Online Perfectionism therapists in Washington
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Dr. Jessica Shine
Licensed Professional Counselor, EdD, LPC
I help clients break free from the pressure of perfectionism and the belief that their worth is tied to achievement or getting everything "right." Together, we explore the underlying fears, self-criticism, and unrealistic expectations that fuel perfectionism while developing greater self-compassion, flexibility, and confidence. My goal is to help clients embrace progress over perfection so they can live with greater authenticity, balance, and peace.
12 Years Experience
Online in Multiple States
Arizona, Colorado, Florida, Georgia, Indiana, Louisiana, Minnesota, South Carolina, Washington
(Online Only)
Ryan Shannon
Counselor/Therapist, LMHCA, MA, MS
Perfectionism can look like ambition from the outside, but internally it may feel like constant pressure. You may procrastinate because you are afraid of getting something wrong, overwork yourself trying to meet impossible standards, struggle to accept praise, or feel that your worth depends on how well you perform.
My approach is both insight-oriented and practical. Drawing from Adlerian and psychodynamic therapy, we may explore how criticism, family expectations, comparison, achievement, or past experiences shaped the belief that you must be exceptional to feel secure, respected, or worthy. We can also examine what perfectionism protects you from, such as rejection, shame, uncertainty, or the fear of disappointing others.
I use CBT to help you identify all-or-nothing thinking, unrealistic expectations, and harsh self-judgments. We may practice replacing rigid standards with goals that are challenging but sustainable. Mindfulness can also help you notice self-critical thoughts without automatically obeying them.
When appropriate, I may suggest behavioral missions that involve doing something imperfectly, submitting work without excessive checking, resting before everything is finished, asking for help, or allowing someone to see you while you are still learning. These challenges are paced carefully and designed to help you discover that mistakes and uncertainty are uncomfortable, but survivable.
My goal is not to take away your motivation or lower your standards. It is to help you pursue meaningful goals without sacrificing your health, relationships, or sense of self in the process.
1 Years Experience
Online in Washington
(Online Only)
Bobby Newell
Licensed Clinical Social Worker, LCSW, SEP
I specialize in working with individuals who struggle with perfectionism—the constant pressure to get everything right, meet high expectations, and avoid mistakes at all costs. While perfectionism can look like success on the outside, it often comes with anxiety, burnout, and a harsh inner critic that’s hard to turn off. Together, we focus on understanding the patterns driving perfectionism and building more flexible, sustainable ways of thinking and responding. My approach combines practical tools with mind-body awareness, helping you reduce pressure, increase self-trust, and show up more fully—without feeling like everything has to be perfect first.
27 Years Experience
In-Person in Durham, NC 27713
In-Person in Raleigh, NC 27615
Online in North Carolina, South Carolina, Washington
Kate Winderman
Psychologist, Ph.D., LP
Perfectionism is sneaky; on one hand, it might feel productive to try to find the "best" or "fastest" way to complete certain tasks. On the other hand, perfectionism can create unrealistic or impossible standards for ourselves and those around us. It can feed into anxiety, low-self esteem, procrastination, negative self-talk, or relationship issues. I work with perfectionists as they take a look at the ways these perfectionistic beliefs are no longer serving them, and help them move forward feeling okay with "good enough."
13 Years Experience
In-Person in Minneapolis, MN 55439
Online in
PSYPACT states
Alabama, Arizona, Arkansas, CNMI, Colorado, Connecticut, Delaware, Florida, Georgia, Idaho, Illinois, Indiana, Kansas, Kentucky, Maine, Maryland, Michigan, Minnesota, Mississippi, Missouri, Montana, Nebraska, Nevada, New Hampshire, New Jersey, North Carolina, North Dakota, Ohio, Oklahoma, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, South Carolina, South Dakota, Tennessee, Texas, Utah, Vermont, Virginia, Washington, Washington, D.C., West Virginia, Wisconsin, Wyoming
Alignwell Modern Therapy
Counselor/Therapist
Perfectionism can create constant pressure, self-doubt, and fear of failure. Therapy helps uncover the roots of these patterns and develop more flexible, compassionate ways of approaching work, relationships, and personal goals.
20 Years Experience
In-Person in Bellevue, WA 98004
Online in Washington
Vanessa Hooper
Counselor/Therapist, LMHC, PMH-C
Perfectionism often masks a deeper fear of not being enough as you are. We will trace where that pressure came from and practice a more honest, sustainable relationship with effort, mistakes, and self-worth.
6 Years Experience
Online in Washington
(Online Only)
Avanour Behavioral Health Clinics PLLC
Psychologist, PsyD, LMHC, LMHCA. LSAW. LSW
Avanour provides compassionate support for individuals whose high standards, fear of mistakes, or self-criticism contribute to anxiety, procrastination, burnout, or dissatisfaction. Our clinicians help clients challenge rigid expectations, develop greater flexibility and self-compassion, and separate personal worth from performance. Treatment focuses on pursuing meaningful goals in a healthier, more balanced, and sustainable way.
