Online Anxiety therapists in Kilburn, England ENG, United Kingdom UK

Bognor Regis, Bristol, London, West Sussex I am an integrative counsellor so covered this in my studies alongside years of experience and continued professional development  

For people who have never suffered from anxiety it is almost impossible to describe how debilitating the symptoms can be. It can seem as if there is no escape from the pain and discomfort; it feels like life will be like this forever and that the symptoms can’t be helped. Conventional approaches to anxiety seek to medicate. Many physicians may tell you that your anxiety is something you just have to live with.  Counseling or mainstream psychological approaches may have you manipulate or change your thought patterns, while alternative practices may seek to have you relax or practice mindfulness.  While there is value in some of these approaches, most fail to reach that deeper understanding of the underlying cause of anxiety and panic. Symptoms of anxiety and panic are not the same as emotions of fear – these include worry, nervous, apprehension, concern, etc. In everyday life we tend to talk about anxiety symptoms and conditions as being the same as emotions of fear, nervousness and worry. This is confusing for the simple reason that anxiety symptoms are not merely amplified fear, even though this can be what they feel like in many instances. Anxiety is something of an umbrella term that covers quite a wide range of symptoms and experiences. In some instances this symptoms and conditions might relate to emotions of fear but in other instances they do not. This is why it is entirely possible to rid ourselves of anxiety symptoms whereas we cannot, and should not try to rid ourselves of healthy emotions, because they play a vital feedback role in our day to day experience of life. These are the anxiety conditions: - anxious apprehension (worry, rumination) - generalised anxiety disorder (free floating anxiety) - Intense anxiety and panic attacks - obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) - phobias of all kinds including agoraphobia and social phobia - eating disorders - derealisation - depersonalisation There is an enormous amount of scientific evidence to show that various regions of the brain are either over active or dysfunctional when anxiety symptoms are present. One of the most salient issues pertaining to this kind of scientific research is that different types of anxiety symptoms correspond with different areas of brain dysfunction.The forebrain appears to be the area most affected in most anxiety disorders. This is the largest portion of the brain and includes the cerebral hemispheres, the limbic system, the thalamus and hypothalamus, amygdala and the corpus callosum. Each of the brain hemispheres is divided into four lobes: frontal, parietal, occipital and temporal. Collectively, the forebrain functions to control cognitive, sensory and motor function, regulate temperature, reproductive functions, eating, sleeping and the display of emotions. When it becomes dysfunctional it is evident that the range of symptoms can be enormous.Recent studies using electroencephalographic (EEG) methods have found that patients diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder and obsessive-compulsive disorder had heightened activity in the left brain regions, whereas patients with panic disorder, panic symptoms or those subjected to high stress situations exhibited enhanced activity in the right hemisphere. The important lesson from this type of research is that anxiety conditions are not all the same and therefore each case needs to be approached and treated depending on the needs of the individual and the types of symptoms present.  However, we must also be mindful that over activity or dysfunction in brain regions is not the cause of anxiety – rather this activity is caused and supported by the 4 core element model outlined below.  It is these 4 Anchors that trigger brain dysfunction, and it is only by fully addressing these that a complete cessation of symptoms is achieved. The first step is to understand the nature, structure and cause of anxiety, and then we can begin to address the cause of the symptoms. Within our culture we use the words ‘anxious’ and ‘anxiety’ to mean both the emotion of fear and a varied and debilitating set of symptoms. This can be extremely confusing since fear, in the form of worry, nervous, scared, or dread, is often very different from the symptoms of anxiety or a panic disorder. I would argue that even though many anxiety symptoms can feel like fear, it’s also the case that many anxiety and panic symptoms do not feel like fear (see Anxiety Symptoms Checklist below). This means that is possible to experience anxiety symptoms without being afraid of anything. Even though anxiety can be related to the emotion of fear at a deep unconscious level, there are many instances when symptoms of anxiety are present and there is no evidence of the emotion of fear. Most sufferers of anxiety will experience fear about the symptoms; though fear of symptoms is not the cause of symptoms.  Fear can exacerbate symptoms and make sufferers of anxietyfeel significantly worse; however it is rarely, if ever, the underlying cause. So what causes anxiety symptoms? The first step is to embrace the notion that symptoms are feedback from body and brain.  Symptoms are not some nasty evil invader trying to make us suffer, they have reason for existing and that reason is to let us know that something is not right, something is blocked and out of balance. There are Four Core Elements that lock anxiety symptoms in place. When we address these four core elements, we not only banish anxiety symptoms, we open up to the possibility of experiencing ourselves in a whole new way. The 4 core energy-flow model comprises: - FEAR & AVOIDANCE OF SYMPTOMS. Anxiety is deeply uncomfortable so it can be a natural reaction to avoid situations and events that seem to cause anxiety. Avoidance can lead to more symptoms, so carefully navigating through this is the first step. - REWIRING THE EMOTIONAL SYSTEM. Our emotion has a massive impact on body and brain. Blockages and imbalances within the emotional system are significant causes and contributors to anxiety conditions as well as a huge range of other chronic health challenges. Yet, our understanding of the nature of emotion and how to effectively process and regulate it remain poor. This element focuses in revealing the true nature of emotion and critically how to connect with it and facilitate a flow. - WEARING A MASK: As we move through life and seek to get along, fit in, be accepted and do well, we unconsciously block our true nature and end up being more of who we are not than who we are. Anxiety symptoms often tell us when we are covering up who we are, or are disconnected from our authentic core. Reconnecting with our core and removing the shackles of who we used to be takes us a step closer to being anxiety free. - CONTROL & CREATION: Whether we like it or not, we play a significant role in the creation of our experience of life and reality. However, when shackled with anxiety we feel out of control, restricted as if we have lost our freedom. Learning how to create inner freedom and design our lives is the final piece of the puzzle. The four core element model uncovers a different perspective on the cause of anxiety conditions and embraces a full understanding of the nature of the human condition. It puts you back in the driver’s seat to return to your natural healthy self. Your natural state is to be connected and happy; all that’s needed is a little guidance to help you find the way back to your default setting.  

