Online Self Esteem therapists in Minehead, England ENG, United Kingdom UK

Bognor Regis, Bristol, London, West Sussex Self Esteem sometimes we do not realise how low our own self esteem is until we get support. It is possible to rebuild this and make changes with our behaviours and self beleif  

At ComposurePsychology we have Clinical Psychologists with many years experience working with people to understand and overcome low self esteem concerns, to learn and practice new strategies for raising their confidence. We draw from evidence based therapies including; CBT, ACT, CFT, SFT, DBT, EMDR, systemic, narrative, psychodynamic and others.  

How Therapy Can Help with Self-Esteem - The way you see yourself shapes everything—your relationships, your career choices, how you handle challenges, and even your overall happiness. If you struggle with low self-esteem, you're likely your own harshest critic, and that internal voice can be exhausting and limiting. The good news is that self-esteem isn't fixed—it can grow and strengthen with the right support, and therapy offers a powerful path toward seeing yourself more clearly and compassionately. What Low Self-Esteem Looks Like Low self-esteem goes beyond occasional self-doubt. It's a persistent negative view of yourself that might show up as: Constant self-criticism or negative self-talk Feeling like you're not good enough, no matter what you achieve Difficulty accepting compliments or believing positive feedback Comparing yourself unfavorably to others Perfectionism and fear of failure People-pleasing and difficulty saying no Avoiding challenges because you assume you'll fail Staying in unhealthy relationships because you don't think you deserve better Feeling like an imposter in your own life Apologizing excessively or taking blame for things that aren't your fault Difficulty making decisions because you don't trust yourself These patterns can hold you back from pursuing opportunities, building healthy relationships, and living authentically. How Therapy Helps Uncovering the Roots Low self-esteem doesn't appear out of nowhere—it's usually built over time through experiences like childhood criticism, emotional neglect, bullying, trauma, failed relationships, or repeated disappointments. Therapy helps you understand where your negative self-view originated. This isn't about blaming others; it's about recognizing that your inner critic was learned, which means it can be unlearned. Challenging the Inner Critic That harsh voice in your head isn't telling you the truth—it's repeating old messages that may have never been accurate in the first place. Therapy, particularly Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), helps you identify these negative thought patterns and challenge them with evidence and compassion. You learn to question thoughts like "I'm worthless" or "I always mess things up" and replace them with more balanced, realistic perspectives. Separating Your Worth from Your Performance Many people tie their self-esteem to achievements, appearance, or others' approval. Therapy helps you recognize that your worth is inherent—it doesn't depend on what you do, how you look, or what others think of you. This shift from conditional to unconditional self-worth is transformative and freeing. Processing Past Wounds If your low self-esteem stems from trauma, abuse, or painful experiences, therapies like EMDR can help process these memories so they have less emotional power over you. When you heal the wounds that taught you to see yourself negatively, your self-esteem naturally begins to improve. Developing Self-Compassion Self-compassion is treating yourself with the same kindness you'd offer a good friend. Therapy helps you cultivate this gentler internal voice, recognizing that everyone makes mistakes, has flaws, and struggles sometimes—and that doesn't make you less worthy. You learn to comfort yourself rather than attack yourself when things go wrong. Identifying Your Strengths and Values Low self-esteem often creates tunnel vision where you only see your perceived flaws and failures. Therapy helps you take a more balanced inventory—recognizing your strengths, accomplishments, positive qualities, and the values that guide you. Many people are genuinely surprised to discover how much they've been discounting about themselves. Setting Healthy Boundaries When you don't value yourself, you're more likely to let others mistreat you, overextend yourself, or stay in situations that diminish you. Therapy helps you recognize that you deserve respect and teaches you how to set boundaries that protect your wellbeing. Each time you honor a boundary, you reinforce your own worth. Building Assertiveness Learning to express your needs, opinions, and feelings without excessive fear or guilt is crucial for healthy self-esteem. Therapy provides a safe space to practice assertiveness and develop confidence in your right to take up space, have needs, and be heard. Breaking People-Pleasing Patterns If you've learned to derive worth from making others happy or avoiding conflict, therapy helps you examine this pattern and gradually shift toward living more authentically. You learn that disappointing someone occasionally doesn't make you a bad person, and that your needs matter just as much as anyone else's. Celebrating Progress, Not Just Perfection Therapy helps you recognize and celebrate small wins and efforts, not just major achievements. You learn to acknowledge growth, courage, and trying—even when things don't turn out perfectly. This builds a more sustainable, realistic foundation for self-esteem. Experiencing Unconditional Acceptance Perhaps one of the most healing aspects of therapy is experiencing genuine acceptance from your therapist. In person-centred therapy especially, you're met with unconditional positive regard—you're valued simply for being you, not for what you accomplish or how you perform. This experience can begin to rewire your belief about your own worthiness. Types of Therapy That Help Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): Directly targets negative thought patterns and helps you develop more balanced thinking about yourself. Person-Centred Therapy: Offers unconditional acceptance that helps you internalize a more positive self-view. EMDR: Processes traumatic experiences that damaged your self-esteem. Compassion-Focused Therapy (CFT): Specifically designed to build self-compassion and counter self-criticism. Psychodynamic Therapy: Explores how early relationships and experiences shaped your self-concept. Group Therapy: Provides connection with others who struggle similarly and offers opportunities to receive positive feedback and support. What Growth Looks Like As therapy progresses and your self-esteem strengthens, you might notice: Quieter, kinder internal dialogue More willingness to try new things or take healthy risks Ability to accept compliments and believe them Setting and maintaining boundaries without excessive guilt Making decisions with more confidence Less comparison to others Greater resilience when things go wrong Choosing relationships and situations that honor your worth Feeling more comfortable being yourself.  

