Psychodynamic therapists in Bainbridge Island, WA

Dr. Nicole Montes is a licensed clinical psychologist who offers person-centered psychotherapy from a feminist lens, diversity informed lens. She specializes perinatal mental health certified (PMH-C) and specializes in chronic pain/disability & trauma. She stands for reproductive freedom, racial justice and the rights of trans and non-binary people and weaves these values into her work as a psychologist.  

I work with individuals and couples who are wanting to find more connection, a deeper sense of meaning, and find their way out of the relational and internal doldrums. I am not here to "fix you" but instead, to help you become to more alive to your experience.  

I work especially well with thoughtful, capable people who may understand themselves intellectually yet continue to feel caught in patterns they cannot resolve through insight or effort alone. Many of my patients are accustomed to functioning well, carrying responsibility, and caring for others while privately struggling with anxiety, depletion, shame, emotional overwhelm, or disconnection from themselves. What distinguishes my practice is the depth and individuality of the work. I do not reduce people to diagnoses or apply the same treatment formula to everyone. I seek to understand how your history, relationships, identities, strengths, and protective strategies have shaped your inner world. I am attentive not only to what you tell me, but also to what may be difficult to articulate, what repeatedly gets enacted in relationships, and what unfolds between us in therapy. My style is thoughtful, engaged, and collaborative. I respect complexity and do not impose artificial urgency, but I am not passive. I will help us notice when fear, avoidance, or familiar patterns begin to limit what feels possible. My goal is to offer a relationship in which you can become more fully known, develop a different relationship with your internal experience, and gain greater freedom to choose how you want to live.  

Having been in the field for over 30 years, I consider myself to be a seasoned generalist. I enjoy working with people presenting with a broad range of psychological concerns. Some of my areas of interest and specialty include Sexuality and Gender, Identity Development, Mindfulness, and Spirituality. My work is inclusive and queer-affirming. I enjoy working with relationship dynamics of all types, and my approach is interpersonal and depth oriented.  

In a world that can feel isolating and overwhelming, you might be struggling with connection, stuck in old patterns, or feeling like something is missing. You don't have to figure it out alone. I specialize in working with men who are struggling with old unproductive habits, isolation, and the challenges of intimacy in relationships.  

I believe therapy should be a space where you feel comfortable, understood, and supported as you navigate life’s challenges. My approach is compassionate and empowering—I work collaboratively with you to uncover patterns in your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors that may be holding you back. Together, we’ll identify these cycles and develop tools to help you break free from them, build healthier ways of thinking, and create lasting change. My goal is to help you strengthen self-awareness, increase emotional resilience, and move toward a more balanced and fulfilling life.  

Clients often share that they feel at ease working with me because I bring warmth, authenticity, and genuine care into each session. I value real connection and strive to create a space where clients can show up exactly as they are—without pretense or pressure. While I maintain a professional approach, I also believe that being human together matters; I’m genuine in my communication, often imperfect, and always deeply invested in helping clients feel understood and supported as they move toward healing and growth.  

I offer somatic, integrative therapy for adults seeking healing, clarity, and connection. Welcome, I’m so glad you’re here. I’m Vanessa, a licensed psychotherapist, advanced-level Somatic Experiencing® practitioner, and certified yoga instructor. I come to this work with deep reverence for the human spirit and all the ways it learns to survive. Whether you're beginning your healing journey or returning to it, I invite you to explore what’s possible, together.  

I offer a thoughtful, collaborative therapy space grounded in both compassion and clinical insight. Clients who work with me often seek deeper understanding, meaningful change, and adaptive ways of relating to themselves and others. Together, we explore patterns, build emotional awareness, and support lasting growth so you can move through life with greater clarity, confidence, and authenticity.  