Counselling provides a space for you to explore your experiences and feelings in a respectful and confidential space. The focus of the conversation is to understand your experience and provide support to explore the ways in which you can introduce change into your life.  

Having experienced anxiety and fear myself, I understand that these emotions are often rooted in childhood experiences where there was little space to express feelings or where a child did not feel protected, supported, or safe. I help clients explore these emotional responses with curiosity and compassion rather than judgment. By understanding the roots of anxiety and creating safety within the body, it becomes possible to respond to life's challenges from the present moment rather than from old wounds.  

Anxiety is created by ruminating about the past or worrying about what might happen in the future. It is a misuse of the imagination combined with a hyper-vigilant nervous system. Excessive fears or phobias can be debilitating and people are often embarrassed to admit to them. You are not alone! Mind-body therapies address both the physical and mental (including the emotional and psychological) aspects of fear or anxiety. You can overwrite old patterns and learn more effective coping strategies.  

Talking about anxiety in therapy may initially feel overwhelming, but it is vital for your mental health journey. Identifying your specific concerns, including symptoms and triggers, is essential for effective management of anxiety. By openly discussing these elements with me, we can work together to develop strategies that will support you throughout the therapeutic process.  

Anxiety is an emotion that quickly gets out of control if we don’t understand what we are dealing with. A calm you is a better you...  

Anxiety or fear, where it is not appropriate in present circumstances, derives from the past and can be overcome when its origins are correctly identified. The need for approval underlies much anxiety. I will help you to identify the causes of the anxiety in your biography and resolve them, so that you no longer feel anxious.  

Identify the antecedents of fear and anxiety.  

