Online Perfectionism therapists in San Rafael, California CA
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Perfectionism
Allie Michie, MS
Marriage and Family Therapist, AMFT159347
Perfectionism often looks like high standards from the outside, but on the inside it can feel like never being enough. I work with clients to get curious about where that drive comes from, what it's protecting, and how to build a relationship with yourself that's a little more honest and a lot more kind.
2 Years Experience
Online in San Rafael, CA
Perfectionism
Rose Snyder, EdM, PsyD, LLC
Psychologist, PsyD
I generally view myself as a "recovering perfectionist" and would be happy to support you in your journey with this as well! I find that empathy and validation go a long way with this, as well as a focus on radical self-acceptance and self-compassion. We may work on direct coping skills, adjusting your internal self-dialogue, and developing mindful self-compassion skills in a more formalized way as needed. I strive for all of my clients to accept themselves as "perfectly imperfect humans," as we all are.
23 Years Experience
Online in San Rafael, CA
Perfectionism
Sandy Kong
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT 119380
Therapy for perfectionism focuses on reducing rigid, unrealistic standards, and alleviating associated anxiety, depression, or burnout. Perfectionism is seen as a trauma response. Trauma has shaped someone's life into believing that they have to be "perfect" in order to be "loveable" or "worthy". The most effective approach is generally learning how to identify and challenge distorted beliefs; changing your relationship with perfectionistic thoughts and focusing on values over flawlessness; exploring early life experiences and deep-rooted causes behind the need for control; develop
mindfulness-based approaches to help manage anxiety by staying present, reducing the need for constant, perfect self-presentation; and cultivating kindness toward oneself, especially when facing imperfections or failures.
11 Years Experience
Online in San Rafael, CA
Perfectionism
Danielle Esses
Psychologist, PsyD
Perfectionism can look like high standards on the surface, but often comes with anxiety, self-criticism, and difficulty feeling satisfied or at ease. Therapy helps you understand the function of these patterns and develop a more flexible, sustainable way of approaching achievement and self-worth.
8 Years Experience
Online in San Rafael, CA
Perfectionism
Julie Cochrane - Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT) Therapist
Hypnotherapist, Clinical Hypnotherapist, RTT-T, Rewind Therapy Practitioner, Integration Coaching
Perfectionism is not really about high standards. It is about safety. Somewhere along the way, the subconscious decided that being good enough, being beyond criticism or being in complete control was the way to be safe and accepted. That decision then becomes a daily tax: overworking, second-guessing, never quite arriving. RTT goes back to the moment that decision was made and updates the meaning underneath it. The standards can stay. What changes is the price you pay to meet them. Most of my perfectionist clients are women in leadership, founders or creatives. The work is online via Zoom and confidential.
6 Years Experience
Online in San Rafael, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Nes Pinar Psychotherapy
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
Many people don’t realize that perfectionism isn’t about doing things perfectly—it’s about feeling like anything less than what they had in their minds is unacceptable. This mindset often creates constant self‑criticism, pressure, and a sense that nothing is ever “good enough,” even when you’re working incredibly hard. I help clients notice these patterns with compassion and begin shifting toward a more grounded, accepting way of relating to themselves.
15 Years Experience
Online in San Rafael, CA
Perfectionism
Roderic Burks - Integrative Mental Health
Licensed Mental Health Counselor, MS, MS HSc, MA, LMHC, LPC
Perfectionism often arises from internalized expectations and self-critical patterns that create stress and self-doubt. I help clients explore the parts of themselves driving these tendencies and the underlying emotions behind them. Together, we work toward self-compassion, balance, and the ability to pursue goals without being ruled by fear or self-judgment.
26 Years Experience
Online in San Rafael, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Amy @ Inner Nature Therapy
Licensed Clinical Social Worker, LCSW, PMH-C
Perfectionism is the thief of joy! As a recovering perfectionist myself, I will be kind but honest with you when I notice perfectionism creeping in to your thinking and self-image. By gently rooting it out, I can support you towards accepting things as they are while remaining confident in yourself and motivated to make positive changes.
