Perfectionism Therapists in England, United Kingdom

Perfectionism

Marianna Trezza -The Growing mindset

Counsellor/Therapist, MA (Hons), Adv Dip. Counsel. & Psychoth.,Dip. Hypnoth., X-Cultural Adaptation Coun. Reg. BACP 572613

For many women, perfectionism is not simply about high standards or wanting to “do things well”. Often it develops as a way of feeling safe, accepted and emotionally protected. Many women living abroad become highly skilled at monitoring themselves: how they speak, how they appear, how they are perceived, whether they are doing enough, achieving enough, adapting enough. Over time, this constant self-monitoring can create emotional exhaustion, anxiety, chronic pressure and a nervous system that struggles to fully relax. For many Italian women living between cultures and expectations, perfectionism can become deeply connected to belonging, identity and the fear of being judged as “too much”, “not enough” or somehow different. My work explores the deeper emotional and nervous system patterns underneath perfectionism, people pleasing and over-functioning. I offer a warm, reflective and holistic space where women can begin reconnecting with self-worth, authenticity and inner safety without constantly needing to perform, adapt or prove themselves. I integrate psychotherapy, hypnotherapy, EFT, embodiment, lifestyle medicine, reflective dialogue and nature-based approaches to support women in moving from chronic pressure toward greater emotional ease, regulation and self-trust.

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23 Years Experience

In-Person in London, England NW5

In-Person in Horsham, England

Online in Australia, Italy, United Kingdom

Perfectionism

Therapy with Ben

Counsellor/Therapist, MBACP

Perfectionism can create relentless pressure, self-criticism and a sense that your efforts are never quite enough. Together, we can explore where these expectations may have developed, what they protect you from and how they affect your relationships, choices and wellbeing. The aim is not to lower your standards, but to develop a more flexible and compassionate relationship with yourself.

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3 Years Experience

In-Person in Cheltenham, England

Online in United Kingdom

Perfectionism

Peter Klein

Therapist, BABCP Accredited, BACP Registered Member

I work with people whose perfectionism contributes to anxiety, stress, procrastination, self-criticism or feeling never good enough. Therapy focuses on developing healthier standards, greater self-compassion and a more balanced approach to achievement.

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14 Years Experience

In-Person in Richmond, England TW9 1AA

Online in United Kingdom, Multiple States Alabama, Alaska, Arizona, Arkansas, California, Colorado, Connecticut, Delaware, Florida, Georgia, Hawaii, Idaho, Illinois, Indiana, Iowa, Kansas, Kentucky, Louisiana, Maine, Maryland, Massachusetts, Michigan, Minnesota, Mississippi, Missouri, Montana, Nebraska, Nevada, New Hampshire, New Jersey, New Mexico, New York, North Carolina, North Dakota, Northern Mariana Islands, Ohio, Oklahoma, Oregon, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, South Carolina, South Dakota, Tennessee, Texas, Utah, Vermont, Virginia, Washington, Washington, D.C., West Virginia, Wisconsin, Wyoming , Multiple Canadian Provinces Alberta, British Columbia, Manitoba, New Brunswick, Newfoundland And Labrador, Northwest Territories, Nova Scotia, Nunavut, Ontario, Prince Edward Island, Quebec, Saskatchewan, Yukon

Perfectionism

Natalie Jane - Narcissistic Abuse & Relationship Recovery Counsellor

Counsellor/Therapist

Perfectionism can look like high standards from the outside but feel like constant pressure and fear of failure on the inside. Together we explore where the drive comes from and build a kinder, more flexible relationship with achievement and mistakes.

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4 Years Experience

Online in Portugal, Spain, United Kingdom (Online Only)

Perfectionism

Kevin Martin

Counsellor/Therapist, Psychotherapist Psychodynamic Analysis & Transactional Analysis, BACP, ITTA, EA

Perfectionism is a personality style and mindset characterised by striving for flawlessness, setting excessively high performance standards, and engaging in overly critical self-evaluation. While many praise it in professional and academic settings as a driver of success, clinical psychology views it not as a healthy pursuit of excellence but as a rigid, self-defeating trap rooted in fear of failure, judgment, or rejection. Understanding the Difference: Perfectionism vs Healthy Striving Healthy Striving: Focuses on personal growth, enjoys the learning process, feels satisfied with a job well done, and views mistakes as valuable feedback. Perfectionism: Focuses on avoiding failure, measures self-worth entirely by achievements, views anything less than flawless as total failure, and is driven by intense anxiety. Common Dimensions of Perfectionism Self-Oriented Perfectionism: Imposing unrealistic standards and harsh self-criticism Other-Oriented Perfectionism: Expecting flawlessness, high precision, and perfection from family members, friends, or colleagues. Socially Prescribed Perfectionism: The belief that others (parents, bosses, society) expect perfection, and that acceptance and love depend on meeting those impossible expectations. (This dimension is most closely linked to anxiety, burnout, and depression.) Common Behaviours & Signs Procrastination & Paralysis: Delaying tasks because the fear of not doing them perfectly makes starting feel too overwhelming. All-or-Nothing Thinking: Believing that if a project or performance isn't 100% successful, it isn't a complete failure (e.g., "If I get a B, I'm a 'total failure'"). Chronic Dissatisfaction: Inability to celebrate achievements. Once a goal is met, the perfectionist immediately moves the goalposts or focuses on minor flaws. Hyper-Focus on Detail: Spending excessive time on minor elements of a task at the expense of the bigger picture, often leading to severe burnout. Masking Mistakes: Going to extreme lengths to hide errors or imperfections out of fear of looking incompetent. The Impact on Well-Being While perfectionists often achieve external success, it comes at a high internal cost. Chronic perfectionism is strongly linked to anxiety, depression, eating disorders, chronic stress, relationship friction, and physical exhaustion. Remember: Perfectionism tries to convince you that your worth depends on your output. Letting go of perfection doesn't mean lowering your standards; it means valuing your well-being, progress, and humanity as much as your achievements.

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10 Years Experience

Online in Ireland, Netherlands, United Kingdom (Online Only)

Perfectionism therapists in England, United Kingdom

Marianna Trezza -The Growing mindset

Therapy with Ben

Peter Klein

Natalie Jane - Narcissistic Abuse & Relationship Recovery Counsellor

Kevin Martin

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