Everyone gets anxious sometimes. But when anxiety stops you from living your life—when you're avoiding things that matter, waking up at 3am with your heart racing, or constantly scanning for danger even when you're safe—something deeper is going on. For some people, we find the root fairly quickly. For others, it takes more digging to understand why your nervous system learned to stay on high alert. Either way, we work together to understand what's driving it, then change it. Not just manage the symptoms, but actually address why your body thinks it needs to protect you all the time. Anxiety isn't a character flaw. It's your nervous system doing what it learned to do. We can help it learn something different.  

I am able to help immediately with anxiety and fears - I have a separate seminar that deals with these issues too...  

Anxiety can feel overwhelming, like it’s in the driver’s seat of your life. In our work together, we can gently explore the parts of you that hold fear and worry, and uncover the protective roles they’ve been playing. As an example you can learn to connect with these parts from a place of compassion, you’ll begin to feel more calm, confident, and in charge. Healing is possible—and you don’t have to do it alone. If you’re ready to find relief from anxiety and reconnect with your Self, I’m here to support you.  

I know first hand how anxiety or unprocessed fears can show up in our body and our mind - overthinking, imaging worst-case scenarios, heart racing. It can feel like sensations in our body are turned up full volume and as if everything else feels very far away and out of reach; it can be quite a destabilising and isolating experience. But it doesn´t have to be. Through support and training, I have learned to regulate and resource myself in times of worry and panic, to the point that I am hardly ever activated, and when I am, I know how to ride the wave with confidence and ease. I now pass on these practices with my clients who experience great relief from being able to brave the elements when their anxiety storm arises, empowering them to the point that the frequency, duration and intensity significantly reduces and they finally feel a sense of peace and calm within themselves again.  

Fear while a fundamental human healthy response, often in our culture and times become instead something that becomes a stopper instead of a warning system in our lives. Learning to manage and use your central nervous system in ways that serve you, to respond instead of react, allow you to reduce and manage fears and allows them to go back to being a warning system instead of driving your life. We select and try on for you from a combination of CBT, somatic work, breathwork and Central Nervous System work and others. This allows you to have a unique system for you to manage fear and return to a balance of how your body's system is meant to be.  

I am a Psycho-Spiritual Counsellor offering bespoke services using a combination of holistic and complementary intervention to help tackle anxieties and fears utilising a combination of hypnosis and meditation by addressing your physical and psychological responses that triggered the threat system into hyperactivity.  

Strategies to mitigate anxiety and understand this state of being.  

Everyone feels anxious some of the time. When it is persistent, however, that’s a sign it’s time to treat your anxiety. Persistent anxiety can affect your ability to enjoy life. You might feel a sense of consistent worry just beneath the surface of your thoughts, making it impossible for you to focus. Your thoughts might race so quickly that you feel as though your head will explode. It doesn’t have to be this way.  

Anxiety and fear often points to the meaning of something that might happen in the future. It may be the fear of losing your job or a relationship that is struggling. It may be the anxiety from the responsibility that come with living in the modern world and what might feel like no freedom. I believe most often, anxiety is telling you something useful and critical in you life that require exploration. I invite you to come and explore your anxiety with curiosity and what it is trying to tell you. With that awareness, new choices may appear.  

Anxiety, Fear & Emotional Overwhelm - Complimentary Consultation Do you often feel weighed down by anxiety or persistent mental tension? For many people with ADHD and other forms of neurodivergence, anxiety develops as the mind tries to manage overwhelm, uncertainty and constant mental activity. Together we explore the connection between attention, emotions and the nervous system, and develop practical ways to regulate anxiety, regain emotional balance and respond to challenges with greater clarity and confidence. Using a neuroscience-informed and strengths-based approach, I help clients build healthier emotional patterns so anxiety no longer drives their decisions or limits their life. Book a complimentary consultation to explore whether this approach is right for you.  

Anxiety is essentially rooted in a heightened state of vigilance and tension. We have 'forgotten' how to let go. Here's a simple example. When we cross a busy road or drive a car we need to be extra vigilant and aware of our surroundings. We don't need that same level of attention when sitting comfortably at home, yet somehow it is still there. By bringing this habitual tension into conscious awareness and exploring its origins, we can help your nervous system rediscover how to unwind and embrace life fully.