Online Anxiety therapists in Great Bookham, England ENG, United Kingdom UK

Having experienced anxiety and fear myself, I understand that these emotions are often rooted in childhood experiences where there was little space to express feelings or where a child did not feel protected, supported, or safe. I help clients explore these emotional responses with curiosity and compassion rather than judgment. By understanding the roots of anxiety and creating safety within the body, it becomes possible to respond to life's challenges from the present moment rather than from old wounds.  

For people who have never suffered from anxiety it is almost impossible to describe how debilitating the symptoms can be. It can seem as if there is no escape from the pain and discomfort; it feels like life will be like this forever and that the symptoms can’t be helped. Conventional approaches to anxiety seek to medicate. Many physicians may tell you that your anxiety is something you just have to live with.  Counseling or mainstream psychological approaches may have you manipulate or change your thought patterns, while alternative practices may seek to have you relax or practice mindfulness.  While there is value in some of these approaches, most fail to reach that deeper understanding of the underlying cause of anxiety and panic. Symptoms of anxiety and panic are not the same as emotions of fear – these include worry, nervous, apprehension, concern, etc. In everyday life we tend to talk about anxiety symptoms and conditions as being the same as emotions of fear, nervousness and worry. This is confusing for the simple reason that anxiety symptoms are not merely amplified fear, even though this can be what they feel like in many instances. Anxiety is something of an umbrella term that covers quite a wide range of symptoms and experiences. In some instances this symptoms and conditions might relate to emotions of fear but in other instances they do not. This is why it is entirely possible to rid ourselves of anxiety symptoms whereas we cannot, and should not try to rid ourselves of healthy emotions, because they play a vital feedback role in our day to day experience of life. These are the anxiety conditions: - anxious apprehension (worry, rumination) - generalised anxiety disorder (free floating anxiety) - Intense anxiety and panic attacks - obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) - phobias of all kinds including agoraphobia and social phobia - eating disorders - derealisation - depersonalisation There is an enormous amount of scientific evidence to show that various regions of the brain are either over active or dysfunctional when anxiety symptoms are present. One of the most salient issues pertaining to this kind of scientific research is that different types of anxiety symptoms correspond with different areas of brain dysfunction.The forebrain appears to be the area most affected in most anxiety disorders. This is the largest portion of the brain and includes the cerebral hemispheres, the limbic system, the thalamus and hypothalamus, amygdala and the corpus callosum. Each of the brain hemispheres is divided into four lobes: frontal, parietal, occipital and temporal. Collectively, the forebrain functions to control cognitive, sensory and motor function, regulate temperature, reproductive functions, eating, sleeping and the display of emotions. When it becomes dysfunctional it is evident that the range of symptoms can be enormous.Recent studies using electroencephalographic (EEG) methods have found that patients diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder and obsessive-compulsive disorder had heightened activity in the left brain regions, whereas patients with panic disorder, panic symptoms or those subjected to high stress situations exhibited enhanced activity in the right hemisphere. The important lesson from this type of research is that anxiety conditions are not all the same and therefore each case needs to be approached and treated depending on the needs of the individual and the types of symptoms present.  However, we must also be mindful that over activity or dysfunction in brain regions is not the cause of anxiety – rather this activity is caused and supported by the 4 core element model outlined below.  It is these 4 Anchors that trigger brain dysfunction, and it is only by fully addressing these that a complete cessation of symptoms is achieved. The first step is to understand the nature, structure and cause of anxiety, and then we can begin to address the cause of the symptoms. Within our culture we use the words ‘anxious’ and ‘anxiety’ to mean both the emotion of fear and a varied and debilitating set of symptoms. This can be extremely confusing since fear, in the form of worry, nervous, scared, or dread, is often very different from the symptoms of anxiety or a panic disorder. I would argue that even though many anxiety symptoms can feel like fear, it’s also the case that many anxiety and panic symptoms do not feel like fear (see Anxiety Symptoms Checklist below). This means that is possible to experience anxiety symptoms without being afraid of anything. Even though anxiety can be related to the emotion of fear at a deep unconscious level, there are many instances when symptoms of anxiety are present and there is no evidence of the emotion of fear. Most sufferers of anxiety will experience fear about the symptoms; though fear of symptoms is not the cause of symptoms.  Fear can exacerbate symptoms and make sufferers of anxietyfeel significantly worse; however it is rarely, if ever, the underlying cause. So what causes anxiety symptoms? The first step is to embrace the notion that symptoms are feedback from body and brain.  Symptoms are not some nasty evil invader trying to make us suffer, they have reason for existing and that reason is to let us know that something is not right, something is blocked and out of balance. There are Four Core Elements that lock anxiety symptoms in place. When we address these four core elements, we not only banish anxiety symptoms, we open up to the possibility of experiencing ourselves in a whole new way. The 4 core energy-flow model comprises: - FEAR & AVOIDANCE OF SYMPTOMS. Anxiety is deeply uncomfortable so it can be a natural reaction to avoid situations and events that seem to cause anxiety. Avoidance can lead to more symptoms, so carefully navigating through this is the first step. - REWIRING THE EMOTIONAL SYSTEM. Our emotion has a massive impact on body and brain. Blockages and imbalances within the emotional system are significant causes and contributors to anxiety conditions as well as a huge range of other chronic health challenges. Yet, our understanding of the nature of emotion and how to effectively process and regulate it remain poor. This element focuses in revealing the true nature of emotion and critically how to connect with it and facilitate a flow. - WEARING A MASK: As we move through life and seek to get along, fit in, be accepted and do well, we unconsciously block our true nature and end up being more of who we are not than who we are. Anxiety symptoms often tell us when we are covering up who we are, or are disconnected from our authentic core. Reconnecting with our core and removing the shackles of who we used to be takes us a step closer to being anxiety free. - CONTROL & CREATION: Whether we like it or not, we play a significant role in the creation of our experience of life and reality. However, when shackled with anxiety we feel out of control, restricted as if we have lost our freedom. Learning how to create inner freedom and design our lives is the final piece of the puzzle. The four core element model uncovers a different perspective on the cause of anxiety conditions and embraces a full understanding of the nature of the human condition. It puts you back in the driver’s seat to return to your natural healthy self. Your natural state is to be connected and happy; all that’s needed is a little guidance to help you find the way back to your default setting.  

