Online Perfectionism therapists in Charlotte, North Carolina NC
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First-Aid Counseling, PLLC
Counselor/Therapist, LCMHC, LCASA, LCSW
Perfectionism can create pressure, anxiety, and feelings of never being good enough. Therapy helps clients understand the roots of perfectionism, challenge unrealistic expectations, and develop greater self-compassion and balance.
3 Years Experience
Online in Charlotte, NC (Online Only)
Montgomery Counseling Group
Licensed Clinical Social Worker, LCSW, LCSWA, LCMHC, LCMHCA
We work with clients who feel driven by high expectations, fear of failure, people-pleasing, or relentless self-criticism. Therapy helps soften rigid patterns and build a more flexible, compassionate sense of self-worth.
35 Years Experience
Online in Charlotte, NC
Maria Jose Rendon
Psychologist, Ph.D.
I work with adults whose perfectionism has stopped serving them, professionals and scientists who are high performing but burning out int he workplace and privately exhausted by their own inner critic. My approach is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, trained through the Beck Institute, which helps identify the specific thought patterns driving perfectionistic behavior and build a more sustainable relationship with achievement. Many of my clients are first-generation Latinx professionals, for whom perfectionism is often tied to family expectations and the pressure of being the first to do what they do. Sessions are structured and goal-oriented, so progress is something you can see and track, not just feel.
9 Years Experience
Online in Charlotte, NC (Online Only)
Dr. Elizabeth Coldren
Psychologist, PSYD, PSYPACT
I work with people who hold themselves to very high standards and feel the cost of that internally. Perfectionism can look like overworking, difficulty stopping, constant self‑criticism, or a sense that nothing is ever quite enough. It can also look like procrastination, avoidance, or shutting down when something feels too overwhelming or too important to get wrong. Many people I see are highly responsible and often successful on the outside, but feel tense, depleted, or quietly anxious much of the time.
Perfectionism often develops as a way to stay safe, cope with unpredictability, or manage early experiences where being competent, careful, or invisible felt necessary. Over time, these strategies can become exhausting. You may notice that you rarely feel satisfied, that rest feels undeserved, or that you are harder on yourself than anyone else would ever be, even when you are doing your best.
In our work together, we make space for the part of you that strives and the part of you that is tired of striving. Rather than forcing you to “let go” of high standards, we get curious about what perfectionism has been protecting and what it is costing you now. We pay attention to how perfectionism shows up in your body, thoughts, and relationships, and look for ways of relating to yourself that are still responsible and thoughtful but less punishing, so you can experience more ease, satisfaction, and permission to be human in your work, relationships, and inner life. Working with perfectionism is a central part of my practice, and I have deep respect for how hard you’ve been working to hold everything together.
26 Years Experience
Online in Charlotte, NC
Lynette Cisneros
Counselor/Therapist, LCMHC, LMHC
Perfectionism is an exhausting, unattainable self sabotage. Odds are you won't reach it because you will change the goal posts on yourself or minimize the outcome anyways. We will work to interrupt the unrealistic expectations you are putting upon yourself and others. Oftentimes the accompanying anxiety, compare & despair thinking, OCD/OCPD tendencies and/or the faulty messaging in youth will have to be deconstructed, redirected and released.
25 Years Experience
Online in Charlotte, NC (Online Only)
Shareece Cannonier
Psychologist, PsyD
I can help you create systems that help you meet your goals while also having peace of mind.
7 Years Experience
Online in Charlotte, NC (Online Only)
Juniper Mental Health
Psychologist, PhD
Perfectionism is not problematic for everyone, but for some, the drive to always do more and be better can have a negative impact on their daily stress, relationships, and take away from the life they want to be living. We have several providers on our team who have authored books and research on this very topic. Reach out to consult with our perfectionism specialists to discuss treatment.
8 Years Experience
Online in Charlotte, NC (Online Only)
Bobby Newell
Licensed Clinical Social Worker, LCSW, SEP
I specialize in working with individuals who struggle with perfectionism—the constant pressure to get everything right, meet high expectations, and avoid mistakes at all costs. While perfectionism can look like success on the outside, it often comes with anxiety, burnout, and a harsh inner critic that’s hard to turn off. Together, we focus on understanding the patterns driving perfectionism and building more flexible, sustainable ways of thinking and responding. My approach combines practical tools with mind-body awareness, helping you reduce pressure, increase self-trust, and show up more fully—without feeling like everything has to be perfect first.