0 Years Experience
Online in Washington
(Online Only)
Haley Busch
Psychologist, Ph.D., L.P.
Perfectionism is not really about high standards — it is about what you believe will happen if you fall short. The clients I see with perfectionism are usually accomplished and exhausted, unable to enjoy what they have done because attention moves straight to the next thing, and privately convinced the whole structure depends on their vigilance. Rather than trying to talk you out of your standards, I am interested in where they came from, whose approval they were originally for, and what they have protected you from feeling. Self-acceptance does more for functioning than self-criticism ever has, but it cannot be adopted on command — it develops through being understood.
6 Years Experience
In-Person in Austin, TX 78731
Online in
PSYPACT states
Alabama, Arizona, Arkansas, CNMI, Colorado, Connecticut, Delaware, Florida, Georgia, Idaho, Illinois, Indiana, Kansas, Kentucky, Maine, Maryland, Michigan, Minnesota, Mississippi, Missouri, Montana, Nebraska, Nevada, New Hampshire, New Jersey, North Carolina, North Dakota, Ohio, Oklahoma, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, South Carolina, South Dakota, Tennessee, Texas, Utah, Vermont, Virginia, Washington, Washington, D.C., West Virginia, Wisconsin, Wyoming
Tanya Master | Online Somatic & Psychosomatic Consulting
Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Trauma-Informed Somatic Practitioner | Integrative Coach
Perfectionism often develops as a protective strategy rather than a personality trait. My approach explores the underlying nervous system patterns that drive overachievement, self-criticism, and chronic pressure.
5 Years Experience
Online in United Kingdom, California, New York, Washington,
Alberta, British Columbia, Ontario (Online Only)
Roderic Burks - Integrative Mental Health
Licensed Mental Health Counselor, MS, MS HSc, MA, LMHC, LPC
Perfectionism often arises from internalized expectations and self-critical patterns that create stress and self-doubt. I help clients explore the parts of themselves driving these tendencies and the underlying emotions behind them. Together, we work toward self-compassion, balance, and the ability to pursue goals without being ruled by fear or self-judgment.
26 Years Experience
Online in Multiple States
Arizona, California, Colorado, Florida, Georgia, Hawaii, Oregon, Texas, Washington
(Online Only)
Dr. Monika Sharma
Psychologist, PsyD
Perfectionism is anxiety in disguise. It appears to be on your side, encouraging you to strive to be better. However, it is an unrelenting critic that tells you that you or other people/things are not good enough...ever. It can help you in the beginning to strive for excellence and over-achieve, to be recognized for your accomplishments and capabilities. But your perfectionism does not allow you to truly feel or celebrate all of your effort. Over time, it can look like exhaustion, self-doubt, imposter syndrome, depression, anxiety, procrastination, and feeling like you don't know how to stop from unraveling or being discovered as a fraud. It's a self-imposed prison that feels suffocating to be but even more terrifying to get out of.
I will teach you how to be curious about your uncomfortable feelings and tendencies such as perfectionism, anxiety, anger, fear, sadness, loneliness, and overwhelm. This involves learning to build tolerance for uncomfortable feelings because they won't actually hurt us; approach these feelings without judgment; poke at them and examine them and see what lies within them; and then decide how we want to use these feelings as a compass to guide us toward those things that truly matter. You will feel empowered to be the master of your feelings, not a puppet to them.
Schedule a free 15-minute consult at: sharmapsych.com/schedule
26 Years Experience
In-Person in Chicago, IL 60610
Online in
PSYPACT states
Alabama, Arizona, Arkansas, CNMI, Colorado, Connecticut, Delaware, Florida, Georgia, Idaho, Illinois, Indiana, Kansas, Kentucky, Maine, Maryland, Michigan, Minnesota, Mississippi, Missouri, Montana, Nebraska, Nevada, New Hampshire, New Jersey, North Carolina, North Dakota, Ohio, Oklahoma, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, South Carolina, South Dakota, Tennessee, Texas, Utah, Vermont, Virginia, Washington, Washington, D.C., West Virginia, Wisconsin, Wyoming
Jessica Anderson, PsyD
Psychologist, PsyD
Big changes—starting high school or college, changing schools, moving, or figuring out what comes next—can bring uncertainty, stress, and self-doubt. Even positive transitions can feel overwhelming. I help teens and young adults navigate these shifts with more clarity and confidence, building coping skills, resilience, and a stronger sense of direction so you can move forward feeling more grounded.