Anxiety and fear can be debilitating and cause you to miss out on so much in life. You may feel crippled by the overwhelming feelings and feel there is no way our. A healthy level of anxiety is part of everyday life but when it becomes too big, or you cannot see your way out, you can end up feeling helpless and as though nothing will get you through the fear. By bringing this to counselling, you can begin to explore where it started, bring in a bit of realistic thinking, and can learn to soothe these feelings and take the power back to live your life as you want it.  

Anxiety is an emotion that quickly gets out of control if we don’t understand what we are dealing with. A calm you is a better you...  

Anxiety and Fear covers a spectrum of disorders and I have helped clients who have experienced such concerns ranging from the most severe psychotic paranoia to panic, worry and intrusive thoughts. I do not believe there is a good or bad, right or wrong, better or worse label in these comparisons rather each person has their own experience of what they are going through and to learn to alleviate those difficulties is what I work to do.  

I combine lived experience of overcoming anxiety, with training in developmental, relational, and embodied trauma. Work with me if you believe that anxiety is not just in your head, and if you are looking for a warm approach that considers your experiences as a whole person, how the body can internalise anxiety; and how to address this. Consults are free and instantly bookable on the We Tackle Trauma website, I look forward to meeting you- Jade Evelyn Gayle  

I have worked with hundreds of people who experience anxiety. A lot of people have tried other methods and found more relief in a single 90 minute session with me in comparison to years of talk therapy. I tend to work with the anxiety emotional triggers, past memories which a lot of people are unaware of that they trigger an individuals anxiety.  

Experiences of Anxiety, fear and worry can range from being distracting to completely overwhelming, leaving you feeling paralysed and unable to engage with life. I have spent most of my career specialising in treating debilitating anxiety.  

Anxiety can make the world feel like an overwhelming place, leaving you 'stuck' in a cycle of constant worry. Together, we will work to understand your specific triggers and develop practical, grounding tools to help you regain a sense of calm and safety in your daily life. I can incorporate EFT tapping to help you manage physical triggers in real-time.  

