Online Perfectionism therapists in Redlands, California CA
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Perfectionism
Melanie Simms
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
I believe that self-compassion is the antidote for perfectionism. I work with clients to heal from early traumatic experiences that may have led to the development of perfectionism as a coping mechanism. I help clients develop their overall feeling of self-worth and treat themselves with greater compassion to reduce perfectionistic tendencies.
11 Years Experience
Online in Redlands, CA
Perfectionism
Elizabeth Nims
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
For those experiencing perfectionism, I can help you understand the origins of this belief and give skills to shift to seeking excellence over perfectionism and understanding your innate worth.
7 Years Experience
Online in Redlands, CA
Perfectionism
Roderic Burks - Integrative Mental Health
Licensed Mental Health Counselor, MS, MS HSc, MA, LMHC, LPC
Perfectionism often arises from internalized expectations and self-critical patterns that create stress and self-doubt. I help clients explore the parts of themselves driving these tendencies and the underlying emotions behind them. Together, we work toward self-compassion, balance, and the ability to pursue goals without being ruled by fear or self-judgment.
26 Years Experience
Online in Redlands, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Freestyle Supervision and EMDR Group LLC
Counselor/Therapist, LPCC-S, LEP, NCC, APCC, AMFT, ASW, NCC
Perfectionism is often a survival strategy used to feel safe or worthy. We help you peel back the layers of high-functioning anxiety to find a life based on "good enough" and genuine self-acceptance
4 Years Experience
Online in Redlands, CA
Perfectionism
Melissa Berschauer
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
Holding yourself to impossible standards usually results in a lot of anxiety and procrastination rather than actual satisfaction. Feeling burned out is sometimes the next level of perfectionism. I help you untangle your worth from your productivity, allowing you to breathe a little easier without losing your drive.
14 Years Experience
Online in Redlands, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Mary Mallinson Therapy
Licensed Clinical Social Worker, LCSW
Perfectionism often shows up as pressure, self-criticism, and fear of failure. Together, we explore the roots of perfectionism and work toward building self-compassion, flexibility, and a more balanced, sustainable way of relating to yourself.
5 Years Experience
Online in Redlands, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Allie Michie, MS
Marriage and Family Therapist, AMFT159347
Perfectionism often looks like high standards from the outside, but on the inside it can feel like never being enough. I work with clients to get curious about where that drive comes from, what it's protecting, and how to build a relationship with yourself that's a little more honest and a lot more kind.
2 Years Experience
Online in Redlands, CA
Perfectionism
Monica M. Huston
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
Perfectionism often develops as a way to manage anxiety, self-worth, and fear of failure. While it can lead to high achievement, it can also create pressure, rigidity, and dissatisfaction. I help individuals understand the underlying drivers of perfectionism and develop more flexible, balanced ways of approaching themselves and their work.
9 Years Experience
Online in Redlands, CA
Perfectionism
Elena Duong
Psychologist, Psy.D.
Perfectionism is not effective because it shifts attention from progress to flaw-fixing. Instead of helping people do better, it often causes delay, stress, and self-doubt, which make work and life harder rather than more successful.
12 Years Experience
Online in Redlands, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Sarah Jane Thomas
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
Perfectionism keeps you stuck in all-or-nothing thinking, where everything has to be perfect or it feels like a total failure. This mindset makes it really hard to exist in the grey area where life actually happens. We will explore where those rigid standards came from and practice getting comfortable with the messiness of being human instead of striving for unattainable perfection. Our work is about reminding you that you matter even when you are not producing, achieving, or grinding your way through the day.
11 Years Experience
Online in Redlands, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Sandy Kong
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT 119380
Therapy for perfectionism focuses on reducing rigid, unrealistic standards, and alleviating associated anxiety, depression, or burnout. Perfectionism is seen as a trauma response. Trauma has shaped someone's life into believing that they have to be "perfect" in order to be "loveable" or "worthy". The most effective approach is generally learning how to identify and challenge distorted beliefs; changing your relationship with perfectionistic thoughts and focusing on values over flawlessness; exploring early life experiences and deep-rooted causes behind the need for control; develop
mindfulness-based approaches to help manage anxiety by staying present, reducing the need for constant, perfect self-presentation; and cultivating kindness toward oneself, especially when facing imperfections or failures.
11 Years Experience
Online in Redlands, CA
Perfectionism
Wildflower Therapy Group
Licensed Clinical Social Worker, LCSW, C-IAYT
At Wildflower Therapy Group, we help clients explore perfectionism with compassion and curiosity. Therapy can support clients in understanding the deeper fears, pressure, or self-protective patterns behind perfectionism while building more self-compassion, flexibility, and a stronger sense of worth beyond performance.
6 Years Experience
Online in Redlands, CA
Perfectionism
Liza Roth, MA, LMFT
Marriage and Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Perfectionism isn't about doing things perfectly, it's about finding fault easily. Somewhere along the way, you came to believe that if you did things perfectly, you would be safe and free from worry. Instead, you are still full of worry and are just plain exhausted. Let's work together to figure out how perfectionism serves you, how it doesn't, and how you can find balance and inner peace.
5 Years Experience
Online in Redlands, CA
Perfectionism
Three Oaks Behavioral Health & Wellness
Licensed Clinical Social Worker, LCSW, LCMHC, LCAS
Helping clients reduce rigid expectations and develop more flexible, self-compassionate thinking.
7 Years Experience
Online in Redlands, CA
Perfectionism
The Connection Clinic
Marriage and Family Therapist
We assist individuals struggling with perfectionism by helping them cultivate self-compassion and realistic expectations. Our goal is to allow for healthier living and greater life satisfaction.