21 Years Experience
Online in New York,
PSYPACT states
Alabama, Arizona, Arkansas, CNMI, Colorado, Connecticut, Delaware, Florida, Georgia, Idaho, Illinois, Indiana, Kansas, Kentucky, Maine, Maryland, Michigan, Minnesota, Mississippi, Missouri, Montana, Nebraska, Nevada, New Hampshire, New Jersey, North Carolina, North Dakota, Ohio, Oklahoma, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, South Carolina, South Dakota, Tennessee, Texas, Utah, Vermont, Virginia, Washington, Washington, D.C., West Virginia, Wisconsin, Wyoming
(Online Only)
Brian McCormack (Connemara Counseling)
Counselor/Therapist, LPC-A/LMHCA
I provide support for individuals struggling with perfectionism, helping clients understand and shift rigid standards, fear of failure, and self-critical thinking patterns. Using evidence-based approaches such as cognitive-behavioral therapy, self-compassion practices, and values-based interventions, I assist clients in developing greater flexibility, realistic goal-setting, and healthier motivation. My work focuses on reducing anxiety and burnout, improving self-worth, and fostering a more balanced, sustainable approach to achievement and personal growth.
2 Years Experience
Online in Texas, Washington
(Online Only)
Melanie Carey
Counselor/Therapist, LMHCA
Perfectionism often looks like high standards, strong work ethic, and attention to detail — but internally it can feel like pressure, self-criticism, fear of failure, or a constant sense that nothing is ever quite enough. Many people with perfectionistic patterns are deeply capable, yet quietly exhausted from trying to get things “right” all the time.
In therapy, we explore perfectionism not as a flaw to eliminate, but as an adaptive strategy that once served an important purpose — often related to safety, belonging, approval, or avoiding shame. From a psychodynamic and trauma-informed lens, we gently look at how these patterns developed and how they continue to shape your relationship with yourself, your creativity, and others.
Rather than trying to replace perfectionism with productivity hacks or forced positivity, this work supports a deeper shift in how you relate to internal pressure. We begin to notice what happens in your body when perfectionism is activated — the tightening, urgency, fear, or collapse — and what might be happening underneath those experiences.
Using Focusing-Oriented Psychotherapy, we slow down enough to access the “felt sense” of perfectionism, allowing space for the parts of you that are striving, protecting, or afraid to be met with curiosity rather than judgment. This often opens the door to new internal possibilities that cannot be reached through thinking alone.
As clients develop greater awareness and nervous system regulation, perfectionism often begins to soften. This does not mean losing ambition or care, but rather shifting from a driven, fear-based relationship with achievement to one that includes self-trust, flexibility, and internal permission.
This approach is especially supportive for creatives, professionals, and highly sensitive individuals who feel blocked, burned out, or disconnected from their natural creativity because of internal pressure to perform or succeed.
Over time, therapy supports a more sustainable relationship with your inner standards — one that allows for both excellence and ease, structure and spaciousness, effort and rest.
2 Years Experience
Online in Washington
(Online Only)
Shannon Gorres
Life Coach, MDiv, MA
I used to joke that I'm a "recovering perfectionist," but trying to recover from it might just be another way of holding ourselves to someone else's standard (of not being "uptight" or "too good" or something). I think the real key is to figure out what our internal compass really wants to point us to. If we were born to pay attention and excel, let's do that in a way that helps us and others thrive, with less shame and stress when we mess up. I'm an Enneagram 1 (I lead with a personality type that can be called "perfectionist" or "idealist"). Maybe you are an Enneagram 1, or a 2 (a people pleaser), or 3 (an achiever). Or maybe you weren't born this way, but your parents pressured you into perfectionism. However perfectionism intersects with your personality, let's find a way to honor its gifts while asking it to rest a bit so other parts of you can also shine.
11 Years Experience
In-Person in Lawrence, KS 66047
In-Person in Olathe, KS 66061
Online in Multiple States
Alabama, Alaska, Arizona, Arkansas, California, Colorado, Connecticut, Delaware, Florida, Georgia, Hawaii, Idaho, Illinois, Indiana, Iowa, Kansas, Kentucky, Louisiana, Maine, Maryland, Massachusetts, Michigan, Minnesota, Mississippi, Missouri, Montana, Nebraska, Nevada, New Hampshire, New Jersey, New Mexico, New York, North Carolina, North Dakota, Northern Mariana Islands, Ohio, Oklahoma, Oregon, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, South Carolina, South Dakota, Tennessee, Texas, Utah, Vermont, Virginia, Washington, Washington, D.C., West Virginia, Wisconsin, Wyoming
Paul T. Haefner, PhD
Psychologist, PhD
Perfectionism looks like high standards from the outside and feels like never being enough on the inside. It fuels real achievement and... quiet exhaustion, procrastination, and dread of failing in front of others. I help high-achievers, athletes, and professionals keep the drive while loosening its grip: separating your worth from your performance, so you can pursue excellence without punishing yourself for being human.
