Online Perfectionism therapists in West Whittier-Los Nietos, California CA
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Perfectionism
Mia Turner
Therapist, MA, RYT, ASDCS, LMFT, NPT-C, CMNCS, CMIP
Perfectionism is often less about striving for excellence and more about seeking safety, belonging, predictability, acceptance, or protection. It can develop in response to trauma, marginalization, giftedness, neurodivergence, family expectations, racism, ableism, cultural pressures, high-achievement environments, or experiences where mistakes felt costly and being "good enough" never quite felt good enough.
What is often labeled as perfectionism may also reflect a nervous system that learned to stay vigilant, perform, overprepare, overachieve, self-monitor, mask, or anticipate problems in order to avoid criticism, rejection, disappointment, conflict, shame, or harm. For many people, perfectionism becomes intertwined with identity, self-worth, productivity, competence, and the belief that value must be earned rather than inherently possessed. It may show up as chronic self-criticism, difficulty resting, procrastination, overthinking, people-pleasing, hyper-independence, fear of failure, fear of success, difficulty making decisions, or feeling as though there is always more that should be done.
This work explores the protective role perfectionism has played throughout your life while examining the ways it may be impacting relationships, wellbeing, creativity, joy, authenticity, and connection with yourself. Particular attention is given to the influence of family systems, culture, gender, neurodivergence, trauma, and the internalized narratives that shape how you relate to achievement, mistakes, success, failure, worthiness, and belonging.
My approach is grounded in the belief that perfectionism is often an adaptive survival strategy rather than a personal flaw. Rather than attempting to simply eliminate perfectionistic tendencies, we become curious about what those parts are protecting, what they fear might happen if they loosened their grip, and what needs may exist beneath the pressure to perform. Using EMDR, somatic therapy, mindfulness, polyvagal-informed practices, parts work, neuropsychotherapy, expressive arts, attachment-focused approaches, and liberation-oriented healing, therapy supports developing a more compassionate relationship with the parts of yourself that learned to equate achievement with safety.
Attention is also given to the ways perfectionism lives in the body and nervous system. This may include chronic tension, difficulty slowing down, overactivation, self-monitoring, exhaustion, difficulty experiencing satisfaction, or feeling unable to rest without guilt. Through greater awareness of sensation, emotion, nervous system states, and embodied experience, space is created for increased flexibility, self-trust, self-compassion, and choice.
The goal is not to stop caring, striving, creating, achieving, or growing. It is to cultivate a relationship with yourself that is not dependent upon performance, productivity, approval, or getting everything right. Often, the work involves reclaiming authenticity, playfulness, creativity, rest, joy, pace, and the internal permission to be fully human rather than a constant self-improvement project.
10 Years Experience
Online in West Whittier-Los Nietos, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Dr. Christopher Lowery, DHSc, CLCP
Clinical Health Practitioner, Board-Certified Life Care Planner
This component assist with the management of self-criticism, reduce anxiety, and develop healthier standards, self-compassion, and balanced coping strategies.
24 Years Experience
Online in West Whittier-Los Nietos, CA
Perfectionism
Kristina Anzell
Licensed Clinical Social Worker, LCSW, CPSC
You are used to putting in extra work to get it right. When you don't do something right the first time, you beat yourself up and then spend time learning, researching and then don't stop trying until you get it perfect. The issue... babies do not work that way. They are all different, they are not predictable and they are not able to be controlled. You are spending too much time and energy on something that is "supposed to come naturally" and it feels awful! Get the support you need!
10 Years Experience
Online in West Whittier-Los Nietos, CA
Perfectionism
Elizabeth Nims
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
For those experiencing perfectionism, I can help you understand the origins of this belief and give skills to shift to seeking excellence over perfectionism and understanding your innate worth.
7 Years Experience
Online in West Whittier-Los Nietos, CA
Perfectionism
Monica M. Huston
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
Perfectionism often develops as a way to manage anxiety, self-worth, and fear of failure. While it can lead to high achievement, it can also create pressure, rigidity, and dissatisfaction. I help individuals understand the underlying drivers of perfectionism and develop more flexible, balanced ways of approaching themselves and their work.
9 Years Experience
Online in West Whittier-Los Nietos, CA
Perfectionism
Amber McKinney-Morgan
Licensed Clinical Social Worker, LCSW, LICSW
Perfectionism can look like high achievement on the outside but often feels like pressure, self-criticism, and never feeling “enough.” I help clients understand the roots of perfectionism and develop more flexible, compassionate ways of relating to themselves. The goal is to maintain excellence without sacrificing your well-being.
8 Years Experience
Online in West Whittier-Los Nietos, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Melanie Simms
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
I believe that self-compassion is the antidote for perfectionism. I work with clients to heal from early traumatic experiences that may have led to the development of perfectionism as a coping mechanism. I help clients develop their overall feeling of self-worth and treat themselves with greater compassion to reduce perfectionistic tendencies.
11 Years Experience
Online in West Whittier-Los Nietos, CA
Perfectionism
Roderic Burks - Integrative Mental Health
Licensed Mental Health Counselor, MS, MS HSc, MA, LMHC, LPC
Perfectionism often arises from internalized expectations and self-critical patterns that create stress and self-doubt. I help clients explore the parts of themselves driving these tendencies and the underlying emotions behind them. Together, we work toward self-compassion, balance, and the ability to pursue goals without being ruled by fear or self-judgment.
26 Years Experience
Online in West Whittier-Los Nietos, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Emily St. Amant
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPC-MHSP-S (TN), LPCC (CA)
Perfectionism shows up in many of my clients for a variety of reasons, and I enjoy working with people as they embrace their real selves.
