Online Perfectionism therapists in Upland, California CA
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Perfectionism
Melissa Berschauer
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
Holding yourself to impossible standards usually results in a lot of anxiety and procrastination rather than actual satisfaction. Feeling burned out is sometimes the next level of perfectionism. I help you untangle your worth from your productivity, allowing you to breathe a little easier without losing your drive.
14 Years Experience
Online in Upland, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Danielle Esses
Psychologist, PsyD
Perfectionism can look like high standards on the surface, but often comes with anxiety, self-criticism, and difficulty feeling satisfied or at ease. Therapy helps you understand the function of these patterns and develop a more flexible, sustainable way of approaching achievement and self-worth.
8 Years Experience
Online in Upland, CA
Perfectionism
Rose Snyder, EdM, PsyD, LLC
Psychologist, PsyD
I generally view myself as a "recovering perfectionist" and would be happy to support you in your journey with this as well! I find that empathy and validation go a long way with this, as well as a focus on radical self-acceptance and self-compassion. We may work on direct coping skills, adjusting your internal self-dialogue, and developing mindful self-compassion skills in a more formalized way as needed. I strive for all of my clients to accept themselves as "perfectly imperfect humans," as we all are.
23 Years Experience
Online in Upland, CA
Perfectionism
New Beginnings Christian Counseling
Marriage and Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Perfectionism can feel like a constant pressure to perform, achieve, or appear “good enough,” often leaving you exhausted, anxious, or self-critical. It’s usually rooted in early experiences, fear of failure, or unmet expectations. In therapy, we explore the beliefs driving perfectionistic patterns, develop healthier self-compassion, and create practical strategies for balance and emotional freedom. With Christ-centered guidance, you’ll learn to embrace progress over perfection, honor your worth, and live with greater peace and authenticity.
15 Years Experience
Online in Upland, CA
Perfectionism
Monica M. Huston
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
Perfectionism often develops as a way to manage anxiety, self-worth, and fear of failure. While it can lead to high achievement, it can also create pressure, rigidity, and dissatisfaction. I help individuals understand the underlying drivers of perfectionism and develop more flexible, balanced ways of approaching themselves and their work.
9 Years Experience
Online in Upland, CA
Perfectionism
Elizabeth Nims
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
For those experiencing perfectionism, I can help you understand the origins of this belief and give skills to shift to seeking excellence over perfectionism and understanding your innate worth.
7 Years Experience
Online in Upland, CA
Perfectionism
Layla Ashley Psychotherapy
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
Perfectionism can create constant pressure to perform or appear flawless. In sessions, we explore how to shift rigid expectations, and cultivate a healthier relationship with achievement and self-worth.
23 Years Experience
Online in Upland, CA
Perfectionism
Abigail (Abi) Zarate Ramsay
Pre-Licensed Professional, Marriage and Family Therapist Trainee, Professional Clinical Counselor Trainee
I help clients struggling with perfectionism, self-criticism, and burnout learn to set kinder expectations, tolerate mistakes, and build a more flexible, values-based sense of success.
0 Years Experience
Online in Upland, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Sarah Jane Thomas
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
Perfectionism keeps you stuck in all-or-nothing thinking, where everything has to be perfect or it feels like a total failure. This mindset makes it really hard to exist in the grey area where life actually happens. We will explore where those rigid standards came from and practice getting comfortable with the messiness of being human instead of striving for unattainable perfection. Our work is about reminding you that you matter even when you are not producing, achieving, or grinding your way through the day.
11 Years Experience
Online in Upland, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Freestyle Supervision and EMDR Group LLC
Counselor/Therapist, LPCC-S, LEP, NCC, APCC, AMFT, ASW, NCC
Perfectionism is often a survival strategy used to feel safe or worthy. We help you peel back the layers of high-functioning anxiety to find a life based on "good enough" and genuine self-acceptance
4 Years Experience
Online in Upland, CA
Perfectionism
Dr. Michael Marossy
Psychologist, Ph.D.
Perfectionism often involves far more than simply having high standards. Many individuals struggling with perfectionism experience chronic self-criticism, fear of failure, anxiety, procrastination, emotional burnout, shame, difficulty relaxing, or a persistent feeling that they are never “good enough” regardless of achievement or external success.
I help clients better understand the emotional and relational roots of perfectionistic patterns while developing greater self-compassion, psychological flexibility, and a healthier relationship with achievement, performance, and self-worth. Therapy focuses on reducing rigid thinking and chronic pressure while helping clients build more balanced, meaningful, and emotionally sustainable ways of living.
8 Years Experience
Online in Upland, CA
Perfectionism
G. Roman Gupta, LCSW
Therapist, LCSW
I have been practicing for almost 20 years and I have a strength-based, trauma-informed, culturally aware, LGBTQ+ affirmative, sex positive, kink positive, poly affirming, feminist perspective. I have trained and practiced in a variety of treatment methods that offer us a variety of ways to meet your goals whether as an individual, couple, or family.