35 Years Experience
In-Person in Winchester, VA 22601
Online in
PSYPACT states
Alabama, Arizona, Arkansas, CNMI, Colorado, Connecticut, Delaware, Florida, Georgia, Idaho, Illinois, Indiana, Kansas, Kentucky, Maine, Maryland, Michigan, Minnesota, Mississippi, Missouri, Montana, Nebraska, Nevada, New Hampshire, New Jersey, North Carolina, North Dakota, Ohio, Oklahoma, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, South Carolina, South Dakota, Tennessee, Texas, Utah, Vermont, Virginia, Washington, Washington, D.C., West Virginia, Wisconsin, Wyoming
Ayden Ferstenberg
Psychologist, PsyD
You may be accomplished, dependable, and highly capable, yet rarely feel satisfied with what you do. Mistakes can feel disproportionately threatening, rest can bring guilt, and even meaningful achievements may provide only brief relief before the next internal imperative takes over. I work with high achievers who are tired of being driven by self-criticism, fear of failure, or the feeling that they must continually prove their worth. Rather than simply trying to counteract perfectionist urges, we explore what perfectionism has come to mean and what it helps you avoid or protect against. The goal is to preserve your ambition while loosening the grip of the inner critic, so that your effort becomes a value-driven choice rather than a condition you use to determine your worth.
5 Years Experience
Online in New York,
PSYPACT states
Alabama, Arizona, Arkansas, CNMI, Colorado, Connecticut, Delaware, Florida, Georgia, Idaho, Illinois, Indiana, Kansas, Kentucky, Maine, Maryland, Michigan, Minnesota, Mississippi, Missouri, Montana, Nebraska, Nevada, New Hampshire, New Jersey, North Carolina, North Dakota, Ohio, Oklahoma, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, South Carolina, South Dakota, Tennessee, Texas, Utah, Vermont, Virginia, Washington, Washington, D.C., West Virginia, Wisconsin, Wyoming
(Online Only)
Dr. Shannon Coleman
Psychologist, PhD
Perfectionism can create relentless pressure to perform, avoid mistakes, or meet impossibly high standards. Therapy can help you examine the beliefs underlying perfectionism, develop more flexible expectations, and pursue goals without being controlled by fear of failure or criticism.
21 Years Experience
Online in
PSYPACT states
Alabama, Arizona, Arkansas, CNMI, Colorado, Connecticut, Delaware, Florida, Georgia, Idaho, Illinois, Indiana, Kansas, Kentucky, Maine, Maryland, Michigan, Minnesota, Mississippi, Missouri, Montana, Nebraska, Nevada, New Hampshire, New Jersey, North Carolina, North Dakota, Ohio, Oklahoma, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, South Carolina, South Dakota, Tennessee, Texas, Utah, Vermont, Virginia, Washington, Washington, D.C., West Virginia, Wisconsin, Wyoming
(Online Only)
Alyssa Smyth
Psychologist, PhD
If you hold yourself to very high standards yet rarely feel satisfied with your efforts, perfectionism may be driving constant pressure beneath the surface. While striving for excellence can be a strength, perfectionism often brings self-criticism, worry about mistakes, and difficulty slowing down. Therapy focuses on understanding these patterns and developing healthier ways to pursue high standards without the chronic strain.
6 Years Experience
In-Person in Poulsbo, WA 98370
Online in
PSYPACT states
Alabama, Arizona, Arkansas, CNMI, Colorado, Connecticut, Delaware, Florida, Georgia, Idaho, Illinois, Indiana, Kansas, Kentucky, Maine, Maryland, Michigan, Minnesota, Mississippi, Missouri, Montana, Nebraska, Nevada, New Hampshire, New Jersey, North Carolina, North Dakota, Ohio, Oklahoma, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, South Carolina, South Dakota, Tennessee, Texas, Utah, Vermont, Virginia, Washington, Washington, D.C., West Virginia, Wisconsin, Wyoming
Michele Robison, PhD
Psychologist, PhD
Individuals who struggle with perfectionism typically experience anxiety. I help my clients not only learn what drives their perfectionism, but I help them learn how to free themselves from the beliefs that drive their perfectionism utilizing CBT and when appropriate, EMDR.
34 Years Experience
In-Person in Coeur d'Alene, ID 83814
Online in California,
PSYPACT states
Alabama, Arizona, Arkansas, CNMI, Colorado, Connecticut, Delaware, Florida, Georgia, Idaho, Illinois, Indiana, Kansas, Kentucky, Maine, Maryland, Michigan, Minnesota, Mississippi, Missouri, Montana, Nebraska, Nevada, New Hampshire, New Jersey, North Carolina, North Dakota, Ohio, Oklahoma, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, South Carolina, South Dakota, Tennessee, Texas, Utah, Vermont, Virginia, Washington, Washington, D.C., West Virginia, Wisconsin, Wyoming