Online Anxiety therapists in South Croydon, England ENG, United Kingdom UK

Anxiety isn’t who you are—it’s a part of you trying to keep you safe. If you’re feeling overwhelmed by racing thoughts, constant worry, or fear that won’t let go, it can be exhausting. Anxiety often comes from parts of us that learned to stay hyper-alert to avoid pain or danger. Through Internal Family Systems (IFS) and somatic practices like TRE, I help you gently connect with these protective parts and the deeper wounds they may be guarding. Together, we’ll create space for calm, clarity, and a deeper sense of internal safety—so you can move through life with more ease and trust.  

Counselling provides a space for you to explore your experiences and feelings in a respectful and confidential space. The focus of the conversation is to understand your experience and provide support to explore the ways in which you can introduce change into your life.  

What are your fears? What is the core trigger of your anxiety? Let's talk about anything and everything! In this safe, non judgmental place, you wid yoll be fully heard, accepted and respected. We are holding space for you right here. Let's talk about it.  

Having experienced anxiety and fear myself, I understand that these emotions are often rooted in childhood experiences where there was little space to express feelings or where a child did not feel protected, supported, or safe. I help clients explore these emotional responses with curiosity and compassion rather than judgment. By understanding the roots of anxiety and creating safety within the body, it becomes possible to respond to life's challenges from the present moment rather than from old wounds.  

For people who have never suffered from anxiety it is almost impossible to describe how debilitating the symptoms can be. It can seem as if there is no escape from the pain and discomfort; it feels like life will be like this forever and that the symptoms can’t be helped. Conventional approaches to anxiety seek to medicate. Many physicians may tell you that your anxiety is something you just have to live with.  Counseling or mainstream psychological approaches may have you manipulate or change your thought patterns, while alternative practices may seek to have you relax or practice mindfulness.  While there is value in some of these approaches, most fail to reach that deeper understanding of the underlying cause of anxiety and panic. Symptoms of anxiety and panic are not the same as emotions of fear – these include worry, nervous, apprehension, concern, etc. In everyday life we tend to talk about anxiety symptoms and conditions as being the same as emotions of fear, nervousness and worry. This is confusing for the simple reason that anxiety symptoms are not merely amplified fear, even though this can be what they feel like in many instances. Anxiety is something of an umbrella term that covers quite a wide range of symptoms and experiences. In some instances this symptoms and conditions might relate to emotions of fear but in other instances they do not. This is why it is entirely possible to rid ourselves of anxiety symptoms whereas we cannot, and should not try to rid ourselves of healthy emotions, because they play a vital feedback role in our day to day experience of life. These are the anxiety conditions: - anxious apprehension (worry, rumination) - generalised anxiety disorder (free floating anxiety) - Intense anxiety and panic attacks - obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) - phobias of all kinds including agoraphobia and social phobia - eating disorders - derealisation - depersonalisation There is an enormous amount of scientific evidence to show that various regions of the brain are either over active or dysfunctional when anxiety symptoms are present. One of the most salient issues pertaining to this kind of scientific research is that different types of anxiety symptoms correspond with different areas of brain dysfunction.The forebrain appears to be the area most affected in most anxiety disorders. This is the largest portion of the brain and includes the cerebral hemispheres, the limbic system, the thalamus and hypothalamus, amygdala and the corpus callosum. Each of the brain hemispheres is divided into four lobes: frontal, parietal, occipital and temporal. Collectively, the forebrain functions to control cognitive, sensory and motor function, regulate temperature, reproductive functions, eating, sleeping and the display of emotions. When it becomes dysfunctional it is evident that the range of symptoms can be enormous.Recent studies using electroencephalographic (EEG) methods have found that patients diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder and obsessive-compulsive disorder had heightened activity in the left brain regions, whereas patients with panic disorder, panic symptoms or those subjected to high stress situations exhibited enhanced activity in the right hemisphere. The important lesson from this type of research is that anxiety conditions are not all the same and therefore each case needs to be approached and treated depending on the needs of the individual and the types of symptoms present.  However, we must also be mindful that over activity or dysfunction in brain regions is not the cause of anxiety – rather this activity is caused and supported by the 4 core element model outlined below.  It is these 4 Anchors that trigger brain dysfunction, and it is only by fully addressing these that a complete cessation of symptoms is achieved. The first step is to understand the nature, structure and cause of anxiety, and then we can begin to address the cause of the symptoms. Within our culture we use the words ‘anxious’ and ‘anxiety’ to mean both the emotion of fear and a varied and debilitating set of symptoms. This can be extremely confusing since fear, in the form of worry, nervous, scared, or dread, is often very different from the symptoms of anxiety or a panic disorder. I would argue that even though many anxiety symptoms can feel like fear, it’s also the case that many anxiety and panic symptoms do not feel like fear (see Anxiety Symptoms Checklist below). This means that is possible to experience anxiety symptoms without being afraid of anything. Even though anxiety can be related to the emotion of fear at a deep unconscious level, there are many instances when symptoms of anxiety are present and there is no evidence of the emotion of fear. Most sufferers of anxiety will experience fear about the symptoms; though fear of symptoms is not the cause of symptoms.  Fear can exacerbate symptoms and make sufferers of anxietyfeel significantly worse; however it is rarely, if ever, the underlying cause. So what causes anxiety symptoms? The first step is to embrace the notion that symptoms are feedback from body and brain.  Symptoms are not some nasty evil invader trying to make us suffer, they have reason for existing and that reason is to let us know that something is not right, something is blocked and out of balance. There are Four Core Elements that lock anxiety symptoms in place. When we address these four core elements, we not only banish anxiety symptoms, we open up to the possibility of experiencing ourselves in a whole new way. The 4 core energy-flow model comprises: - FEAR & AVOIDANCE OF SYMPTOMS. Anxiety is deeply uncomfortable so it can be a natural reaction to avoid situations and events that seem to cause anxiety. Avoidance can lead to more symptoms, so carefully navigating through this is the first step. - REWIRING THE EMOTIONAL SYSTEM. Our emotion has a massive impact on body and brain. Blockages and imbalances within the emotional system are significant causes and contributors to anxiety conditions as well as a huge range of other chronic health challenges. Yet, our understanding of the nature of emotion and how to effectively process and regulate it remain poor. This element focuses in revealing the true nature of emotion and critically how to connect with it and facilitate a flow. - WEARING A MASK: As we move through life and seek to get along, fit in, be accepted and do well, we unconsciously block our true nature and end up being more of who we are not than who we are. Anxiety symptoms often tell us when we are covering up who we are, or are disconnected from our authentic core. Reconnecting with our core and removing the shackles of who we used to be takes us a step closer to being anxiety free. - CONTROL & CREATION: Whether we like it or not, we play a significant role in the creation of our experience of life and reality. However, when shackled with anxiety we feel out of control, restricted as if we have lost our freedom. Learning how to create inner freedom and design our lives is the final piece of the puzzle. The four core element model uncovers a different perspective on the cause of anxiety conditions and embraces a full understanding of the nature of the human condition. It puts you back in the driver’s seat to return to your natural healthy self. Your natural state is to be connected and happy; all that’s needed is a little guidance to help you find the way back to your default setting.  

