Online Self Esteem therapists in Brecon, Wales Wales, United Kingdom UK

Bognor Regis, Bristol, London, West Sussex Self Esteem sometimes we do not realise how low our own self esteem is until we get support. It is possible to rebuild this and make changes with our behaviours and self beleif  

I'm Emma, an integrative transpersonal practitioner dedicated to guiding you on a journey of self-discovery and healing. Through a blend of hypnotherapy, breathwork, meditation, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP), Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), and spiritual coaching, I create a compassionate safe space for you to connect with the deepest levels of yourself. If you struggle with self-worth or inner criticism, our work can help you reconnect with your inherent value. I support you in healing the wounds that shaped your self-image, gently rewiring limiting beliefs through tools like NLP, hypnotherapy, and somatic practices. You’ll learn to trust your voice, set healthy boundaries, and embody confidence from the inside out. You deserve to feel empowered in your own skin.  

I use a compassionate, solution-focused approach to help my clients boost their self-esteem.  

Self esteem can be said to be an individual's subjective evaluation of their own self-worth, based on opinions and beliefs of self. When a sense of low self esteem affects one's daily life, it can cause one to see self in a negative and critical light, reinforcing underlying doubts and fears and can eventually lead to depression and anxiety.  

Paul Shepard wrote; “The grief and sense of loss that we often attribute to a failure in our personality, is actually a feeling of emptiness where a beautiful and strange otherness should have been encountered.” Ecotherapy and contact with nature aims to fill the void.  

Our overall wellbeing is affected by our level of self-esteem...to what degree we value ourselves as worthy of respect, are self-confident, are able to use our voice to set our boundaries and ask for our needs to be met. Negative thoughts we carry about ourselves at our core can cause our self-esteem to be low. The goal of therapy is to understand these core beliefs we hold about ourselves and reframe them or alter them in line with the present so that we can engage with life in a healthy way that brings us peace and happiness.  

The techniques I use and my personal experience of low self-esteem are essential to help you.  

Self-esteem is a complex concept that includes how you feel about yourself, your self-worth, how capable you are (self-efficacy) and self-confidence. If you have low self-esteem, chances are you have struggled in relationships, have experienced domestic abuse, or have internalised hurtful comments from other people. Perhaps you are judgmental and critical of yourself. Therapy can help work through your difficult feelings, reconnect to yourself, regain your confidence and learn relationship and other skills to help in the future.  

Low self-worth is often experienced as a belief - something to be challenged, reframed, or worked on. In practice, it tends to live deeper than that: in the body's habitual posture, in the contraction that happens before speaking in a group, in the felt sense of taking up too much or too little space. This work reaches those layers and creates the conditions for a different experience of yourself to emerge - not as an idea, but as something your body actually registers as true.  

Low self esteem can be paralysing and can lead to other issues. however it does not need to be this way. I use both my personal and professional experience to help clients find rediscover themselves and thrive in life. I use both counselling and coaching skills to support clients on their journey.  

People's relationship towards themselves is central to my approach to therapy. I am highly specialised in working with experiences of low self esteem, low self worth, self-hatred, and a struggle to value and love yourself.  

Believe in yourself. Create healthy boundaries. Acceptance of yourself. Developing necessary skills. These are the four foundations of self-esteem. Step by step we will build the building of your self-esteem.  

Self-esteem is shaped through early emotional experience and internalized relationships. My work integrates psychoanalytic exploration and embodied awareness to support a more compassionate and coherent relationship with the self. This process helps patients move beyond shame and self-criticism toward greater self-acceptance.  

We work through your self-esteem issues and use a lot of methods to uncover your true identity, strengths, gifts and personality and work to restore your self esteem. RTT, Hypnosis and Health Coaching are all methods I like to use to help clients boost their self esteem.  