Hi, I’m Ryan. I became a therapist because I know how powerful it can be to have someone genuinely in your corner. Someone who sees the good in you when you’re struggling to see it yourself, who stays grounded when life feels overwhelming, and who believes that your current circumstances do not have to define your future. I believe people are capable of meaningful change, even after years of feeling stuck, lonely, anxious, disconnected, or shaped by painful experiences. Sometimes we simply need a relationship in which we feel safe enough to be honest, supported enough to take risks, and gently challenged enough to begin doing things differently. I hope to offer that kind of relationship to my clients. My path to becoming a therapist has not been entirely conventional. I grew up in Bellingham, Washington, earned degrees abroad in Italy and Spain, and previously worked as both a marketer and a psychometrist before entering the counseling profession. Living in different countries and moving through several professional worlds taught me to be curious about people. Their stories, cultures, relationships, contradictions, and the experiences that shape how they see themselves. In therapy, I want to know the person behind the symptoms. I want to understand what you long for, what keeps getting in the way, what you learned about yourself growing up, and who you might become if fear, shame, trauma, or self-doubt were no longer making so many of your decisions. You do not need to arrive with the perfect explanation for what is wrong. You may simply know that you feel lonely, overwhelmed, disconnected from yourself, haunted by the past, or tired of repeating the same relationship patterns. You may be outwardly successful while privately feeling insecure or lost. You may want deeper relationships but find yourself withdrawing, avoiding vulnerability, choosing unavailable partners, or questioning whether anyone could truly understand you. Whatever brings you here, you do not have to perform or pretend with me. I aim to create a space where you can speak honestly. Even about the thoughts, experiences, desires, fears, and parts of yourself that feel difficult to share elsewhere. My style is warm, grounded, direct, and deeply human. I will listen without judgment, but I will not simply nod along with everything you say. When helpful, I will gently challenge the beliefs or patterns that may be keeping you stuck. I believe we can be compassionate toward ourselves while also taking responsibility for creating change. Therapy with me is both insight-oriented and action-oriented. We will explore how early relationships, childhood experiences, unconscious beliefs, and protective behaviors may still influence your life today. I take an Adlerian and psychodynamic approach, meaning I am interested in the deeper story beneath your current struggles. However, I do not believe your past permanently determines who you are. Awareness gives us choices. Once we understand why a pattern developed and what purpose it once served, we can begin deciding whether it still belongs in the life you want today. Insight is important, but I also want therapy to extend beyond the hour we spend together. Depending on your goals, I may suggest small behavioral challenges (what I sometimes call “missions”) to help you practice new ways of relating to yourself and others. That might involve initiating an uncomfortable conversation, setting a boundary, reaching out to someone instead of isolating, tolerating the possibility of rejection, making eye contact, expressing a need, or interrupting a pattern of avoidance. These challenges are collaborative and paced carefully. The goal is not to overwhelm you or push you before you are ready. Instead, we gradually build your capacity to do things that once felt impossible. Little by little, you begin gathering evidence that you can survive discomfort, respond differently, and become more secure in yourself. I also use evidence-based approaches such as Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing therapy, or EMDR, as well as Cognitive Processing Therapy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. These approaches can be especially helpful when painful memories, traumatic experiences, intrusive thoughts, or deeply rooted negative beliefs continue to affect your relationships and daily life. We can discuss these options together and determine what feels most appropriate for you. Therapy is not one-size-fits-all, and I want you to understand and feel comfortable with the work we are doing. Many of the people who feel drawn to my practice are young adults, members of Gen Z and the millennial generation, and people who want to build more meaningful relationships. I often work with men experiencing loneliness, insecurity, relationship difficulties, or questions related to sexual identity. I particularly value working with gay and bisexual men and hope to provide a space where you can explore identity, dating, intimacy, coming out, attachment, and relationship dynamics without having to explain or defend who you are. I also enjoy working with women navigating attachment concerns, dating patterns, motherhood, single parenthood, major transitions, and the desire to form healthier, more secure relationships. Across identities, I tend to connect well with people who are introspective, curious about themselves, and ready to move toward a life that feels more authentic, even if they are not yet sure how to get there. My goal is not for therapy to become the only place where you feel known and supported. I want the trust we build together to ripple outward into the rest of your life. Over time, I hope you become more comfortable expressing yourself, navigating conflict, forming close relationships, recovering from setbacks, and allowing others to truly know you. Ultimately, my goal is to help you build a life so full, secure, and meaningful that you no longer need therapy in the same way. Outside of my work, I enjoy spending time with my fiancé, family, and friends. I love being outdoors, walking through neighborhoods and cities, riding my bike, growing food, and working on DIY and home-renovation projects. I also practice Vipassana meditation, although, like many people, not quite as consistently as I would like. These parts of my life help me stay curious, grounded, and connected to the ordinary moments that make life feel meaningful. Choosing a therapist is deeply personal. Training and therapeutic methods matter, but so does the feeling you have when you speak with someone. You deserve a therapist with whom you can gradually lower your guard and feel more like yourself. A free consultation is an opportunity for us to talk, for you to ask questions, and for you to get a sense of my personality and approach without pressure. You do not need to commit before knowing whether the connection feels right. I would be honored to meet you, hear what has been happening in your life, and explore whether I might be the person to walk alongside you as you begin creating something different.