Online Perfectionism therapists in San Diego, California CA
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Perfectionism
Melanie Simms
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
I believe that self-compassion is the antidote for perfectionism. I work with clients to heal from early traumatic experiences that may have led to the development of perfectionism as a coping mechanism. I help clients develop their overall feeling of self-worth and treat themselves with greater compassion to reduce perfectionistic tendencies.
11 Years Experience
Online in San Diego, CA
Perfectionism
Nes Pinar Psychotherapy
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
Many people don’t realize that perfectionism isn’t about doing things perfectly—it’s about feeling like anything less than what they had in their minds is unacceptable. This mindset often creates constant self‑criticism, pressure, and a sense that nothing is ever “good enough,” even when you’re working incredibly hard. I help clients notice these patterns with compassion and begin shifting toward a more grounded, accepting way of relating to themselves.
15 Years Experience
Online in San Diego, CA
Perfectionism
G. Roman Gupta, LCSW
Therapist, LCSW
I have been practicing for almost 20 years and I have a strength-based, trauma-informed, culturally aware, LGBTQ+ affirmative, sex positive, kink positive, poly affirming, feminist perspective. I have trained and practiced in a variety of treatment methods that offer us a variety of ways to meet your goals whether as an individual, couple, or family.
18 Years Experience
Online in San Diego, CA
Perfectionism
Melissa Berschauer
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
Holding yourself to impossible standards usually results in a lot of anxiety and procrastination rather than actual satisfaction. Feeling burned out is sometimes the next level of perfectionism. I help you untangle your worth from your productivity, allowing you to breathe a little easier without losing your drive.
14 Years Experience
Online in San Diego, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Sandy Kong
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT 119380
Therapy for perfectionism focuses on reducing rigid, unrealistic standards, and alleviating associated anxiety, depression, or burnout. Perfectionism is seen as a trauma response. Trauma has shaped someone's life into believing that they have to be "perfect" in order to be "loveable" or "worthy". The most effective approach is generally learning how to identify and challenge distorted beliefs; changing your relationship with perfectionistic thoughts and focusing on values over flawlessness; exploring early life experiences and deep-rooted causes behind the need for control; develop
mindfulness-based approaches to help manage anxiety by staying present, reducing the need for constant, perfect self-presentation; and cultivating kindness toward oneself, especially when facing imperfections or failures.
11 Years Experience
Online in San Diego, CA
Perfectionism
Danielle Esses
Psychologist, PsyD
Perfectionism can look like high standards on the surface, but often comes with anxiety, self-criticism, and difficulty feeling satisfied or at ease. Therapy helps you understand the function of these patterns and develop a more flexible, sustainable way of approaching achievement and self-worth.
8 Years Experience
Online in San Diego, CA
Perfectionism
Amy @ Inner Nature Therapy
Licensed Clinical Social Worker, LCSW, PMH-C
Perfectionism is the thief of joy! As a recovering perfectionist myself, I will be kind but honest with you when I notice perfectionism creeping in to your thinking and self-image. By gently rooting it out, I can support you towards accepting things as they are while remaining confident in yourself and motivated to make positive changes.
13 Years Experience
Online in San Diego, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Emily St. Amant
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPC-MHSP-S (TN), LPCC (CA)
Perfectionism shows up in many of my clients for a variety of reasons, and I enjoy working with people as they embrace their real selves.
18 Years Experience
Online in San Diego, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Abigail (Abi) Zarate Ramsay
Pre-Licensed Professional, Marriage and Family Therapist Trainee, Professional Clinical Counselor Trainee
I help clients struggling with perfectionism, self-criticism, and burnout learn to set kinder expectations, tolerate mistakes, and build a more flexible, values-based sense of success.
0 Years Experience
Online in San Diego, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Shannon Gorres
Life Coach, MDiv, MA
I used to joke that I'm a "recovering perfectionist," but trying to recover from it might just be another way of holding ourselves to someone else's standard (of not being "uptight" or "too good" or something). I think the real key is to figure out what our internal compass really wants to point us to. If we were born to pay attention and excel, let's do that in a way that helps us and others thrive, with less shame and stress when we mess up. I'm an Enneagram 1 (I lead with a personality type that can be called "perfectionist" or "idealist"). Maybe you are an Enneagram 1, or a 2 (a people pleaser), or 3 (an achiever). Or maybe you weren't born this way, but your parents pressured you into perfectionism. However perfectionism intersects with your personality, let's find a way to honor its gifts while asking it to rest a bit so other parts of you can also shine.
11 Years Experience
Online in San Diego, CA
Perfectionism
New Beginnings Christian Counseling
Marriage and Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Perfectionism can feel like a constant pressure to perform, achieve, or appear “good enough,” often leaving you exhausted, anxious, or self-critical. It’s usually rooted in early experiences, fear of failure, or unmet expectations. In therapy, we explore the beliefs driving perfectionistic patterns, develop healthier self-compassion, and create practical strategies for balance and emotional freedom. With Christ-centered guidance, you’ll learn to embrace progress over perfection, honor your worth, and live with greater peace and authenticity.