I work with adults who struggle with low self-esteem, including persistent self-doubt, harsh self-criticism, and a tendency to hold back in relationships or opportunities. Difficulties with self-esteem often develop over time in response to early experiences, expectations, and the roles people have learned to occupy. My work draws on Integrative Art Psychotherapy and Internal Family Systems (IFS), offering ways to understand how these inner patterns are organised and what they may be protecting. Rather than trying to build confidence directly, the focus is on exploring how different parts relate to one another and how beliefs about self-worth have formed. Sessions may involve conversation, creative exploration, or a combination of both, depending on what feels most useful.  

Empowerment begins with embracing your unique worth. As a dedicated psychologist specializing in women's self-esteem, I'm here to guide you on a journey of self-discovery and confidence building. Together, we'll navigate the intricacies of self-esteem, address limiting beliefs, and develop personalized strategies to amplify your sense of self-worth. Whether you're seeking to break free from self-doubt, define your identity, or foster a positive self-image, our collaborative work aims to empower you on the path to embracing your authentic, empowered self.  

Low self-esteem is linked in most cases to neglect, abuse and bullying which must be explored to in order to find a better balance in oneself.  

How Therapy Can Help with Self-Esteem - The way you see yourself shapes everything—your relationships, your career choices, how you handle challenges, and even your overall happiness. If you struggle with low self-esteem, you're likely your own harshest critic, and that internal voice can be exhausting and limiting. The good news is that self-esteem isn't fixed—it can grow and strengthen with the right support, and therapy offers a powerful path toward seeing yourself more clearly and compassionately. What Low Self-Esteem Looks Like Low self-esteem goes beyond occasional self-doubt. It's a persistent negative view of yourself that might show up as: Constant self-criticism or negative self-talk Feeling like you're not good enough, no matter what you achieve Difficulty accepting compliments or believing positive feedback Comparing yourself unfavorably to others Perfectionism and fear of failure People-pleasing and difficulty saying no Avoiding challenges because you assume you'll fail Staying in unhealthy relationships because you don't think you deserve better Feeling like an imposter in your own life Apologizing excessively or taking blame for things that aren't your fault Difficulty making decisions because you don't trust yourself These patterns can hold you back from pursuing opportunities, building healthy relationships, and living authentically. How Therapy Helps Uncovering the Roots Low self-esteem doesn't appear out of nowhere—it's usually built over time through experiences like childhood criticism, emotional neglect, bullying, trauma, failed relationships, or repeated disappointments. Therapy helps you understand where your negative self-view originated. This isn't about blaming others; it's about recognizing that your inner critic was learned, which means it can be unlearned. Challenging the Inner Critic That harsh voice in your head isn't telling you the truth—it's repeating old messages that may have never been accurate in the first place. Therapy, particularly Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), helps you identify these negative thought patterns and challenge them with evidence and compassion. You learn to question thoughts like "I'm worthless" or "I always mess things up" and replace them with more balanced, realistic perspectives. Separating Your Worth from Your Performance Many people tie their self-esteem to achievements, appearance, or others' approval. Therapy helps you recognize that your worth is inherent—it doesn't depend on what you do, how you look, or what others think of you. This shift from conditional to unconditional self-worth is transformative and freeing. Processing Past Wounds If your low self-esteem stems from trauma, abuse, or painful experiences, therapies like EMDR can help process these memories so they have less emotional power over you. When you heal the wounds that taught you to see yourself negatively, your self-esteem naturally begins to improve. Developing Self-Compassion Self-compassion is treating yourself with the same kindness you'd offer a good friend. Therapy helps you cultivate this gentler internal voice, recognizing that everyone makes mistakes, has flaws, and struggles sometimes—and that doesn't make you less worthy. You learn to comfort yourself rather than attack yourself when things go wrong. Identifying Your Strengths and Values Low self-esteem often creates tunnel vision where you only see your perceived flaws and failures. Therapy helps you take a more balanced inventory—recognizing your strengths, accomplishments, positive qualities, and the values that guide you. Many people are genuinely surprised to discover how much they've been discounting about themselves. Setting Healthy Boundaries When you don't value yourself, you're more likely to let others mistreat you, overextend yourself, or stay in situations that diminish you. Therapy helps you recognize that you deserve respect and teaches you how to set boundaries that protect your wellbeing. Each time you honor a boundary, you reinforce your own worth. Building Assertiveness Learning to express your needs, opinions, and feelings without excessive fear or guilt is crucial for healthy self-esteem. Therapy provides a safe space to practice assertiveness and develop confidence in your right to take up space, have needs, and be heard. Breaking People-Pleasing Patterns If you've learned to derive worth from making others happy or avoiding conflict, therapy helps you examine this pattern and gradually shift toward living more authentically. You learn that disappointing someone occasionally doesn't make you a bad person, and that your needs matter just as much as anyone else's. Celebrating Progress, Not Just Perfection Therapy helps you recognize and celebrate small wins and efforts, not just major achievements. You learn to acknowledge growth, courage, and trying—even when things don't turn out perfectly. This builds a more sustainable, realistic foundation for self-esteem. Experiencing Unconditional Acceptance Perhaps one of the most healing aspects of therapy is experiencing genuine acceptance from your therapist. In person-centred therapy especially, you're met with unconditional positive regard—you're valued simply for being you, not for what you accomplish or how you perform. This experience can begin to rewire your belief about your own worthiness. Types of Therapy That Help Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): Directly targets negative thought patterns and helps you develop more balanced thinking about yourself. Person-Centred Therapy: Offers unconditional acceptance that helps you internalize a more positive self-view. EMDR: Processes traumatic experiences that damaged your self-esteem. Compassion-Focused Therapy (CFT): Specifically designed to build self-compassion and counter self-criticism. Psychodynamic Therapy: Explores how early relationships and experiences shaped your self-concept. Group Therapy: Provides connection with others who struggle similarly and offers opportunities to receive positive feedback and support. What Growth Looks Like As therapy progresses and your self-esteem strengthens, you might notice: Quieter, kinder internal dialogue More willingness to try new things or take healthy risks Ability to accept compliments and believe them Setting and maintaining boundaries without excessive guilt Making decisions with more confidence Less comparison to others Greater resilience when things go wrong Choosing relationships and situations that honor your worth Feeling more comfortable being yourself.  