18 Years Experience
Online in Upland, CA
Perfectionism
Amy @ Inner Nature Therapy
Licensed Clinical Social Worker, LCSW, PMH-C
Perfectionism is the thief of joy! As a recovering perfectionist myself, I will be kind but honest with you when I notice perfectionism creeping in to your thinking and self-image. By gently rooting it out, I can support you towards accepting things as they are while remaining confident in yourself and motivated to make positive changes.
13 Years Experience
Online in Upland, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Nes Pinar Psychotherapy
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
Many people don’t realize that perfectionism isn’t about doing things perfectly—it’s about feeling like anything less than what they had in their minds is unacceptable. This mindset often creates constant self‑criticism, pressure, and a sense that nothing is ever “good enough,” even when you’re working incredibly hard. I help clients notice these patterns with compassion and begin shifting toward a more grounded, accepting way of relating to themselves.
15 Years Experience
Online in Upland, CA
Perfectionism
David Sudyka
Marriage and Family Therapist, Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, MA
Perfectionism can create constant pressure to get everything right, often leading to stress, procrastination, or feeling like nothing is ever good enough. It can be hard to relax or feel satisfied with what you accomplish. In therapy we will work on understanding where these patterns come from and how to shift them into something more balanced. The goal is to help you feel more flexible, more self accepting, and less weighed down by expectations.
4 Years Experience
Online in Upland, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Sandy Kong
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT 119380
Therapy for perfectionism focuses on reducing rigid, unrealistic standards, and alleviating associated anxiety, depression, or burnout. Perfectionism is seen as a trauma response. Trauma has shaped someone's life into believing that they have to be "perfect" in order to be "loveable" or "worthy". The most effective approach is generally learning how to identify and challenge distorted beliefs; changing your relationship with perfectionistic thoughts and focusing on values over flawlessness; exploring early life experiences and deep-rooted causes behind the need for control; develop
mindfulness-based approaches to help manage anxiety by staying present, reducing the need for constant, perfect self-presentation; and cultivating kindness toward oneself, especially when facing imperfections or failures.
11 Years Experience
Online in Upland, CA
Perfectionism
Mary Mallinson Therapy
Licensed Clinical Social Worker, LCSW
Perfectionism often shows up as pressure, self-criticism, and fear of failure. Together, we explore the roots of perfectionism and work toward building self-compassion, flexibility, and a more balanced, sustainable way of relating to yourself.
5 Years Experience
Online in Upland, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
The Connection Clinic
Marriage and Family Therapist
We assist individuals struggling with perfectionism by helping them cultivate self-compassion and realistic expectations. Our goal is to allow for healthier living and greater life satisfaction.
9 Years Experience
Online in Upland, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Shelley Klammer
Counselor/Therapist, MTC, REACE, FOT, CHyp
Do you silently struggle with emotional overwhelm, anxiety or depression? Do you appear successful, cheerful, and emotionally stable on the outside while privately experiencing emotional pain? I specialize in working with women who have perfectionist tendencies and currently feel a disconnection from their authentic selves.
Like all people, you have a unique longing in your heart for something higher and more fulfilling. This differs from perfect ego fantasies seeking to compensate for core wound pain. You might have a genuine soul longing for a beautiful love relationship or financial freedom, for example. You might ache to express who you truly are in the world, or perhaps you want to find your core strength and accomplish something magnificent. Your deeper joy is blocked by unhealed childhood core wound pain, and it can be healed.
20 Years Experience
Online in Upland, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Allie Michie, MS
Marriage and Family Therapist, AMFT159347
Perfectionism often looks like high standards from the outside, but on the inside it can feel like never being enough. I work with clients to get curious about where that drive comes from, what it's protecting, and how to build a relationship with yourself that's a little more honest and a lot more kind.
2 Years Experience
Online in Upland, CA
Perfectionism therapists in Upland, California Statistics
Perfectionism therapists in Upland, California average 13 years of experience and charge around $203 per session. 100% offer online sessions. The most commonly treated issues are Perfectionism (100%), Trauma and PTSD (83%), and Anxiety or Fears (80%).
Average years in practice
13 Years Experience
Average cost per session
$203
Gender ID
| 71% |
Female |
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| 15% |
Male |
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| 7% |
Gender Fluid |
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| 7% |
Non-Binary |
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Session Type
| 55% |
In Person and Online |
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| 45% |
Online Only |
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Top Specialties
| 100% | Perfectionism |
| 83% | Trauma and PTSD |
| 80% | Anxiety or Fears |
| 78% | Life Transitions |
| 75% | Stress |
| 70% | Depression |
| 65% | Loss or Grief |