I believe it is important to interrogate the etiology of codependency which has become such a buzz word in pop psychology. Codependency may have its roots in early attachment trauma - the inability of a caregiver to form a safe and stable relationship with their child. However, it is also important to honour the cultural diversity of being in relationship and being in community. Western culture tells us we are supposed to be happy alone, when this is not the way humans lived for millennia. Collectivist cultures show us a different story of what it is to be in relationship.
Ultimately, learning to cultivate a sense of secure attachment, along with agency and flexible boundaries may be a way to walk the middle path in addressing codependency concerns.
Registered Psychotherapist, RP, Reiki Practitioner, BA
The disease of family members of addicts. Codependency as defined by looking outside of yourself for happiness. Helping you connect with what makes you joyful without relying on others.
Unlock the patterns of codependency with my approach rooted in Attachment Theory. Together, we'll explore the dynamics of your relationships, understanding how early attachments influence current patterns. Through compassionate guidance, we'll foster self-awareness and boundaries, empowering you to cultivate healthier connections and reclaim your autonomy. Step into a journey of self-discovery and liberation from codependency today.
Licensed Mental Health Counsellor, Licensed & Registered Creative Arts Therapist
Creative Arts Therapy is a powerful specialty which provides us to express our subconscious in a safe and easy way. Since the subconscious is a great power that directs our behaviours, on codependency issues, CAT is very effective and gives great results.
A good description of codependency is “when a person’s self-esteem rises and falls based on the other person’s mood, tone or experience.” But it is actually much more than that. The person is overly involved in the other person’s needs, wants, problems and issues. In reality, some of the nicest people in the world are codependent, and if not watched, all relationships have the potential to become codependent. Codependency takes healthy emotions and corrupts them. For example, empathy is a positive emotion, but in codependency the empathy rises to a level where there is no division between the two people. Generosity is also a beautiful emotion, but in codependency it turns into control and over enmeshment. In addition, the codependent person often feels excessively guilty for having any need that may create discomfort in the other person, even if the need is healthy and necessary for their emotional well-being.
The undoing of this pattern is crucial to finding one's joy and peace. We unpack this as it relates to one's relationships to others as well as to the relationship with oneself.
Living a life of codependency can be crippling. Therapy can help you to learn about who you are as an individual and build your self confidence and sense of self. Together we will look into your story, to understand and heal past hurt so that you can thrive as an individual today. I will provide the resources and tools to help you cope with day to day stress. I also provide therapy to individuals who are in a relationship with someone who is codependent. I will work with you to create boundaries, improve communication skills and be a safe space to process any and all emotions that arise.
Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Registered Social Worker, BBA, MDiv, MSW, CMAT, CSAT
Depending on others for approval or for a sense of purpose is a very stressful life. It can feel too scary to be alone or to have someone close romantically can feel overwhelming. Despite these extremes you wish for more stability. I have experience helping people discover and build the internal structures so that you are able to be yourself and feel safe with others.
Reach out today to get the care that you deserve.
Co-dependency is a complex issue, and it's important to recognize that no two individuals struggling with co-dependency share the same symptoms or experiences. At our practice, we understand that co-dependency involves a pattern of giving too much of oneself at the expense of personal well-being, often finding it challenging to ask for our own needs to be met.
In co-dependency recovery, we focus on four essential areas to support your healing journey. Firstly, we help you refocus on yourself, fostering self-awareness and self-care. This involves exploring your own needs, desires, and values, and learning how to prioritize your own well-being without guilt or fear.
Secondly, we work on setting firm boundaries. Boundaries are crucial in maintaining healthy relationships and protecting your own emotional and physical boundaries. We assist you in developing effective communication skills to express your needs, desires, and limitations in a clear and assertive manner.
Thirdly, we guide you in identifying healthy relationships. We explore patterns and dynamics that may have contributed to co-dependency, enabling you to recognize and establish relationships that are based on mutual respect, reciprocity, and emotional balance.
Lastly, we incorporate internal family system work. This approach helps you understand the different parts of yourself and their roles in your co-dependency patterns. By exploring and healing these internal dynamics, you can develop healthier reactions and responses to challenging situations.
In our sessions, we will collaborate to understand your unique journey and tailor our approach to your specific needs. We will explore your past experiences, relationships, and learned reactions, helping you gain insight into how co-dependency developed and identifying strategies for growth and change.
Our goal is to provide a supportive and non-judgmental space for you to explore your co-dependency patterns and develop healthier ways of relating to yourself and others. Together, we will work towards empowering you to break free from the cycle of co-dependency and cultivate a more balanced and fulfilling life. Let's embark on this journey of self-discovery and transformation together.