27 Years Experience
Online in Charlotte, NC
Sarah Eisenhauer Counseling
Counselor/Therapist, LCMHC, LCPC, LPC, AADC
If you struggle with fear of failure, a sense that no matter what you do, it's not good enough, or a fear that if you relax, everything will fall apart, you may be a perfectionist! This can be such a big strength in terms of motivation and success, but can also take a huge toll. We can work together to identify what drives your perfectionism, and what your true values are that can guide you forward.
17 Years Experience
Online in Charlotte, NC
Alyssa Smyth
Psychologist, PhD
If you hold yourself to very high standards yet rarely feel satisfied with your efforts, perfectionism may be driving constant pressure beneath the surface. While striving for excellence can be a strength, perfectionism often brings self-criticism, worry about mistakes, and difficulty slowing down. Therapy focuses on understanding these patterns and developing healthier ways to pursue high standards without the chronic strain.
6 Years Experience
Online in Charlotte, NC
Kelsey Grant
Licensed Mental Health Counselor, LCMHCA
Perfectionism is almost always a part doing its best to keep you safe — from criticism, from failure, from being seen as not enough. It's not a flaw to fix. It's a protector with an exhausting job. When we get curious about what that part is actually afraid of, and what it's been carrying, the grip tends to loosen in ways that willpower alone never could.
5 Years Experience
Online in Charlotte, NC
Emily Stone
Marriage and Family Therapist, MA, MDiv, PhD, LMFT-S
Perfectionism: The High Cost of Being "Flawless"
Moving from Performance to Presence
Perfectionism is often rewarded by society, but internally, it can feel like a relentless taskmaster. It is the persistent whisper that says you are only as good as your last achievement, leading to a life of high-functioning burnout and a profound disconnection from your true self. In my practice, we don’t just "lower your standards"; we investigate the attachment roots of why "being perfect" became your primary strategy for safety and belonging.
The Perfectionist’s Paradox
Perfectionism isn't actually about excellence—it’s about protection. We work together to untangle:
The Procrastination Loop: Addressing the "all-or-nothing" thinking that leads to demand avoidance and paralyzing anxiety when a task feels too important to start.
Rejection Sensitivity: Understanding how the fear of a "flaw" is actually a fear of disconnection. If you aren't perfect, will you still be worthy of love and respect?
The "Shame-Vigilance" Cycle: The exhausting effort of "masking" your struggles to maintain a composed exterior, leading to a systemic shut down.
A Systems-Rooted Clinical Approach
With over 20 years of experience, I use a deep-reaching framework to help you trade "perfection" for "wholeness":
IFS-Informed Parts Work: We get curious about the "Perfectionist Part" of your system. This part likely took on its job very early to protect you from criticism or instability. We work to help this part feel safe enough to finally rest.
EMDR for Performance Anxiety: We use EMDR to process past memories of "failure" or moments where your worth was tied to your performance, neutralizing the triggers that fuel today's perfectionism.
Somatic Regulation: We learn to recognize the physical tension of "trying too hard" and use grounding tools to expand your Window of Tolerance, allowing you to be present even when things are messy.
For the "Professional" Perfectionists
As someone who works extensively with therapists, pastors, and professors, I understand the unique pressure of having to be a "model" of wellness or wisdom. I provide a confidential, courageous space where you can drop the "expert" mask and explore the messy, beautiful reality of being human.
21 Years Experience
Online in Charlotte, NC (Online Only)
Congruence Counseling Group
Counselor/Therapist, MSW, LCSW, M.Ed. LCMHC, LMFT
Congruence Counseling Group can help individuals struggling with perfectionism understand the pressures and thought patterns that drive unrealistic expectations. Clients learn to develop self-compassion, manage stress, and create healthier standards for themselves, allowing for greater balance, confidence, and emotional wellbeing.
20 Years Experience
Online in Charlotte, NC
Nour Counseling
Counselor/Therapist
Perfectionism is often praised—but let’s be clear: most of what gets called “perfectionism” is actually pressure. Pressure to perform, to be liked, to get it right, to not mess up in a world that doesn’t give you much room to be human. A lot of those standards don’t come from you. They come from dominant cultural norms—productivity, achievement, appearance, success—that you’ve been taught to internalize, even when they don’t actually match what you value. So you keep pushing, overthinking, over-preparing, holding yourself to impossible expectations… and still feeling like it’s not enough.
At Nour Counseling, we don’t treat perfectionism like a personality quirk or something to “optimize.” We take it apart. We help you identify where these standards came from, how they’ve been reinforced, and what they’re costing you—your time, your energy, your relationships, your sense of self. From there, we actively work with you to build something different: clearer values, more flexible thinking, and ways of showing up that don’t require constant self-pressure to maintain. This includes learning how to tolerate imperfection, make decisions without over-analysis, and step out of cycles that keep you stuck. This work is about reclaiming your life from expectations that were never really yours—and building one that actually reflects what matters to you.
