You and your partner may have experienced relatively smooth sailing relationally until you had kids. Kids typically display developmentally approapriate emotionally immature behaviors as they navigate how to meet their needs. In my experience with the parents I counsel, I notice that these episdoes of emotional intensity find them unprepared and ineffective. This often happens because of past experiences with emotions not being welcomed or well managed. If you find yourself having very different sensibilities around how to respond to your child’s big emotions and primitive behaviors, please reach out. You’re not alone, let’s help you in sitting with your own experience, your partner’s experience and your child’s experience-before problem solving. Boundaries and expectations are important of course, teaching yourself and modeling with your loved ones workable ways to communicate feelings is aweesome too… and understanding your own history and sense making around conflict and emotion needs to also be part of the process. If you’d like to support around how to manage family life better, please reach out… let’s help you and your family get the skills to function better in family life and learn how to tolerate normal family life distress, engage around differences and model healthy expression and engagement that fosters safe connection and belonging.