13 Years Experience
Online in San Rafael, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Kristina Anzell
Licensed Clinical Social Worker, LCSW, CPSC
You are used to putting in extra work to get it right. When you don't do something right the first time, you beat yourself up and then spend time learning, researching and then don't stop trying until you get it perfect. The issue... babies do not work that way. They are all different, they are not predictable and they are not able to be controlled. You are spending too much time and energy on something that is "supposed to come naturally" and it feels awful! Get the support you need!
10 Years Experience
Online in San Rafael, CA
Perfectionism
Liza Roth, MA, LMFT
Marriage and Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Perfectionism isn't about doing things perfectly, it's about finding fault easily. Somewhere along the way, you came to believe that if you did things perfectly, you would be safe and free from worry. Instead, you are still full of worry and are just plain exhausted. Let's work together to figure out how perfectionism serves you, how it doesn't, and how you can find balance and inner peace.
5 Years Experience
Online in San Rafael, CA
Perfectionism
Mia Turner
Therapist, MA, RYT, ASDCS, LMFT, NPT-C, CMNCS, CMIP
Perfectionism is often less about striving for excellence and more about seeking safety, belonging, predictability, acceptance, or protection. It can develop in response to trauma, marginalization, giftedness, neurodivergence, family expectations, racism, ableism, cultural pressures, high-achievement environments, or experiences where mistakes felt costly and being "good enough" never quite felt good enough.
What is often labeled as perfectionism may also reflect a nervous system that learned to stay vigilant, perform, overprepare, overachieve, self-monitor, mask, or anticipate problems in order to avoid criticism, rejection, disappointment, conflict, shame, or harm. For many people, perfectionism becomes intertwined with identity, self-worth, productivity, competence, and the belief that value must be earned rather than inherently possessed. It may show up as chronic self-criticism, difficulty resting, procrastination, overthinking, people-pleasing, hyper-independence, fear of failure, fear of success, difficulty making decisions, or feeling as though there is always more that should be done.
This work explores the protective role perfectionism has played throughout your life while examining the ways it may be impacting relationships, wellbeing, creativity, joy, authenticity, and connection with yourself. Particular attention is given to the influence of family systems, culture, gender, neurodivergence, trauma, and the internalized narratives that shape how you relate to achievement, mistakes, success, failure, worthiness, and belonging.
My approach is grounded in the belief that perfectionism is often an adaptive survival strategy rather than a personal flaw. Rather than attempting to simply eliminate perfectionistic tendencies, we become curious about what those parts are protecting, what they fear might happen if they loosened their grip, and what needs may exist beneath the pressure to perform. Using EMDR, somatic therapy, mindfulness, polyvagal-informed practices, parts work, neuropsychotherapy, expressive arts, attachment-focused approaches, and liberation-oriented healing, therapy supports developing a more compassionate relationship with the parts of yourself that learned to equate achievement with safety.
Attention is also given to the ways perfectionism lives in the body and nervous system. This may include chronic tension, difficulty slowing down, overactivation, self-monitoring, exhaustion, difficulty experiencing satisfaction, or feeling unable to rest without guilt. Through greater awareness of sensation, emotion, nervous system states, and embodied experience, space is created for increased flexibility, self-trust, self-compassion, and choice.
The goal is not to stop caring, striving, creating, achieving, or growing. It is to cultivate a relationship with yourself that is not dependent upon performance, productivity, approval, or getting everything right. Often, the work involves reclaiming authenticity, playfulness, creativity, rest, joy, pace, and the internal permission to be fully human rather than a constant self-improvement project.
10 Years Experience
Online in San Rafael, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
LaTianna Williams, Therapy, Sexology, and Holistic Tantra
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT, CTRS, ABS
Perfectionism and Imposter’s Syndrome: Perfectionism can create the illusion of success while quietly fueling anxiety, self-criticism, burnout, procrastination, and fear of failure. No matter how much you achieve, it may never feel like enough.
I help clients uncover the beliefs and experiences driving perfectionism and develop healthier ways of relating to themselves and their goals. Together, we’ll cultivate self-compassion, resilience, and a more balanced approach to achievement.
This work is about letting go of impossible standards and creating space for growth, authenticity, and genuine fulfillment.