18 Years Experience
Online in West Whittier-Los Nietos, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
The Connection Clinic
Marriage and Family Therapist
We assist individuals struggling with perfectionism by helping them cultivate self-compassion and realistic expectations. Our goal is to allow for healthier living and greater life satisfaction.
9 Years Experience
Online in West Whittier-Los Nietos, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Tracey Kiernan
Marriage and Family Therapist, MA, AMFT
Perfectionism often looks like success on the outside but feels exhausting internally. I help you understand the drivers behind it and shift toward a more sustainable, self-supportive way of functioning.
2 Years Experience
Online in West Whittier-Los Nietos, CA
Perfectionism
Abigail (Abi) Zarate Ramsay
Pre-Licensed Professional, Marriage and Family Therapist Trainee, Professional Clinical Counselor Trainee
I help clients struggling with perfectionism, self-criticism, and burnout learn to set kinder expectations, tolerate mistakes, and build a more flexible, values-based sense of success.
0 Years Experience
Online in West Whittier-Los Nietos, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Tara McGrath
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
You may not identify as a "perfectionist" because you're not doing things perfectly. In reality, people who struggle with perfectionism feel like they're never performing well enough, and they can always find the flaws in everything they do. These tendencies can also with correlate with procrastination. I work with people to improve their self-compassion and self-worth to allow for excellence instead of unrealistic perfection.
23 Years Experience
Online in West Whittier-Los Nietos, CA
Perfectionism
Sarah Jane Thomas
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
Perfectionism keeps you stuck in all-or-nothing thinking, where everything has to be perfect or it feels like a total failure. This mindset makes it really hard to exist in the grey area where life actually happens. We will explore where those rigid standards came from and practice getting comfortable with the messiness of being human instead of striving for unattainable perfection. Our work is about reminding you that you matter even when you are not producing, achieving, or grinding your way through the day.
11 Years Experience
Online in West Whittier-Los Nietos, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Michelle Roberts
Licensed Clinical Social Worker, LCSW
It can feel like a treadmill that you can't slow down. Goal posts always moving. Let's unpack the origin story of this struggle and start making small shifts that honor your needs and boundaries.
12 Years Experience
Online in West Whittier-Los Nietos, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Rose Snyder, EdM, PsyD, LLC
Psychologist, PsyD
I generally view myself as a "recovering perfectionist" and would be happy to support you in your journey with this as well! I find that empathy and validation go a long way with this, as well as a focus on radical self-acceptance and self-compassion. We may work on direct coping skills, adjusting your internal self-dialogue, and developing mindful self-compassion skills in a more formalized way as needed. I strive for all of my clients to accept themselves as "perfectly imperfect humans," as we all are.
23 Years Experience
Online in West Whittier-Los Nietos, CA
Perfectionism
Sandy Kong
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT 119380
Therapy for perfectionism focuses on reducing rigid, unrealistic standards, and alleviating associated anxiety, depression, or burnout. Perfectionism is seen as a trauma response. Trauma has shaped someone's life into believing that they have to be "perfect" in order to be "loveable" or "worthy". The most effective approach is generally learning how to identify and challenge distorted beliefs; changing your relationship with perfectionistic thoughts and focusing on values over flawlessness; exploring early life experiences and deep-rooted causes behind the need for control; develop
mindfulness-based approaches to help manage anxiety by staying present, reducing the need for constant, perfect self-presentation; and cultivating kindness toward oneself, especially when facing imperfections or failures.
11 Years Experience
Online in West Whittier-Los Nietos, CA
Perfectionism
Freestyle Supervision and EMDR Group LLC
Counselor/Therapist, LPCC-S, LEP, NCC, APCC, AMFT, ASW, NCC
Perfectionism is often a survival strategy used to feel safe or worthy. We help you peel back the layers of high-functioning anxiety to find a life based on "good enough" and genuine self-acceptance
4 Years Experience
Online in West Whittier-Los Nietos, CA
Perfectionism
Kim Gibson
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPCC, ATR
Many of my clients experience perfectionism secondary to ADHD or anxiety. I enjoy helping clients identify this pattern and explore what is behind it and if its time to change it.
25 Years Experience
Online in West Whittier-Los Nietos, CA
Perfectionism
Dr. Jag Soni
Psychologist, Ph.D., HSPP, PCC, SPHR, SHRM-SCP
While the drive for excellence is often rewarded, the weight of Perfectionism and "never being enough" leads to burnout and paralysis. Drawing on 35 years of clinical experience, I help you shift from self-criticism to a resilient, high-functioning sense of self. We work to uncover the root of your perfectionistic standards and foster the internal changes needed to achieve your goals without sacrificing your mental well-being. In a private Telehealth setting, I provide a sophisticated space to help you trade the burden of perfection for an authentic and manageable life. Contact me to schedule your first appointment.
36 Years Experience
Online in West Whittier-Los Nietos, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism therapists in West Whittier-Los Nietos, California Statistics
Perfectionism therapists in West Whittier-Los Nietos, California average 13 years of experience and charge around $203 per session. 100% offer online sessions. The most commonly treated issues are Perfectionism (100%), Trauma and PTSD (83%), and Anxiety or Fears (80%).
Average years in practice
13 Years Experience
Average cost per session
$203
Gender ID
| 71% |
Female |
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| 15% |
Male |
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| 7% |
Non-Binary |
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| 7% |
Gender Fluid |
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Session Type
| 55% |
In Person and Online |
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| 45% |
Online Only |
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Top Specialties
| 100% | Perfectionism |
| 83% | Trauma and PTSD |
| 80% | Anxiety or Fears |
| 78% | Life Transitions |
| 75% | Stress |
| 70% | Depression |
| 65% | Women's Issues |