Anxiety in clients that I see is almost always based on traumatic experience which needs to be understood for successful treatment.  

I provide Cognitive Behaviour Therapy which is the recommended psychological therapy for panic attacks, agoraphobia, social anxiety/ social phobia, other phobias, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Generalised Anxiety Disorder* and stress/ burnout. I have several years experience of supporting clients who had been bullied at school or gone through workplace bullying, harrassment, stalking, domestic violence and court proceedings. During my professional qualification I chose to specialise in panic attacks and agoraphobia for my research and dissertation. I have provided therapy for clients who had phobias of elevators, buses, trains, underground trains, bees, dogs, hospitals, needles, blood, injuries, and childbirth. I can also provide CBT for depression, traumas and PTSD. (*GAD also known as chronic neurosis is excessive and persistent worrying about several areas of your life, worry that is out of proportion with the situation and interfering with day-to-day life, a feeling of not being able to control worrying, and difficulties around overthinking and planning for potential problems that have not occurred.)  

Hypnosis and counselling can gently find & remove the root cause of your anxiety which can lead to a lasting solution, freeing you for life. "I’ve had hypnotherapy done with Tamzin Brain-Evans, I must say she has helped me so much with my anxiety. I’ve been to the doctors countless times & everything the doctor has given me hasn’t worked. So I tried hypnotherapy & I must say it’s worked & I will recommend her to my friends." (Lee) "I own a shop where dog owners brought their dogs in, I used to be terrified with a big bubble of fear in my chest, so I decided to go to HypnoChange4u to see if it could improve my phobia. I massively changed, even on my first session, [Tamzin] made me feel at ease and now...I do not have the bubble of fear and the need to run away anymore. There are dogs everywhere and this has been the best thing" (Charlotte)  

From an TIST/EFIT/IPNB/IFS Parts Perspective, clients get to know parts with anxieties and fears and learn how to listen and be with the anxiety, even finding hidden wisdom in these parts. We also offer the Polyvagal Theory based Safe and Sound Protocol (SSP) for clients with more intensive anxiety and fears, particularly social and intimacy fears. Sometimes a functional approach may support clients experiencing anxiety due to physiological stress or epigenetic adaptive stress (e.g. if a basic metabolism or hormonal cycle is not able to complete with ease or there is an injury or chronic health condition that is still being tended to in the body, the brain will likely receive signals of distress that could be read as baseline anxiety, but may be a bodily signal that some part of a basic physiological cycle is not able to function smoothly and may benefit from ascertaining where the challenge is and working with supplemental or integrative support/education/care that is within scope or collaborative scope); please feel free to ask if you have any questions about this.  

I know first hand how anxiety or unprocessed fears can show up in our body and our mind - overthinking, imaging worst-case scenarios, heart racing. It can feel like sensations in our body are turned up full volume and as if everything else feels very far away and out of reach; it can be quite a destabilising and isolating experience. But it doesn´t have to be. Through support and training, I have learned to regulate and resource myself in times of worry and panic, to the point that I am hardly ever activated, and when I am, I know how to ride the wave with confidence and ease. I now pass on these practices with my clients who experience great relief from being able to brave the elements when their anxiety storm arises, empowering them to the point that the frequency, duration and intensity significantly reduces and they finally feel a sense of peace and calm within themselves again.  

Anxiety is created by ruminating about the past or worrying about what might happen in the future. It is a misuse of the imagination combined with a hyper-vigilant nervous system. Excessive fears or phobias can be debilitating and people are often embarrassed to admit to them. You are not alone! Mind-body therapies address both the physical and mental (including the emotional and psychological) aspects of fear or anxiety. You can overwrite old patterns and learn more effective coping strategies.  

Anxiety can show up in many different ways, from persistent worry and overthinking to panic, self-doubt, difficulty relaxing, or a constant sense of being on edge. While anxiety can feel overwhelming, it often develops for understandable reasons and may be connected to past experiences, relationships, responsibilities, or ways of coping that have become stretched beyond their limits. Together, we can explore what may be contributing to your anxiety, develop a deeper understanding of your emotional experience, and build practical ways of responding that support greater confidence, calm, and self-trust.  