8 Years Experience
Online in San Rafael, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
J. Rosalyn Diehl
Licensed Mental Health Counselor, MA, LMHC, LPPC, LPC
Perfectionism can leave you feeling stuck in a cycle of overthinking, self-doubt, and relentless pressure to meet impossible standards. You may struggle with fear of failure, difficulty relaxing, or feeling like your worth is tied to achievement. I help women identify the patterns that fuel perfectionism, build self-compassion, and develop healthier, more balanced ways of approaching life and relationships.
12 Years Experience
Online in San Rafael, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
G. Roman Gupta, LCSW
Therapist, LCSW
I have been practicing for almost 20 years and I have a strength-based, trauma-informed, culturally aware, LGBTQ+ affirmative, sex positive, kink positive, poly affirming, feminist perspective. I have trained and practiced in a variety of treatment methods that offer us a variety of ways to meet your goals whether as an individual, couple, or family.
18 Years Experience
Online in San Rafael, CA
Perfectionism
Sarah Jane Thomas
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
Perfectionism keeps you stuck in all-or-nothing thinking, where everything has to be perfect or it feels like a total failure. This mindset makes it really hard to exist in the grey area where life actually happens. We will explore where those rigid standards came from and practice getting comfortable with the messiness of being human instead of striving for unattainable perfection. Our work is about reminding you that you matter even when you are not producing, achieving, or grinding your way through the day.
11 Years Experience
Online in San Rafael, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
David Sudyka
Marriage and Family Therapist, Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, MA
Perfectionism can create constant pressure to get everything right, often leading to stress, procrastination, or feeling like nothing is ever good enough. It can be hard to relax or feel satisfied with what you accomplish. In therapy we will work on understanding where these patterns come from and how to shift them into something more balanced. The goal is to help you feel more flexible, more self accepting, and less weighed down by expectations.
4 Years Experience
Online in San Rafael, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Dr. Jag Soni
Psychologist, Ph.D., HSPP, PCC, SPHR, SHRM-SCP
While the drive for excellence is often rewarded, the weight of Perfectionism and "never being enough" leads to burnout and paralysis. Drawing on 35 years of clinical experience, I help you shift from self-criticism to a resilient, high-functioning sense of self. We work to uncover the root of your perfectionistic standards and foster the internal changes needed to achieve your goals without sacrificing your mental well-being. In a private Telehealth setting, I provide a sophisticated space to help you trade the burden of perfection for an authentic and manageable life. Contact me to schedule your first appointment.
36 Years Experience
Online in San Rafael, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Elizabeth Nims
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
For those experiencing perfectionism, I can help you understand the origins of this belief and give skills to shift to seeking excellence over perfectionism and understanding your innate worth.
7 Years Experience
Online in San Rafael, CA
Perfectionism
Melanie Simms
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
I believe that self-compassion is the antidote for perfectionism. I work with clients to heal from early traumatic experiences that may have led to the development of perfectionism as a coping mechanism. I help clients develop their overall feeling of self-worth and treat themselves with greater compassion to reduce perfectionistic tendencies.
11 Years Experience
Online in San Rafael, CA
Perfectionism
Freestyle Supervision and EMDR Group LLC
Counselor/Therapist, LPCC-S, LEP, NCC, APCC, AMFT, ASW, NCC
Perfectionism is often a survival strategy used to feel safe or worthy. We help you peel back the layers of high-functioning anxiety to find a life based on "good enough" and genuine self-acceptance
4 Years Experience
Online in San Rafael, CA
Perfectionism therapists in San Rafael, California Statistics
Perfectionism therapists in San Rafael, California average 13 years of experience and charge around $203 per session. 100% offer online sessions. The most commonly treated issues are Perfectionism (100%), Trauma and PTSD (83%), and Anxiety or Fears (80%).
Average years in practice
13 Years Experience
Average cost per session
$203
Gender ID
| 71% |
Female |
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| 15% |
Male |
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| 7% |
Gender Fluid |
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| 7% |
Non-Binary |
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Session Type
| 55% |
In Person and Online |
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| 45% |
Online Only |
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Top Specialties
| 100% | Perfectionism |
| 83% | Trauma and PTSD |
| 80% | Anxiety or Fears |
| 78% | Life Transitions |
| 75% | Stress |
| 70% | Depression |
| 65% | Loss or Grief |