Using a Family Systems approach Soulful Therapy helps people who are living with a codependent dynamic. Together we come to understand how and why this pattern started and move towards change.
Codependence can feel like an addiction to a person, needing to be needed, and feeling like your self-worth an identity depends on giving more of yourself. This leaves you feeling exhausted and a shell of your former self. I help clients recover from codependency so they can regain a sense of purpose and autonomy.
Codependency is a relationship type, and is often wonderful until it's not. When it's not, boundaries come in. Boundaries are essential to all relationships because it allows you to form the ideal relationship you want. Understanding what the codependent relationship was providing you with allows an understanding and compassion to intentionally take steps towards your ideal behaviors and ways of relating.
Registered Psychotherapist, RP (Registered Psychotherapist), Diploma TIRP, member CAPT
Codependent relationships can feel hopelessly stuck, seemingly impossible to leave or to negotiate. Unconscious emotions and patterns are often at work, interacting with our partner in ways we feel we don't have control over. Being able to talk deeply about this can lead to increasing understanding and freedom, as patterns and personal histories begin to make sense. Clarity can emerge, and with that the possibility of autonomy and choice.
While interdependence can be healthy, many partners have an overreliance on one another for needs and self-esteem. If you are ready to feel more comfortable standing on your own two feet and feeling safer and more confident in your relationships, or maintain a sense of identity in relationships, I would like to help.
Do you have relationships where you feel compelled to "save" them by attending to all of their needs and in turn you neglect all of your own needs? Or do you experience in relationships feeling like you need the other person to take care of you but you also feel smothered or resentment? Codependency in relationships comes from attachment wounds, which can be understood and healed so that you can end unhealthy relationships or work to change behavioural patterns in relationships in your present life. I can help you learn to make these changes and better understand your relational patterns.
Registered Psychotherapist, Registered Social Workers and Psychotherapists
Codependency is a complex emotional and behavioral condition that often arises in relationships marked by an unhealthy level of emotional reliance or control. At Collaborative Care Therapy, we approach codependency with an integrative, relational, and trauma-informed perspective, understanding the deep-seated roots that often drive these patterns.
Our therapy sessions are designed to unpack the multifaceted layers of codependency. We delve into how past experiences, possibly stemming from childhood or previous relationships, have shaped current behaviors and emotional responses. Recognizing that codependency often originates from a place of trauma or unmet emotional needs, we provide a safe and empathetic space for exploration and healing.
In addressing codependency, we employ a blend of therapeutic approaches tailored to each individual’s needs. Cognitive-behavioral therapy helps in identifying and altering detrimental thought patterns and behaviors. At the same time, our relational approach fosters a deeper understanding of interpersonal dynamics. We also incorporate mindfulness techniques to enhance self-awareness and emotional regulation.
Our goal is not just to break the cycle of codependency but to empower individuals to build healthier, more autonomous relationships. This involves cultivating self-esteem, learning to set healthy boundaries, and developing effective communication skills. We guide you in recognizing your own needs and values, encouraging a journey towards self-discovery and personal growth.
Through virtual sessions, we offer the convenience and comfort of accessing therapy from your environment, ensuring continuous and personalized support. Begin your path to recovery from codependency with Collaborative Care Therapy, and discover the strength in building balanced, fulfilling relationships.
Life Coach, Life Coach | Yoga Teacher | Personal Development Mentor | Published Author | Reiki Master, EFT Meridian Tapping Pract.
Life coaching is great for people with codependency lifestyles. I, myself used to be codependent in my relationships so I can relate and because of my own personal success overcoming codependency, I can really motivate and help my clients.
Oh boy... I know this is a tough one.
What does Co-dependency actually look like?
These are 20 signs of Co-dependency...
Do you have...
Depression?
Anxiety?
Stress?
Low self-esteem?
Low levels of narcissism?
Familial dysfunction?
Low emotional expressivity?
These are some of the things (Marks et al., 2012) found to correlate with codependency.
According to Lancer, 2016; Mental Health America other signs of Co-dependency may also include:
Having poor boundaries;
Having a hard time saying no;
Having trouble communicating honestly;
Showing emotional reactivity;
Having a need for control, especially over others;
Feeling compelled to take care of people;
Feeling a need to be liked by everyone;
Feeling a need to always be in a relationship;
Fixating on mistakes;
Denying one’s own needs, thoughts, and feelings;
Having intimacy issues;
Confusing love and pity;
Displaying fear of abandonment.
If that's you or your partner I recommend couples therapy!
3 Years Experience