I specialize in pediatric medicine and trauma-focused therapy using EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing). My work centers on supporting children, adolescents, and adults through grief, anxiety, behavioral challenges, and the lingering effects of difficult experiences. As a pediatrician, I've seen how unprocessed trauma shows up in young lives- through sleep troubles, feeding issues, social withdrawal, and emotional struggles. EMDR offers a gentle, research-backed path to healing that goes beyond words. With EMDRIA-approved training and my pediatric experience, I help families navigate some of their most challenging moments. Whether it's a child struggling with grief, an adolescent facing anxiety, or an adult working through long-held wounds, my approach blends medical expertise with compassionate, evidence-based care. I'm passionate about making mental health support accessible- offering teletherapy across India and internationally, with subsidized sessions available for those who need them. Let's connect if you're looking for trauma-informed support, professional collaboration, or referrals for children and families in need.  

Anxiety is a persistent feeling of worry, tension, or unease that can show up in the mind, body, or both. It may manifest as racing thoughts, muscle tension, trouble sleeping, or a sense that something bad might happen—even when there’s no clear threat. Fear, on the other hand, is usually a response to a specific, immediate danger—real or perceived. But when fear becomes chronic, or is tied to past experiences or unresolved trauma, it can limit our choices, relationships, and sense of safety in the world. Both anxiety and fear can be signals—not of something wrong with you—but of something important asking to be understood.  

Everyone gets anxious sometimes. But when anxiety stops you from living your life—when you're avoiding things that matter, waking up at 3am with your heart racing, or constantly scanning for danger even when you're safe—something deeper is going on. For some people, we find the root fairly quickly. For others, it takes more digging to understand why your nervous system learned to stay on high alert. Either way, we work together to understand what's driving it, then change it. Not just manage the symptoms, but actually address why your body thinks it needs to protect you all the time. Anxiety isn't a character flaw. It's your nervous system doing what it learned to do. We can help it learn something different.  