15 Years Experience
Online in San Diego, CA
Perfectionism
LaTianna Williams, Therapy, Sexology, and Holistic Tantra
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT, CTRS, ABS
Perfectionism and Imposter’s Syndrome: Perfectionism can create the illusion of success while quietly fueling anxiety, self-criticism, burnout, procrastination, and fear of failure. No matter how much you achieve, it may never feel like enough.
I help clients uncover the beliefs and experiences driving perfectionism and develop healthier ways of relating to themselves and their goals. Together, we’ll cultivate self-compassion, resilience, and a more balanced approach to achievement.
This work is about letting go of impossible standards and creating space for growth, authenticity, and genuine fulfillment.
8 Years Experience
Online in San Diego, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Layla Ashley Psychotherapy
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
Perfectionism can create constant pressure to perform or appear flawless. In sessions, we explore how to shift rigid expectations, and cultivate a healthier relationship with achievement and self-worth.
23 Years Experience
Online in San Diego, CA
Perfectionism
Sarah Jane Thomas
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
Perfectionism keeps you stuck in all-or-nothing thinking, where everything has to be perfect or it feels like a total failure. This mindset makes it really hard to exist in the grey area where life actually happens. We will explore where those rigid standards came from and practice getting comfortable with the messiness of being human instead of striving for unattainable perfection. Our work is about reminding you that you matter even when you are not producing, achieving, or grinding your way through the day.
11 Years Experience
Online in San Diego, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Mary Mallinson Therapy
Licensed Clinical Social Worker, LCSW
Perfectionism often shows up as pressure, self-criticism, and fear of failure. Together, we explore the roots of perfectionism and work toward building self-compassion, flexibility, and a more balanced, sustainable way of relating to yourself.
5 Years Experience
Online in San Diego, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Elizabeth Nims
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
For those experiencing perfectionism, I can help you understand the origins of this belief and give skills to shift to seeking excellence over perfectionism and understanding your innate worth.
7 Years Experience
Online in San Diego, CA
Perfectionism
Kristina Anzell
Licensed Clinical Social Worker, LCSW, CPSC
You are used to putting in extra work to get it right. When you don't do something right the first time, you beat yourself up and then spend time learning, researching and then don't stop trying until you get it perfect. The issue... babies do not work that way. They are all different, they are not predictable and they are not able to be controlled. You are spending too much time and energy on something that is "supposed to come naturally" and it feels awful! Get the support you need!
10 Years Experience
Online in San Diego, CA
Perfectionism
Liza Roth, MA, LMFT
Marriage and Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Perfectionism isn't about doing things perfectly, it's about finding fault easily. Somewhere along the way, you came to believe that if you did things perfectly, you would be safe and free from worry. Instead, you are still full of worry and are just plain exhausted. Let's work together to figure out how perfectionism serves you, how it doesn't, and how you can find balance and inner peace.
5 Years Experience
Online in San Diego, CA
Perfectionism
Dr. Michael Marossy
Psychologist, Ph.D.
Perfectionism often involves far more than simply having high standards. Many individuals struggling with perfectionism experience chronic self-criticism, fear of failure, anxiety, procrastination, emotional burnout, shame, difficulty relaxing, or a persistent feeling that they are never “good enough” regardless of achievement or external success.
I help clients better understand the emotional and relational roots of perfectionistic patterns while developing greater self-compassion, psychological flexibility, and a healthier relationship with achievement, performance, and self-worth. Therapy focuses on reducing rigid thinking and chronic pressure while helping clients build more balanced, meaningful, and emotionally sustainable ways of living.
8 Years Experience
Online in San Diego, CA
Perfectionism
Monica M. Huston
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
Perfectionism often develops as a way to manage anxiety, self-worth, and fear of failure. While it can lead to high achievement, it can also create pressure, rigidity, and dissatisfaction. I help individuals understand the underlying drivers of perfectionism and develop more flexible, balanced ways of approaching themselves and their work.
9 Years Experience
Online in San Diego, CA
San Diego's identity as a major military and biotech hub creates dual demand for therapists specializing in veteran trauma and PTSD on one hand, and the high-functioning anxiety and burnout of the life sciences industry on the other. The city's large active-duty population at Naval Base San Diego and Camp Pendleton means therapists with military specialty training are consistently sought after, and many practices are specifically oriented toward service members and their families. San Diego's border location and large Latino population drive demand for bilingual therapists and culturally affirming care for immigrant and mixed-status families. Scripps Health and UC San Diego Health provide institutional mental health anchors across the county.
Perfectionism therapists in San Diego, California Statistics
Perfectionism therapists in San Diego, California average 13 years of experience and charge around $203 per session. 100% offer online sessions. The most commonly treated issues are Perfectionism (100%), Trauma and PTSD (83%), and Anxiety or Fears (80%).
Average years in practice
13 Years Experience
Average cost per session
$203
Gender ID
| 71% |
Female |
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| 15% |
Male |
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| 7% |
Non-Binary |
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| 7% |
Gender Fluid |
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Session Type
| 55% |
In Person and Online |
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| 45% |
Online Only |
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Top Specialties
| 100% | Perfectionism |
| 83% | Trauma and PTSD |
| 80% | Anxiety or Fears |
| 78% | Life Transitions |
| 75% | Stress |
| 70% | Depression |
| 65% | Self Esteem |