative Self-Talk: We can explore the roots of your self-doubt and develop strategies to replace negative thoughts with positive affirmations. Build Self-Confidence: By focusing on your strengths and past successes, we can build a stronger sense of self-worth. Set and Achieve Goals: Together, we can set realistic goals in your personal, work, and social life, and work on strategies to achieve them. Develop Healthy Relationships: We can explore ways to communicate your needs effectively and build more fulfilling relationships. Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness. You deserve to live a life where you feel confident and empowered to reach your full potential. Contact me today, and let's start this journey together. I'm here to support you every step of the way.  

Our sense of ourselves greatly impacts how we interact in the world and the type of experiences we have. Our views on ourselves does not have to be set in stone though and is something that can be continually improved and worked upon allowing us to begin to engage in the world in a much more satisfying and enjoyable way  

Self-worth is part of self-esteem  

Self-Esteem or self worth is one of the most targeted issues for humans beings, unless they live in truly natural communities. We are all growing up in neurotic and untrue conditioning on how we should be, rather than supporting each other in how we are. The uniqueness of each person get sacrificed for silly idealism and children are being hindered to develop naturally. So far so bad. The good news is: your true worthiness, your self-esteem was never really destroyed. IT IS INSIDE. It simply takes taking away the lies and illusions on 'how I should be' and become how you are. I can help with that! it is much simpler than it sounds but it may not be always easy.  

We think we need many things to feel stronger. In therapy we learn why this is sometimes the case.  

How we value ourselves can affect our self esteem. If we feel negative and critical about ourselves and our abilities then we will experience low self esteem. Low self esteem can affect how we fit in the world, how we feel with family, friends and relationships and how this impacts on us. It could spring from our childhood or adult experiences, school and friendship influences or our partners. We can sometimes feel inadequate or be made to feel inadequate by those around us and even by social media and current socio-environmental expectations. Working with a counsellor enables you to explore where some of these influences have stemmed from. Acknowledging, accepting and moving through these feelings and looking at changing the negative inner voice, can help build your confidence and self esteem.  

Low self-esteem can quietly shape every area of life—how you see yourself, the choices you make, and the relationships you keep. Together, we’ll explore and gently release the old beliefs, patterns, or experiences that have held you back. Using neuroscience-based coaching, BWRT®, and therapeutic tools, I help you rewire the inner story you tell yourself and build a stronger, kinder sense of self. Alongside this, mindfulness and energy practices can support you in feeling more grounded, resilient, and confident. The aim is not just to “feel better,” but to truly step into your worth and create a life that reflects who you really are.  

Each therapist has their own specialties, and we focus on connecting you with the clinician whose experience best fits your needs. Therapy may involve developing coping strategies, processing past experiences and childhood patterns, and cultivating greater self-compassion and emotional well-being.  

This is one of the main areas where people come to work with me. Often, they know they feel unhappy and even feel lost. It could be that things have not been great in your life and you are surprised by how quickly and utterly this has knocked you down. Working on self esteem and finding that deep appreciation and concern for who you actually are, can transform your life. I would love to be part of this journey with you, so please get in touch.  

Low self-esteem is often rooted in the stories we have come to believe about ourselves. You may question your worth, minimize your needs, seek approval from others, or feel like you have to earn love and acceptance. These patterns can affect your relationships, decisions, and overall well-being. Together, we'll identify the beliefs that no longer serve you, reconnect with your strengths and values, and build a stronger foundation of self-worth. As your self-trust grows, so does your ability to set healthy boundaries, communicate with confidence, and make choices that reflect the person you truly are.  

Self esteem is the core of our well being. We often lose it through life experience but we can regain it. I find EMDR particularly helpful in developing greater Self esteem  

Low self-worth is often experienced as a belief - something to be challenged, reframed, or worked on. In practice, it tends to live deeper than that: in the body's habitual posture, in the contraction that happens before speaking in a group, in the felt sense of taking up too much or too little space. This work reaches those layers and creates the conditions for a different experience of yourself to emerge - not as an idea, but as something your body actually registers as true.  

Struggling with self-esteem can show up in many ways—doubting yourself, feeling not good enough, or constantly comparing yourself to others. These patterns can make it hard to fully enjoy relationships, work, or even your own accomplishments. We can explore where these feelings come from and begin to build a more grounded sense of confidence and self-worth. You don’t have to keep battling with self-doubt on your own—I’m here to help you reconnect with your strengths and feel more at ease in who you are  

