Kai DeMaeyer - Talk with Kai - Intimacy and Identity (They/Them)
Registered Psychotherapist, MACP, RP (Qualifying)
Online in
Ontario (Online Only)
You may be here because something in your life or relationships no longer feels workable. Perhaps you are caught in the same conflict with your partner, feeling disconnected from sex or intimacy, questioning parts of your identity, or carrying more pressure than you can comfortably hold. You might still be functioning well on the outside while privately feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or far from yourself.
I work with individuals and couples navigating relationships, intimacy, queer and gender identity, neurodivergence, burnout, grief, chronic illness, trauma, and life transitions. I am queer and neurodivergent, and my practice is queer-affirming, sex-positive, kink-affirming, and welcoming of diverse relationship structures.
My style is warm, direct, and collaborative. I draw from relational, narrative, psychodynamic, attachment-based, Gottman-informed, and somatic approaches. We will look at how patterns developed, what continues to reinforce them, and what they may be costing you now. Therapy can offer a place to understand yourself more clearly, communicate more honestly, and build relationships that feel more connected and sustainable.
Client Focus
Session Format: Couple, Individual sessions.
Age Specialty: Adult, Young Adult
Demographic Expertise: LGBTQ+, Men, Military / Veterans, Persons with Disabilities, Women clients.
Languages: English
Treatment Approach
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) One of the most widely used approaches, CBT helps people identify unhelpful thoughts and replace them with healthier patterns. It is effective for anxiety, depression, and many other concerns.
- Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Combines CBT with mindfulness to help regulate emotions, tolerate stress, and build stronger relationships. Originally designed for borderline personality disorder, it’s now used more broadly.
- Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) Focuses on strengthening emotional bonds in couples or families. It helps people identify negative cycles and create more secure connections.
- Gottman Method Couples Therapy Based on decades of research, this method gives couples tools to improve communication, manage conflict, and strengthen intimacy.
- Internal Family Systems (IFS) Helps clients heal by working with different ‘parts’ of themselves, like inner critics or wounded children. It fosters harmony within the self.
- Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT) Combines mindfulness practices with CBT to prevent depression relapse. It helps people notice thoughts without judgment and respond more calmly.
- Narrative Therapy Encourages people to view problems as separate from themselves and reframe their life story. It helps build resilience and self-identity.
- Psychodynamic Therapy Explores unconscious thoughts and patterns that influence current behavior. It builds insight into how the past impacts the present.
Approach Description: My approach is relational, integrative, and shaped by your particular needs rather than a fixed formula. I draw from narrative therapy, psychodynamic and attachment-based approaches, parts work, somatic practices, DBT-informed skills, and Gottman-informed couples therapy.
Together, we look at how your patterns developed, what keeps them going, and how they affect your relationships, body, identity, and sense of self. I pay attention to the wider context of your experiences, including power, culture, queerness, neurodivergence, health, trauma, and the pressures placed on you by the systems around you.
Sessions are thoughtful, collaborative, and direct. At times, we may slow down to understand an emotional response or recurring relational pattern. At others, we may practise communication, regulation, boundary-setting, or repair. I will not simply sit back and leave you to figure everything out alone. I offer reflection, ask honest questions, and help you find tools and possibilities that fit your values, capacity, and life.
Fees & Insurance
Fees
- Average Session Fee 140
- Affordable sliding scale therapy: apply if you may be eligible.
- Please contact for sliding scale options
- Accepts Insurance
- Receipt provided for submission
Education & Credentials
Kai DeMaeyer - Talk with Kai - Intimacy and Identity MACP, RP (Qualifying)
- Female, Gender Fluid, Male, Non-Binary
- License # 20818
- Licensed in Ontario
- Practicing Since 2025
Education: MACP - Yorkville University
HBA - York University
Kai DeMaeyer - Talk with Kai - Intimacy and Identity Practice Details
Therapy Sessions
- Available Online for residents of Ontario
- Online Therapy Details: Virtual
Talk With Kai Psychotherapy offers virtual therapy for individuals and couples across Ontario. The practice focuses on relationships, sex and intimacy, queer and gender identity, neurodivergence, burnout, grief, chronic illness, trauma, and major life transitions.
Therapy is relational, collaborative, and grounded in the understanding that people do not exist outside their histories, relationships, identities, bodies, and social environments. Sessions may involve exploring attachment and communication patterns, nervous system responses, boundaries, desire, shame, grief, power, or the roles you have learned to occupy in your relationships.
The practice is queer-affirming, neurodivergent-affirming, sex-positive, kink-affirming, trauma-informed, and welcoming of monogamous and non-monogamous relationships. Individuals and couples can expect thoughtful support, honest conversation, practical tools where helpful, and space to approach difficult subjects without judgment. Free 15-minute consultations are available to explore fit before booking a full session.