I hear the struggle you're facing with self-doubt and its impact on your life. It's heartbreaking to feel like you're not reaching your full potential due to a lack of self-confidence. This can affect every area of your life, from personal relationships to professional achievements and social interactions. It's common to feel like you're stuck in a cycle of self-doubt, where negative self-talk and fear of failure hold you back. But know that you're not alone in this feeling. Many people face similar challenges, and there is hope for change. Here are some ways we can work together to help you break free from these limitations: Identify and Challenge Negative Self-Talk: We can explore the roots of your self-doubt and develop strategies to replace negative thoughts with positive affirmations. Build Self-Confidence: By focusing on your strengths and past successes, we can build a stronger sense of self-worth. Set and Achieve Goals: Together, we can set realistic goals in your personal, work, and social life, and work on strategies to achieve them. Develop Healthy Relationships: We can explore ways to communicate your needs effectively and build more fulfilling relationships. Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness. You deserve to live a life where you feel confident and empowered to reach your full potential. Contact me today, and let's start this journey together. I'm here to support you every step of the way.  

Self-Esteem & Self-Confidence - Complimentary Consultation Are you struggling with low self-esteem or a critical inner voice? Many people carry self-doubt that affects their relationships, decisions and ability to pursue opportunities with confidence. Through coaching, we work on developing greater self-awareness, self-acceptance and self-compassion while strengthening a healthier and more stable sense of self. The goal is to help you build confidence that is grounded, realistic and supportive of the life you want to create. Book a complimentary consultation to explore whether this approach is right for you.