How Therapy Can Help with Self-Esteem - The way you see yourself shapes everything—your relationships, your career choices, how you handle challenges, and even your overall happiness. If you struggle with low self-esteem, you're likely your own harshest critic, and that internal voice can be exhausting and limiting. The good news is that self-esteem isn't fixed—it can grow and strengthen with the right support, and therapy offers a powerful path toward seeing yourself more clearly and compassionately. What Low Self-Esteem Looks Like Low self-esteem goes beyond occasional self-doubt. It's a persistent negative view of yourself that might show up as: Constant self-criticism or negative self-talk Feeling like you're not good enough, no matter what you achieve Difficulty accepting compliments or believing positive feedback Comparing yourself unfavorably to others Perfectionism and fear of failure People-pleasing and difficulty saying no Avoiding challenges because you assume you'll fail Staying in unhealthy relationships because you don't think you deserve better Feeling like an imposter in your own life Apologizing excessively or taking blame for things that aren't your fault Difficulty making decisions because you don't trust yourself These patterns can hold you back from pursuing opportunities, building healthy relationships, and living authentically. How Therapy Helps Uncovering the Roots Low self-esteem doesn't appear out of nowhere—it's usually built over time through experiences like childhood criticism, emotional neglect, bullying, trauma, failed relationships, or repeated disappointments. Therapy helps you understand where your negative self-view originated. This isn't about blaming others; it's about recognizing that your inner critic was learned, which means it can be unlearned. Challenging the Inner Critic That harsh voice in your head isn't telling you the truth—it's repeating old messages that may have never been accurate in the first place. Therapy, particularly Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), helps you identify these negative thought patterns and challenge them with evidence and compassion. You learn to question thoughts like "I'm worthless" or "I always mess things up" and replace them with more balanced, realistic perspectives. Separating Your Worth from Your Performance Many people tie their self-esteem to achievements, appearance, or others' approval. Therapy helps you recognize that your worth is inherent—it doesn't depend on what you do, how you look, or what others think of you. This shift from conditional to unconditional self-worth is transformative and freeing. Processing Past Wounds If your low self-esteem stems from trauma, abuse, or painful experiences, therapies like EMDR can help process these memories so they have less emotional power over you. When you heal the wounds that taught you to see yourself negatively, your self-esteem naturally begins to improve. Developing Self-Compassion Self-compassion is treating yourself with the same kindness you'd offer a good friend. Therapy helps you cultivate this gentler internal voice, recognizing that everyone makes mistakes, has flaws, and struggles sometimes—and that doesn't make you less worthy. You learn to comfort yourself rather than attack yourself when things go wrong. Identifying Your Strengths and Values Low self-esteem often creates tunnel vision where you only see your perceived flaws and failures. Therapy helps you take a more balanced inventory—recognizing your strengths, accomplishments, positive qualities, and the values that guide you. Many people are genuinely surprised to discover how much they've been discounting about themselves. Setting Healthy Boundaries When you don't value yourself, you're more likely to let others mistreat you, overextend yourself, or stay in situations that diminish you. Therapy helps you recognize that you deserve respect and teaches you how to set boundaries that protect your wellbeing. Each time you honor a boundary, you reinforce your own worth. Building Assertiveness Learning to express your needs, opinions, and feelings without excessive fear or guilt is crucial for healthy self-esteem. Therapy provides a safe space to practice assertiveness and develop confidence in your right to take up space, have needs, and be heard. Breaking People-Pleasing Patterns If you've learned to derive worth from making others happy or avoiding conflict, therapy helps you examine this pattern and gradually shift toward living more authentically. You learn that disappointing someone occasionally doesn't make you a bad person, and that your needs matter just as much as anyone else's. Celebrating Progress, Not Just Perfection Therapy helps you recognize and celebrate small wins and efforts, not just major achievements. You learn to acknowledge growth, courage, and trying—even when things don't turn out perfectly. This builds a more sustainable, realistic foundation for self-esteem. Experiencing Unconditional Acceptance Perhaps one of the most healing aspects of therapy is experiencing genuine acceptance from your therapist. In person-centred therapy especially, you're met with unconditional positive regard—you're valued simply for being you, not for what you accomplish or how you perform. This experience can begin to rewire your belief about your own worthiness. Types of Therapy That Help Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): Directly targets negative thought patterns and helps you develop more balanced thinking about yourself. Person-Centred Therapy: Offers unconditional acceptance that helps you internalize a more positive self-view. EMDR: Processes traumatic experiences that damaged your self-esteem. Compassion-Focused Therapy (CFT): Specifically designed to build self-compassion and counter self-criticism. Psychodynamic Therapy: Explores how early relationships and experiences shaped your self-concept. Group Therapy: Provides connection with others who struggle similarly and offers opportunities to receive positive feedback and support. What Growth Looks Like As therapy progresses and your self-esteem strengthens, you might notice: Quieter, kinder internal dialogue More willingness to try new things or take healthy risks Ability to accept compliments and believe them Setting and maintaining boundaries without excessive guilt Making decisions with more confidence Less comparison to others Greater resilience when things go wrong Choosing relationships and situations that honor your worth Feeling more comfortable being yourself.  

Self-Esteem & Self-Confidence - Complimentary Consultation Are you struggling with low self-esteem or a critical inner voice? Many people carry self-doubt that affects their relationships, decisions and ability to pursue opportunities with confidence. Through coaching, we work on developing greater self-awareness, self-acceptance and self-compassion while strengthening a healthier and more stable sense of self. The goal is to help you build confidence that is grounded, realistic and supportive of the life you want to create. Book a complimentary consultation to explore whether this approach is right for you.  

We work through your self-esteem issues and use a lot of methods to uncover your true identity, strengths, gifts and personality and work to restore your self esteem. RTT, Hypnosis and Health Coaching are all methods I like to use to help clients boost their self esteem.  

Self-esteem is shaped through early emotional experience and internalized relationships. My work integrates psychoanalytic exploration and embodied awareness to support a more compassionate and coherent relationship with the self. This process helps patients move beyond shame and self-criticism toward greater self-acceptance.