Anxiety can feel like it’s running the show, and it doesn’t have to. I help you tune into the unconscious patterns behind your fears, so you can stop feeling controlled by them and start feeling in charge of your life. With the right tools and understanding, you can break free. If you're ready to move past anxiety, reach out now.  

Everyone feels anxious some of the time. When it is persistent, however, that’s a sign it’s time to treat your anxiety. Persistent anxiety can affect your ability to enjoy life. You might feel a sense of consistent worry just beneath the surface of your thoughts, making it impossible for you to focus. Your thoughts might race so quickly that you feel as though your head will explode. It doesn’t have to be this way.  

In my work I build a strong therapeutic alliance with the young person and their parents to understand and explore through the explore the unconscious psychological meanings and internal conflicts that underlie a young persons anxiety symptoms.  

Anxiety can be crippling and obvious. Or it can subtly sabotage our plans. Contact me for a free consultation on recognizing your feelings of anxiety, and applying anxiety management techniques. You are not an anxious person: you are person more susceptible to anxiety – but you can learn to hand it. We all need to experience some degree of anxiety at times – it would be unnatural not to feel any of its symptoms, such as racing pulse, dry mouth, sweatiness and shallow breathing, just before a big speech or exam, for instance – as it helps get us motivated to act. But excessive anxiety causes problems. Excessive anxiety may develop gradually, starting, perhaps, with loneliness after the loss of a loved one; being too shy to make new friends when moving somewhere new; experiencing unwelcome life changes because of chronic illness and pain; or feeling loaded down with too much responsibility – all cases of unmet emotional needs. When people worry excessively, it is in essence because important emotional needs, such as for safety, connection or status, are not being met. That’s why the human givens approach, which focuses on helping people in distress find healthy ways to meet their emotional needs, is so effective. For some people, anxiety can develop suddenly, after they are caught up in some tragic disaster, such as a fire or a crash, or are the victims of violence, and their lives become ruled by fear. (This is known as post-traumatic stress.) Anxiety may also take the form of obsessions, compulsions, phobias or a nagging feeling of foreboding – all of which are attempts to ward off a sense of threat. Yet, as we know, some people face such circumstances without becoming overly anxious, while others end up almost crippled by anxiety. How we explain the negative events that happen to us has a considerable bearing on whether we are likely to suffer from excessive anxiety. Three particular types of thinking are especially connected with its development and its close partner, depression: how personally people take events (they think everything is their fault or that they didn’t get the job because they weren’t good enough, rather than because the competition was particularly stiff); how pervasive they think the effects will be (if they lose their job, they think everything in their world is going wrong, even though their relationship is still strong and they have their health, good friends, etc); and how permanent(they will never get another job, partner, dream house like that one, etc). People who suffer badly from anxiety also tend to have a lot of negative thoughts running through their minds that they don’t even notice (“I’ll never cope”; “it’s going to be awful”; “no one likes me”) and commonly catastrophise (“I’m going to be late. My boss will sack me!”) Changing negative self-talk and challenging catastrophic thinking help lower stress levels. Another major cause of troublesome anxiety is negative over-imagination. Anxious people tend to spend a lot of time worrying “What if?”, coming up with a whole variety of dreadful outcomes for themselves or their loved ones. This keeps them in a constant state of high emotional arousal and can take the extreme forms of phobias or obsessive-compulsive disorders. Learning to use the imagination positively – by calmly rehearsing mentally tried and tested techniques (such as deep breathing and distracting thoughts) for dealing with feared or worrisome situations – is very effective. Calming ourselves down, when anxious, is extremely important because high emotional arousal makes us stupid. We literally can’t think straight and that makes the situation worse. Human givens practitioners can show people how to relax, so that they can bring their own arousal and stress levels down, and how to use their imaginations positively, to rehearse successful outcomes instead of bad ones. They can also help people overcome phobias, panic attacks and traumatic memories quickly and painlessly. And, very importantly, they will encourage people to find ways to reduce their stress and also focus outwards on fulfilling activities (maybe involving the wellbeing of others as well as themselves) – excellent ways of getting their own needs met.