Online Self Esteem therapists in Glastonbury, England ENG, United Kingdom UK

You are not broken—you just have parts of you that forgot how worthy you are. Low self-esteem often stems from early experiences that left parts of us believing we weren’t good enough, lovable, or deserving. These beliefs can quietly shape how we show up in relationships, work, and even how we talk to ourselves. Through Internal Family Systems (IFS), I help you connect with the parts of you that carry shame, self-doubt, or the need to constantly prove your worth. As someone who has walked this healing path myself, I know what it takes to rebuild that connection to your True Self—the part of you that knows you are enough just as you are.  

Low self-esteem can shape how you see yourself, what you expect from relationships, what you tolerate, and what you believe you deserve. It often develops through repeated experiences of criticism, neglect, rejection, comparison, shame, or feeling unseen. My approach is warm, reflective, and focused on helping you understand the deeper roots of how you came to relate to yourself in this way, so that you can build greater self-worth, self-trust, and confidence.  

At ComposurePsychology we have Clinical Psychologists with many years experience working with people to understand and overcome low self esteem concerns, to learn and practice new strategies for raising their confidence. We draw from evidence based therapies including; CBT, ACT, CFT, SFT, DBT, EMDR, systemic, narrative, psychodynamic and others.  

How Therapy Can Help with Self-Esteem - The way you see yourself shapes everything—your relationships, your career choices, how you handle challenges, and even your overall happiness. If you struggle with low self-esteem, you're likely your own harshest critic, and that internal voice can be exhausting and limiting. The good news is that self-esteem isn't fixed—it can grow and strengthen with the right support, and therapy offers a powerful path toward seeing yourself more clearly and compassionately. What Low Self-Esteem Looks Like Low self-esteem goes beyond occasional self-doubt. It's a persistent negative view of yourself that might show up as: Constant self-criticism or negative self-talk Feeling like you're not good enough, no matter what you achieve Difficulty accepting compliments or believing positive feedback Comparing yourself unfavorably to others Perfectionism and fear of failure People-pleasing and difficulty saying no Avoiding challenges because you assume you'll fail Staying in unhealthy relationships because you don't think you deserve better Feeling like an imposter in your own life Apologizing excessively or taking blame for things that aren't your fault Difficulty making decisions because you don't trust yourself These patterns can hold you back from pursuing opportunities, building healthy relationships, and living authentically. How Therapy Helps Uncovering the Roots Low self-esteem doesn't appear out of nowhere—it's usually built over time through experiences like childhood criticism, emotional neglect, bullying, trauma, failed relationships, or repeated disappointments. Therapy helps you understand where your negative self-view originated. This isn't about blaming others; it's about recognizing that your inner critic was learned, which means it can be unlearned. Challenging the Inner Critic That harsh voice in your head isn't telling you the truth—it's repeating old messages that may have never been accurate in the first place. Therapy, particularly Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), helps you identify these negative thought patterns and challenge them with evidence and compassion. You learn to question thoughts like "I'm worthless" or "I always mess things up" and replace them with more balanced, realistic perspectives. Separating Your Worth from Your Performance Many people tie their self-esteem to achievements, appearance, or others' approval. Therapy helps you recognize that your worth is inherent—it doesn't depend on what you do, how you look, or what others think of you. This shift from conditional to unconditional self-worth is transformative and freeing. Processing Past Wounds If your low self-esteem stems from trauma, abuse, or painful experiences, therapies like EMDR can help process these memories so they have less emotional power over you. When you heal the wounds that taught you to see yourself negatively, your self-esteem naturally begins to improve. Developing Self-Compassion Self-compassion is treating yourself with the same kindness you'd offer a good friend. Therapy helps you cultivate this gentler internal voice, recognizing that everyone makes mistakes, has flaws, and struggles sometimes—and that doesn't make you less worthy. You learn to comfort yourself rather than attack yourself when things go wrong. Identifying Your Strengths and Values Low self-esteem often creates tunnel vision where you only see your perceived flaws and failures. Therapy helps you take a more balanced inventory—recognizing your strengths, accomplishments, positive qualities, and the values that guide you. Many people are genuinely surprised to discover how much they've been discounting about themselves. Setting Healthy Boundaries When you don't value yourself, you're more likely to let others mistreat you, overextend yourself, or stay in situations that diminish you. Therapy helps you recognize that you deserve respect and teaches you how to set boundaries that protect your wellbeing. Each time you honor a boundary, you reinforce your own worth. Building Assertiveness Learning to express your needs, opinions, and feelings without excessive fear or guilt is crucial for healthy self-esteem. Therapy provides a safe space to practice assertiveness and develop confidence in your right to take up space, have needs, and be heard. Breaking People-Pleasing Patterns If you've learned to derive worth from making others happy or avoiding conflict, therapy helps you examine this pattern and gradually shift toward living more authentically. You learn that disappointing someone occasionally doesn't make you a bad person, and that your needs matter just as much as anyone else's. Celebrating Progress, Not Just Perfection Therapy helps you recognize and celebrate small wins and efforts, not just major achievements. You learn to acknowledge growth, courage, and trying—even when things don't turn out perfectly. This builds a more sustainable, realistic foundation for self-esteem. Experiencing Unconditional Acceptance Perhaps one of the most healing aspects of therapy is experiencing genuine acceptance from your therapist. In person-centred therapy especially, you're met with unconditional positive regard—you're valued simply for being you, not for what you accomplish or how you perform. This experience can begin to rewire your belief about your own worthiness. Types of Therapy That Help Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): Directly targets negative thought patterns and helps you develop more balanced thinking about yourself. Person-Centred Therapy: Offers unconditional acceptance that helps you internalize a more positive self-view. EMDR: Processes traumatic experiences that damaged your self-esteem. Compassion-Focused Therapy (CFT): Specifically designed to build self-compassion and counter self-criticism. Psychodynamic Therapy: Explores how early relationships and experiences shaped your self-concept. Group Therapy: Provides connection with others who struggle similarly and offers opportunities to receive positive feedback and support. What Growth Looks Like As therapy progresses and your self-esteem strengthens, you might notice: Quieter, kinder internal dialogue More willingness to try new things or take healthy risks Ability to accept compliments and believe them Setting and maintaining boundaries without excessive guilt Making decisions with more confidence Less comparison to others Greater resilience when things go wrong Choosing relationships and situations that honor your worth Feeling more comfortable being yourself.  

