Why Is “Just Be Yourself” So Hard?

Have you ever agreed to something, then later wondered, “Why didn’t I just say what I wanted?”

Maybe you said “you choose” when you had a preference. Maybe you stayed quiet because you didn’t want to make things awkward. Or you noticed yourself becoming more agreeable around someone whose approval matters to you.

Then someone says, “Just be yourself.”

But how easy is that when you’re worried that being yourself might lead to criticism, disappointment, or rejection?

Sometimes we become so used to adjusting ourselves that we stop checking what we actually think and feel. We know what makes everyone else comfortable, but our own answer takes longer to find.

A useful place to begin is with a little curiosity:

What do I believe might happen if I say what I really want?

You don’t have to change everything at once. You can start with one small, honest preference, expressed with care, around someone you feel safe with.

In my latest article, I explore these everyday moments and how we can begin reconnecting with ourselves while staying connected to others.

Read the full article on Substack: https://pearlfeelfree.substack.com/p/why-is-it-hard-to-be-yourself?r=922bcr&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

Pearl
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