Online Perfectionism therapists in Ramona, California CA
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Perfectionism
Danielle Esses
Psychologist, PsyD
Perfectionism can look like high standards on the surface, but often comes with anxiety, self-criticism, and difficulty feeling satisfied or at ease. Therapy helps you understand the function of these patterns and develop a more flexible, sustainable way of approaching achievement and self-worth.
8 Years Experience
Online in Ramona, CA
Perfectionism
Melanie Simms
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
I believe that self-compassion is the antidote for perfectionism. I work with clients to heal from early traumatic experiences that may have led to the development of perfectionism as a coping mechanism. I help clients develop their overall feeling of self-worth and treat themselves with greater compassion to reduce perfectionistic tendencies.
11 Years Experience
Online in Ramona, CA
Perfectionism
J. Rosalyn Diehl
Licensed Mental Health Counselor, MA, LMHC, LPPC, LPC
Perfectionism can leave you feeling stuck in a cycle of overthinking, self-doubt, and relentless pressure to meet impossible standards. You may struggle with fear of failure, difficulty relaxing, or feeling like your worth is tied to achievement. I help women identify the patterns that fuel perfectionism, build self-compassion, and develop healthier, more balanced ways of approaching life and relationships.
12 Years Experience
Online in Ramona, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Sandy Kong
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT 119380
Therapy for perfectionism focuses on reducing rigid, unrealistic standards, and alleviating associated anxiety, depression, or burnout. Perfectionism is seen as a trauma response. Trauma has shaped someone's life into believing that they have to be "perfect" in order to be "loveable" or "worthy". The most effective approach is generally learning how to identify and challenge distorted beliefs; changing your relationship with perfectionistic thoughts and focusing on values over flawlessness; exploring early life experiences and deep-rooted causes behind the need for control; develop
mindfulness-based approaches to help manage anxiety by staying present, reducing the need for constant, perfect self-presentation; and cultivating kindness toward oneself, especially when facing imperfections or failures.
11 Years Experience
Online in Ramona, CA
Perfectionism
Tara McGrath
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
You may not identify as a "perfectionist" because you're not doing things perfectly. In reality, people who struggle with perfectionism feel like they're never performing well enough, and they can always find the flaws in everything they do. These tendencies can also with correlate with procrastination. I work with people to improve their self-compassion and self-worth to allow for excellence instead of unrealistic perfection.
23 Years Experience
Online in Ramona, CA
Perfectionism
Elizabeth Nims
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
For those experiencing perfectionism, I can help you understand the origins of this belief and give skills to shift to seeking excellence over perfectionism and understanding your innate worth.
7 Years Experience
Online in Ramona, CA
Perfectionism
Dr. Michael Marossy
Psychologist, Ph.D.
Perfectionism often involves far more than simply having high standards. Many individuals struggling with perfectionism experience chronic self-criticism, fear of failure, anxiety, procrastination, emotional burnout, shame, difficulty relaxing, or a persistent feeling that they are never “good enough” regardless of achievement or external success.
I help clients better understand the emotional and relational roots of perfectionistic patterns while developing greater self-compassion, psychological flexibility, and a healthier relationship with achievement, performance, and self-worth. Therapy focuses on reducing rigid thinking and chronic pressure while helping clients build more balanced, meaningful, and emotionally sustainable ways of living.
8 Years Experience
Online in Ramona, CA
Perfectionism
Shelley Klammer
Counselor/Therapist, MTC, REACE, FOT, CHyp
Do you silently struggle with emotional overwhelm, anxiety or depression? Do you appear successful, cheerful, and emotionally stable on the outside while privately experiencing emotional pain? I specialize in working with women who have perfectionist tendencies and currently feel a disconnection from their authentic selves.
Like all people, you have a unique longing in your heart for something higher and more fulfilling. This differs from perfect ego fantasies seeking to compensate for core wound pain. You might have a genuine soul longing for a beautiful love relationship or financial freedom, for example. You might ache to express who you truly are in the world, or perhaps you want to find your core strength and accomplish something magnificent. Your deeper joy is blocked by unhealed childhood core wound pain, and it can be healed.