9 Years Experience
Online in Charlotte, NC (Online Only)
Dr. Brittany Jacobson
Psychologist, PhD, CST
Perfectionism often looks like high standards on the surface, but underneath can be a fear of failure, criticism, or not being enough. I help you understand the roots of these patterns while gradually loosening their grip. Together, we will work toward a more flexible, self-compassionate way of relating to yourself and your goals. This way you can still be productive but also feel more at peace.
10 Years Experience
Online in Charlotte, NC
Kamini Wood
Life Coach, FHH, CLC, CPM
Perfectionism is rarely about getting everything right. It is often a survival pattern that develops when you've learned that mistakes are unsafe, success earns acceptance, or your value depends on what you accomplish. While perfectionism may have helped you achieve, it can also leave you feeling anxious, exhausted, and disconnected from yourself.
Together, we'll uncover the patterns beneath perfectionism, quiet your inner critic, strengthen self-trust, and help you embrace progress over perfection. My goal is to help you pursue excellence from a place of confidence and authenticity rather than fear and self-protection.
8 Years Experience
Online in Charlotte, NC (Online Only)
Shelley Klammer
Counselor/Therapist, MTC, REACE, FOT, CHyp
Do you silently struggle with emotional overwhelm, anxiety or depression? Do you appear successful, cheerful, and emotionally stable on the outside while privately experiencing emotional pain? I specialize in working with women who have perfectionist tendencies and currently feel a disconnection from their authentic selves.
Like all people, you have a unique longing in your heart for something higher and more fulfilling. This differs from perfect ego fantasies seeking to compensate for core wound pain. You might have a genuine soul longing for a beautiful love relationship or financial freedom, for example. You might ache to express who you truly are in the world, or perhaps you want to find your core strength and accomplish something magnificent. Your deeper joy is blocked by unhealed childhood core wound pain, and it can be healed.
20 Years Experience
Online in Charlotte, NC (Online Only)
Scot Seitz
Psychologist, PhD
I provide a tailored therapy approach for addressing perfectionism that is based on your specific goals. I draw on evidence-based approaches, including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT).
12 Years Experience
Online in Charlotte, NC (Online Only)
Wildflower Therapy Group
Licensed Clinical Social Worker, LCSW, C-IAYT
At Wildflower Therapy Group, we help clients explore perfectionism with compassion and curiosity. Therapy can support clients in understanding the deeper fears, pressure, or self-protective patterns behind perfectionism while building more self-compassion, flexibility, and a stronger sense of worth beyond performance.
6 Years Experience
Online in Charlotte, NC
Jessica Anderson, PsyD
Psychologist, PsyD
Big changes—starting high school or college, changing schools, moving, or figuring out what comes next—can bring uncertainty, stress, and self-doubt. Even positive transitions can feel overwhelming. I help teens and young adults navigate these shifts with more clarity and confidence, building coping skills, resilience, and a stronger sense of direction so you can move forward feeling more grounded.
21 Years Experience
Online in Charlotte, NC (Online Only)
Charlotte's position as a major banking and financial hub drives strong demand for therapists specializing in workplace stress, perfectionism, and the particular pressures of corporate and executive careers. The city has grown rapidly through domestic migration, and therapists frequently work with the isolation, loneliness, and adjustment difficulties common among newcomers building community in a fast-growing city. Charlotte also has a strong faith community, and many therapists offer faith-integrated approaches alongside evidence-based treatment for clients who value that alignment. Atrium Health and Novant Health serve as the city's major institutional mental health anchors.
Perfectionism therapists in Charlotte, North Carolina Statistics
Perfectionism therapists in Charlotte, North Carolina average 15 years of experience and charge around $204 per session. 100% offer online sessions. The most commonly treated issues are Perfectionism (100%), Anxiety or Fears (89%), and Depression (81%).
Average years in practice
15 Years Experience
Average cost per session
$204
Gender ID
| 72% |
Female |
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| 16% |
Male |
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| 7% |
Gender Fluid |
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| 5% |
Non-Binary |
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Session Type
| 56% |
Online Only |
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| 44% |
In Person and Online |
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Top Specialties
| 100% | Perfectionism |
| 89% | Anxiety or Fears |
| 81% | Depression |
| 81% | Life Transitions |
| 81% | Stress |
| 78% | Self Esteem |
| 72% | Trauma and PTSD |