Low self-esteem can shape how you see yourself, what you expect from relationships, what you tolerate, and what you believe you deserve. It often develops through repeated experiences of criticism, neglect, rejection, comparison, shame, or feeling unseen. My approach is warm, reflective, and focused on helping you understand the deeper roots of how you came to relate to yourself in this way, so that you can build greater self-worth, self-trust, and confidence.  

Self-Esteem or self worth is one of the most targeted issues for humans beings, unless they live in truly natural communities. We are all growing up in neurotic and untrue conditioning on how we should be, rather than supporting each other in how we are. The uniqueness of each person get sacrificed for silly idealism and children are being hindered to develop naturally. So far so bad. The good news is: your true worthiness, your self-esteem was never really destroyed. IT IS INSIDE. It simply takes taking away the lies and illusions on 'how I should be' and become how you are. I can help with that! it is much simpler than it sounds but it may not be always easy.  

This is one of the main areas where people come to work with me. Often, they know they feel unhappy and even feel lost. It could be that things have not been great in your life and you are surprised by how quickly and utterly this has knocked you down. Working on self esteem and finding that deep appreciation and concern for who you actually are, can transform your life. I would love to be part of this journey with you, so please get in touch.  

Low self-esteem often isn’t a lack of ability—it’s a learned relationship with yourself shaped by old experiences, chronic self-criticism, comparison, or the feeling of “not enough.” For many high-functioning people, it can also show up as imposter feelings: the sense that success isn’t truly deserved or that you could be “found out” at any moment. Many people cope by overachieving, people-pleasing, perfectionism, or shrinking their needs to avoid judgment. In our work together, we identify the beliefs and protective strategies underneath self-doubt and build a steadier form of self-trust. That includes strengthening boundaries, practicing more honest self-talk, working with shame and fear of evaluation, and learning how to take meaningful action even when confidence isn’t fully online. Often, confidence returns as self-trust strengthens. The goal isn’t inflated confidence, but a grounded sense of worth—so you can show up in relationships and in life with greater clarity and a stronger sense of agency and freedom.  

At the core of it, no one should be able to talk you into or out of self esteem. We help you to earn this respect from and by yourself.  

Self-worth is part of self-esteem  

Low self-esteem can quietly shape every area of life—how you see yourself, the choices you make, and the relationships you keep. Together, we’ll explore and gently release the old beliefs, patterns, or experiences that have held you back. Using neuroscience-based coaching, BWRT®, and therapeutic tools, I help you rewire the inner story you tell yourself and build a stronger, kinder sense of self. Alongside this, mindfulness and energy practices can support you in feeling more grounded, resilient, and confident. The aim is not just to “feel better,” but to truly step into your worth and create a life that reflects who you really are.  

Self esteem is a measure of your relationship with yourself. I can help you redefine that relationship by reviewing your core values, personal expectations and influences on you and your current state, and by providing guidance on how to be kinder to yourself. If confidence levels are low, I can help with very simple but effective ways to help you regain previous levels of self-belief, particularly if underpinned by excessive dependence on negative perceptions  

Self esteem is the core of our well being. We often lose it through life experience but we can regain it. I find EMDR particularly helpful in developing greater Self esteem  

We have been working with clients to increase and improve their confidence and self-esteem with hypnotherapy and mindfulness therapies since 2007. We can help you escape negative thoughts, feelings and experiences, allowing you to love, appreciate and accept yourself more fully.  

I introduced treatment for self-esteem into my practice as a stand-alone goal years ago learning about this topic through research. When working with patients in the first few sessions themes will emerge and I will learn how self-esteem presents itself with them. The three areas of focus in terms of self-esteem and how I approach healing is to look at Self-Love, Self-Confidence and Self-Worth.  

Low self-esteem often develops through early life experiences, relationships, or messages that lead us to question our value. Through trauma-informed coaching, we explore the beliefs and experiences that have shaped how you see yourself, bringing awareness to the patterns that no longer serve you. Together, we work to build self-compassion, challenge limiting beliefs, strengthen your relationship with yourself, and develop a sense of confidence that comes from self-acceptance rather than external validation.  

Low self-esteem isn't about lacking confidence. It's about carrying a deep sense that something's fundamentally wrong with you. You might be good at your job, have people who love you, tick all the boxes—but inside, you're convinced you're not enough. That if people really knew you, they'd see through the performance. This feeling didn't come from nowhere. Somewhere along the line, you learned that who you are isn't acceptable. Maybe you were criticized, dismissed, or had to earn approval that should have been freely given. Your nervous system learned: "I have to be perfect/invisible/useful to be okay." We work to understand where that belief got installed and why it's still running. Not through affirmations or telling you you're great—that doesn't work because you won't believe it. Instead, we look at what happened that taught you to see yourself this way, and then we start dismantling it. Real self-worth isn't built through positive thinking. It's built through understanding why you learned to reject yourself, then slowly learning you don't have to anymore.  

You are not your inner critic. Together, we’ll explore the unconscious beliefs shaping how you see yourself and shift them from the root. You deserve to feel confident in who you are, not just on the surface, but deep within. Let’s start building that foundation today.  

Self-esteem for success is our motto. We have a dedicated program to help develop and boost healthy self-esteem. Contact us today to get started.  

When things go wrong, it’s easy to blame yourself. With compassionate guidance, we’ll explore self-acceptance and honesty, helping you rebuild confidence and self-worth at your own pace.  

We think we need many things to feel stronger. In therapy we learn why this is sometimes the case.