Low self-esteem can impact every part of your life your relationships, decisions, confidence, and sense of identity. If you often feel “not enough,” doubt yourself, or struggle to trust your inner voice, you’re not alone. I offer a supportive, compassionate space to understand the roots of these feelings, heal old beliefs, and rebuild a stronger, more confident sense of self. Together, we work towards helping you reconnect with your strengths, value, and inner resilience.  

Self esteem is the core of our well being. We often lose it through life experience but we can regain it. I find EMDR particularly helpful in developing greater Self esteem  

We all relate to ourselves in varied and sometimes fluctuating ways - sometimes critically and harshly, other times in more gente and forgiving ways. This relationship is influenced by past and current experiences and what we have 'taken in' from those (especially with caregivers and other important people in our lives). A punitive, demeaning stance to one's own self, which has been there for a long time and is hard to shift, is what brings many people to therapy. Both because of the suffering it inflicts internally, as well as the impact it has on the way a person relates to the external world. If this is something you struggle with and would like to explore the option of psychotherapy to address this, please get in touch.  

I have worked throughout my career to help individuals (children, adolescents, and adults) identify who and/or what contributes to their low sense of self. I help them to identify strengths, and focus on what is in that person's control in an effort to take the power away from what has historically contributed to their self-perception.  

Low self-esteem can quietly shape every area of life—how you see yourself, the choices you make, and the relationships you keep. Together, we’ll explore and gently release the old beliefs, patterns, or experiences that have held you back. Using neuroscience-based coaching, BWRT®, and therapeutic tools, I help you rewire the inner story you tell yourself and build a stronger, kinder sense of self. Alongside this, mindfulness and energy practices can support you in feeling more grounded, resilient, and confident. The aim is not just to “feel better,” but to truly step into your worth and create a life that reflects who you really are.  

True self-esteem comes from the realisation that you are already whole. We dissolve the external masks and the pathologising voices, allowing you to feel and experience your intrinsic value. We empower you to explore your inner world and find the power and Love you seek already within you.  

Self esteem is a measure of your relationship with yourself. I can help you redefine that relationship by reviewing your core values, personal expectations and influences on you and your current state, and by providing guidance on how to be kinder to yourself. If confidence levels are low, I can help with very simple but effective ways to help you regain previous levels of self-belief, particularly if underpinned by excessive dependence on negative perceptions  

Having good self-esteem is essential to having a good relationship with yourself and setting healthy boundaries in your relationships with others. I can help you exprience better self-esteem by going to core of the issue which usually lies within our family of origin/early attachments.  

At the core of it, no one should be able to talk you into or out of self esteem. We help you to earn this respect from and by yourself.  

We will focus on acceptance of self and past  

Lack of Confidence and Self esteem and cane debilitating, I will help you to see those parts of you that are great, and become more confident  

Self-esteem is a complex concept that includes how you feel about yourself, your self-worth, how capable you are (self-efficacy) and self-confidence. If you have low self-esteem, chances are you have struggled in relationships, have experienced domestic abuse, or have internalised hurtful comments from other people. Perhaps you are judgmental and critical of yourself. Therapy can help work through your difficult feelings, reconnect to yourself, regain your confidence and learn relationship and other skills to help in the future.  

Struggling with self-esteem can feel completely overwhelming, like there's no way out. As your therapist I am here to be with you, reminding you that you are not alone. We can explore your self-perception, when it is at its worst, and help you to gain more of a sense of control over this. You are not a problem to be fixed, my aim as your therapist is to try to provide the right conditions to allow you to explore whatever you want to bring to therapy to support your growth. This isn't a therapeutic approach wherein I will set a treatment plan or tell you what to do. We will work together as a partnership rather than me taking away your autonomy. I absolutely love the work I do, it is the biggest privilege being let into people’s personal worlds and seeing the immense growth of my clients. I hope to hear from you soon!  

Low self esteem can be paralysing and can lead to other issues. however it does not need to be this way. I use both my personal and professional experience to help clients find rediscover themselves and thrive in life. I use both counselling and coaching skills to support clients on their journey.  

I work with clients to help them build true confidence. This means developing a healthy relationship with themselves that includes learning about self love, self acceptance, acceptance of others, setting boundaries, compassion and living consciously.  

I am a Psycho-Spiritual Counsellor offering bespoke services using a combination of holistic and complementary intervention to help promote your sense of Self as an individual being. I work with your beliefs and mindsets, and the perception of your worth.