9 Years Experience
Online in Redlands, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Kim Gibson
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPCC, ATR
Many of my clients experience perfectionism secondary to ADHD or anxiety. I enjoy helping clients identify this pattern and explore what is behind it and if its time to change it.
25 Years Experience
Online in Redlands, CA
Perfectionism
Mia Turner
Therapist, MA, RYT, ASDCS, LMFT, NPT-C, CMNCS, CMIP
Perfectionism is often less about striving for excellence and more about seeking safety, belonging, predictability, acceptance, or protection. It can develop in response to trauma, marginalization, giftedness, neurodivergence, family expectations, racism, ableism, cultural pressures, high-achievement environments, or experiences where mistakes felt costly and being "good enough" never quite felt good enough.
What is often labeled as perfectionism may also reflect a nervous system that learned to stay vigilant, perform, overprepare, overachieve, self-monitor, mask, or anticipate problems in order to avoid criticism, rejection, disappointment, conflict, shame, or harm. For many people, perfectionism becomes intertwined with identity, self-worth, productivity, competence, and the belief that value must be earned rather than inherently possessed. It may show up as chronic self-criticism, difficulty resting, procrastination, overthinking, people-pleasing, hyper-independence, fear of failure, fear of success, difficulty making decisions, or feeling as though there is always more that should be done.
This work explores the protective role perfectionism has played throughout your life while examining the ways it may be impacting relationships, wellbeing, creativity, joy, authenticity, and connection with yourself. Particular attention is given to the influence of family systems, culture, gender, neurodivergence, trauma, and the internalized narratives that shape how you relate to achievement, mistakes, success, failure, worthiness, and belonging.
My approach is grounded in the belief that perfectionism is often an adaptive survival strategy rather than a personal flaw. Rather than attempting to simply eliminate perfectionistic tendencies, we become curious about what those parts are protecting, what they fear might happen if they loosened their grip, and what needs may exist beneath the pressure to perform. Using EMDR, somatic therapy, mindfulness, polyvagal-informed practices, parts work, neuropsychotherapy, expressive arts, attachment-focused approaches, and liberation-oriented healing, therapy supports developing a more compassionate relationship with the parts of yourself that learned to equate achievement with safety.
Attention is also given to the ways perfectionism lives in the body and nervous system. This may include chronic tension, difficulty slowing down, overactivation, self-monitoring, exhaustion, difficulty experiencing satisfaction, or feeling unable to rest without guilt. Through greater awareness of sensation, emotion, nervous system states, and embodied experience, space is created for increased flexibility, self-trust, self-compassion, and choice.
The goal is not to stop caring, striving, creating, achieving, or growing. It is to cultivate a relationship with yourself that is not dependent upon performance, productivity, approval, or getting everything right. Often, the work involves reclaiming authenticity, playfulness, creativity, rest, joy, pace, and the internal permission to be fully human rather than a constant self-improvement project.
10 Years Experience
Online in Redlands, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Julie Cochrane - Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT) Therapist
Hypnotherapist, Clinical Hypnotherapist, RTT-T, Rewind Therapy Practitioner, Integration Coaching
Perfectionism is not really about high standards. It is about safety. Somewhere along the way, the subconscious decided that being good enough, being beyond criticism or being in complete control was the way to be safe and accepted. That decision then becomes a daily tax: overworking, second-guessing, never quite arriving. RTT goes back to the moment that decision was made and updates the meaning underneath it. The standards can stay. What changes is the price you pay to meet them. Most of my perfectionist clients are women in leadership, founders or creatives. The work is online via Zoom and confidential.
6 Years Experience
Online in Redlands, CA (Online Only)
Perfectionism
Rose Snyder, EdM, PsyD, LLC
Psychologist, PsyD
I generally view myself as a "recovering perfectionist" and would be happy to support you in your journey with this as well! I find that empathy and validation go a long way with this, as well as a focus on radical self-acceptance and self-compassion. We may work on direct coping skills, adjusting your internal self-dialogue, and developing mindful self-compassion skills in a more formalized way as needed. I strive for all of my clients to accept themselves as "perfectly imperfect humans," as we all are.
23 Years Experience
Online in Redlands, CA
Perfectionism
Dr. Michael Marossy
Psychologist, Ph.D.
Perfectionism often involves far more than simply having high standards. Many individuals struggling with perfectionism experience chronic self-criticism, fear of failure, anxiety, procrastination, emotional burnout, shame, difficulty relaxing, or a persistent feeling that they are never “good enough” regardless of achievement or external success.
I help clients better understand the emotional and relational roots of perfectionistic patterns while developing greater self-compassion, psychological flexibility, and a healthier relationship with achievement, performance, and self-worth. Therapy focuses on reducing rigid thinking and chronic pressure while helping clients build more balanced, meaningful, and emotionally sustainable ways of living.
8 Years Experience
Online in Redlands, CA
Perfectionism therapists in Redlands, California Statistics
Perfectionism therapists in Redlands, California average 13 years of experience and charge around $205 per session. 100% offer online sessions. The most commonly treated issues are Perfectionism (100%), Trauma and PTSD (83%), and Anxiety or Fears (80%).
Average years in practice
13 Years Experience
Average cost per session
$205
Gender ID
| 73% |
Female |
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| 15% |
Male |
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| 6% |
Non-Binary |
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| 6% |
Gender Fluid |
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Session Type
| 54% |
In Person and Online |
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| 46% |
Online Only |
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Top Specialties
| 100% | Perfectionism |
| 83% | Trauma and PTSD |
| 80% | Anxiety or Fears |
| 78% | Life Transitions |
| 76% | Stress |
| 71% | Depression |
| 66% | Self Esteem |