Somatic Experiencing (SE) and Integral Somatic Psychology (ISP) work together to ease anxiety and fear by addressing both the physiological activation and the emotional intensity underneath. SE helps regulate the nervous system by slowing the fast, anxious energy in the body, releasing stuck fight-or-flight responses, and restoring a sense of internal safety. ISP deepens this work by helping you stay with the bodily sensations and emotions associated with fear—like tightness, worry, or unease—without becoming overwhelmed. Together, these approaches reduce hypervigilance, calm the system, and support a grounded, steady ability to meet life’s challenges with more clarity and confidence.  

I have personally experienced my own anxiety and fears and I currently help my clients to explore and understand their anxiety, it’s worries, overthinking as well as helping them to put strategies in place, bring compassion into their lives and create a pathway into the future.  

Anxiety is a strong feeling of worry or fear that a person experiences when faced with an impending danger. Using person-centered counseling helps the client to discover a coping mechanism that works for them.  

Talking about anxiety in therapy may initially feel overwhelming, but it is vital for your mental health journey. Identifying your specific concerns, including symptoms and triggers, is essential for effective management of anxiety. By openly discussing these elements with me, we can work together to develop strategies that will support you throughout the therapeutic process.  

I combine lived experience of overcoming anxiety, with training in developmental, relational, and embodied trauma. Work with me if you believe that anxiety is not just in your head, and if you are looking for a warm approach that considers your experiences as a whole person, how the body can internalise anxiety; and how to address this. Consults are free and instantly bookable on the We Tackle Trauma website, I look forward to meeting you- Jade Evelyn Gayle  

We all feel anxious. Is yours out of all proportion? Does it take you over so you feel you cannot function with calm and acceptance around ordinary challenges? If so, come and talk to me and we will explore what is going on to trap you in this debilitating version of ordinary life.  

Anxiety and fear can relate to external events- and they are also wired into our nervous systems. Being 'activated' can be a very helpful response- when it allows us to protect ourselves. But this can also be our habitual or only response. This can be exhausting. I take an approach that looks not only at the thoughts and feelings but helps you to create different bodily/ nervous system responses to fear/ stress or concern. We can work online or in person, informed by somatic experiencing and Polyvagal Theory. If helpful, we can also explore the links between anxiety and sleep difficulties.  

Anxiety and fear often show up as protection—overthinking, avoidance, reassurance-seeking, procrastination, or a constant scanning for what might go wrong. While these strategies can bring short-term relief, they can also shrink our lives over time. In our work, we focus on changing your relationship to anxiety so it becomes something you can understand and work with, rather than something that controls your choices. We don’t dismiss the threat anxiety is responding to; we widen the lens to include what anxiety might be trying to protect—and what it may be inviting you to reclaim. Together, we seek to slow the pace of the nervous system, identify triggers and patterns, and build practical tools that support emotional regulation and steadier decision-making. We also explore what anxiety may be pointing toward—values, unmet needs, boundaries, or important risks worth taking. The goal isn’t simply to feel less anxious, but to live more freely and move toward what genuinely matters.  

Anxiety or fear, where it is not appropriate in present circumstances, derives from the past and can be overcome when its origins are correctly identified. The need for approval underlies much anxiety. I will help you to identify the causes of the anxiety in your biography and resolve them, so that you no longer feel anxious.  

Anxiety can feel completely overwhelming, like there's no way out. As your therapist I am here to be with you in your anxiety reminding you that you are not alone. We can explore how anxiety feels for you, when it is at its worst, and help you to gain more of a sense of control over this. You are not a problem to be fixed, my aim as your therapist is to try to provide the right conditions to allow you to explore whatever you want to bring to therapy to support your growth. This isn't a therapeutic approach wherein I will set a treatment plan or tell you what to do. We will work together as a partnership rather than me taking away your autonomy. I absolutely love the work I do, it is the biggest privilege being let into people’s personal worlds and seeing the immense growth of my clients. I hope to hear from you soon!  

Anxiety can feel like it’s running the show, and it doesn’t have to. I help you tune into the unconscious patterns behind your fears, so you can stop feeling controlled by them and start feeling in charge of your life. With the right tools and understanding, you can break free. If you're ready to move past anxiety, reach out now.  

The anxiety that returns every morning despite everything you know about it, is not a thinking problem. It's a nervous system state - one that was adaptive once, and has simply never received the signal that things have changed. We work with that signal directly: not by challenging anxious thoughts, but by helping the body experience the safety it hasn't yet been able to internalise. Many clients notice shifts in their baseline anxiety within the first weeks of the programme.