20 Years Experience
Online in Ramona, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Heidi Hartston
Psychologist, PhD
Therapy can help you navigate the traps related to perfectionism, including procrastination, self-criticism, fear of failure, imposter syndrome, overthinking and fear of falling short. We can work to quiet the inner critic, address black and white thinking in evaluating yourself and your work, and find purpose driven motivation (rather than fear driven). Shifting your inner conversation can result in great relief and can unlock your creativity, reinvigorate your interest and have you feeling proud of your work and your skillset. I combine insightful, caring depth work with evidence based techniques that effectively free you from self-sabotaging patterns, and help you to build the balanced, happy life you deserve.
35 Years Experience
Online in Ramona, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
New Beginnings Christian Counseling
Marriage and Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Perfectionism can feel like a constant pressure to perform, achieve, or appear “good enough,” often leaving you exhausted, anxious, or self-critical. It’s usually rooted in early experiences, fear of failure, or unmet expectations. In therapy, we explore the beliefs driving perfectionistic patterns, develop healthier self-compassion, and create practical strategies for balance and emotional freedom. With Christ-centered guidance, you’ll learn to embrace progress over perfection, honor your worth, and live with greater peace and authenticity.
15 Years Experience
Online in Ramona, CA
Perfectionism
Wildflower Therapy Group
Licensed Clinical Social Worker, LCSW, C-IAYT
At Wildflower Therapy Group, we help clients explore perfectionism with compassion and curiosity. Therapy can support clients in understanding the deeper fears, pressure, or self-protective patterns behind perfectionism while building more self-compassion, flexibility, and a stronger sense of worth beyond performance.
6 Years Experience
Online in Ramona, CA
Perfectionism
Michelle Roberts
Licensed Clinical Social Worker, LCSW
It can feel like a treadmill that you can't slow down. Goal posts always moving. Let's unpack the origin story of this struggle and start making small shifts that honor your needs and boundaries.
12 Years Experience
Online in Ramona, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Mia Turner
Therapist, MA, RYT, ASDCS, LMFT, NPT-C, CMNCS, CMIP
Perfectionism is often less about striving for excellence and more about seeking safety, belonging, predictability, acceptance, or protection. It can develop in response to trauma, marginalization, giftedness, neurodivergence, family expectations, racism, ableism, cultural pressures, high-achievement environments, or experiences where mistakes felt costly and being "good enough" never quite felt good enough.
What is often labeled as perfectionism may also reflect a nervous system that learned to stay vigilant, perform, overprepare, overachieve, self-monitor, mask, or anticipate problems in order to avoid criticism, rejection, disappointment, conflict, shame, or harm. For many people, perfectionism becomes intertwined with identity, self-worth, productivity, competence, and the belief that value must be earned rather than inherently possessed. It may show up as chronic self-criticism, difficulty resting, procrastination, overthinking, people-pleasing, hyper-independence, fear of failure, fear of success, difficulty making decisions, or feeling as though there is always more that should be done.
This work explores the protective role perfectionism has played throughout your life while examining the ways it may be impacting relationships, wellbeing, creativity, joy, authenticity, and connection with yourself. Particular attention is given to the influence of family systems, culture, gender, neurodivergence, trauma, and the internalized narratives that shape how you relate to achievement, mistakes, success, failure, worthiness, and belonging.
My approach is grounded in the belief that perfectionism is often an adaptive survival strategy rather than a personal flaw. Rather than attempting to simply eliminate perfectionistic tendencies, we become curious about what those parts are protecting, what they fear might happen if they loosened their grip, and what needs may exist beneath the pressure to perform. Using EMDR, somatic therapy, mindfulness, polyvagal-informed practices, parts work, neuropsychotherapy, expressive arts, attachment-focused approaches, and liberation-oriented healing, therapy supports developing a more compassionate relationship with the parts of yourself that learned to equate achievement with safety.
Attention is also given to the ways perfectionism lives in the body and nervous system. This may include chronic tension, difficulty slowing down, overactivation, self-monitoring, exhaustion, difficulty experiencing satisfaction, or feeling unable to rest without guilt. Through greater awareness of sensation, emotion, nervous system states, and embodied experience, space is created for increased flexibility, self-trust, self-compassion, and choice.
The goal is not to stop caring, striving, creating, achieving, or growing. It is to cultivate a relationship with yourself that is not dependent upon performance, productivity, approval, or getting everything right. Often, the work involves reclaiming authenticity, playfulness, creativity, rest, joy, pace, and the internal permission to be fully human rather than a constant self-improvement project.
10 Years Experience
Online in Ramona, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Melissa Berschauer
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
Holding yourself to impossible standards usually results in a lot of anxiety and procrastination rather than actual satisfaction. Feeling burned out is sometimes the next level of perfectionism. I help you untangle your worth from your productivity, allowing you to breathe a little easier without losing your drive.
14 Years Experience
Online in Ramona, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Kristina Anzell
Licensed Clinical Social Worker, LCSW, CPSC
You are used to putting in extra work to get it right. When you don't do something right the first time, you beat yourself up and then spend time learning, researching and then don't stop trying until you get it perfect. The issue... babies do not work that way. They are all different, they are not predictable and they are not able to be controlled. You are spending too much time and energy on something that is "supposed to come naturally" and it feels awful! Get the support you need!
10 Years Experience
Online in Ramona, CA
Perfectionism
Three Oaks Behavioral Health & Wellness
Licensed Clinical Social Worker, LCSW, LCMHC, LCAS
Helping clients reduce rigid expectations and develop more flexible, self-compassionate thinking.
7 Years Experience
Online in Ramona, CA
Perfectionism
G. Roman Gupta, LCSW
Therapist, LCSW
I have been practicing for almost 20 years and I have a strength-based, trauma-informed, culturally aware, LGBTQ+ affirmative, sex positive, kink positive, poly affirming, feminist perspective. I have trained and practiced in a variety of treatment methods that offer us a variety of ways to meet your goals whether as an individual, couple, or family.
18 Years Experience
Online in Ramona, CA
Perfectionism
Liza Roth, MA, LMFT
Marriage and Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Perfectionism isn't about doing things perfectly, it's about finding fault easily. Somewhere along the way, you came to believe that if you did things perfectly, you would be safe and free from worry. Instead, you are still full of worry and are just plain exhausted. Let's work together to figure out how perfectionism serves you, how it doesn't, and how you can find balance and inner peace.
5 Years Experience
Online in Ramona, CA
Perfectionism
David Sudyka
Marriage and Family Therapist, Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, MA
Perfectionism can create constant pressure to get everything right, often leading to stress, procrastination, or feeling like nothing is ever good enough. It can be hard to relax or feel satisfied with what you accomplish. In therapy we will work on understanding where these patterns come from and how to shift them into something more balanced. The goal is to help you feel more flexible, more self accepting, and less weighed down by expectations.
4 Years Experience
Online in Ramona, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Mary Mallinson Therapy
Licensed Clinical Social Worker, LCSW
Perfectionism often shows up as pressure, self-criticism, and fear of failure. Together, we explore the roots of perfectionism and work toward building self-compassion, flexibility, and a more balanced, sustainable way of relating to yourself.
5 Years Experience
Online in Ramona, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism therapists in Ramona, California Statistics
Perfectionism therapists in Ramona, California average 13 years of experience and charge around $203 per session. 100% offer online sessions. The most commonly treated issues are Perfectionism (100%), Trauma and PTSD (83%), and Anxiety or Fears (80%).
Average years in practice
13 Years Experience
Average cost per session
$203
Gender ID
| 71% |
Female |
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| 15% |
Male |
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| 7% |
Non-Binary |
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| 7% |
Gender Fluid |
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Session Type
| 55% |
In Person and Online |
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| 45% |
Online Only |
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Top Specialties
| 100% | Perfectionism |
| 83% | Trauma and PTSD |
| 80% | Anxiety or Fears |
| 78% | Life Transitions |
| 75% | Stress |
| 70% | Depression |
| 65% | Self Esteem |