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Can I be Addicted to Women?

Ask the Expert:

Question: “I think I may be addicted to women. I have a girlfriend, but I can not keep myself from flirting with other women and wondering what they are like in bed. I have not cheated and do not plan on it but the thought excites me. Is there something wrong with me?”

Cali Estes, The Addictions Coach Answers: ”Recently a term coined, ‘Love Addict’ is being used rather loosely to describe someone who seems to want to attract attention of many suitors, even going as far as falling in love without even having sex with them. You need to investigate why you like the attention:

*Are you happy with your girlfriend?

* Do you like to take risks and like danger…does the trill of sneaking off to meet another woman excite you and why?

*Is it a power and control thing that you need to dominate and run the show?

*What in your past is causing you to want to do this?

*Is it insecurity that she might leave you and you need another one to take...

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The Unfortunate Reality of Veterans Returning Home - An Article Link.

This article describes the common issues of returning to civilization. This article is being shared to spread of awareness of the real traumas that veterans and their families suffer EVERYDAY.

 

 

 

http://dailycaller.com/2014/04/17/the-new-york-times-no-friend-of-veterans/

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The River

The flow of our life is a lot like that of a river. It ebbs and flows. It can be icy and rigid or smooth and flowing. Sometimes it is wild and windy, other times it is clear and calm. When the latter happens, that river must have had a sense of equilibrium. By definition, equilibrium means "the condition of a system in which all competing influences are balanced, in a wide variety of contexts." The key word here is balanced! Similar to a river, A person's life must be balanced to achieve equilibrium or what the Chinese call Yin and Yang. It is no coincidence that we are so much like water as our bodies are made up of 70% water (and the earth's surface is the same). Water and electricity are also very similar. Both are made up of currents (energy) and both seek the easiest route -this is why rivers flood and why people get shocks (I was going to say electrocuted but I want to keep this blog positive). Just like water what we are always seeking is that perfect equilibrium or balance in o...

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I'm never going to get out of this depression!

Most people would say that depression is a state of deep sadness, but you know it is far more than that. Depression is a way of thinking: thinking that your situation is hopeless, or that you are shameful or deeply flawed. Those thoughts make your depression worse, and that intensifies the negative thoughts. You have started down the depression spiral. So how do you get off?

First of all, let me tell you that your thinking is wrong. If you are feeling down, you fall prey to negative irrational thoughts without even realizing they are irrational. Those thoughts keep going around and around in your head as you travel down that spiral. We call this negative thought pattern rumination, and the antidote to rumination is reflection: stepping back from your situation and seeing it in a more positive, helpful light.

But if you could see your situation in a more positive light, you wouldn’t be depressed, right? So let me share with you a strategy I employed with someone who came to see ...

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Motivated by Fear

In the thick of experiencing severe anxiety and panic attacks, it can seem like they are your biggest problem. This is natural, your body is in survival mode, it can only focus on what’s happening to it in the moment, like a pounding heart, feeling nauseated, feeling scared and hopeless. However, that anxiety and the uncomfortable sensations that accompany it are usually just the tip of the iceberg, meaning the anxiety is often a symptom of a bigger issue(s). Common bigger issues include low self-esteem, a need for control, fear of dying, etc. Sometimes it’s just one big issue, other times it’s a combination of several smaller issues, and unfortunately for some of us, these issues manifest in the form of anxiety and/or panic attacks because our bodies can only handle so much fear and stress before its tries to tell us “ENOUGH!”

If anxiety and panic attacks are present within you, it’s important to ask yourself: “Am I motivated by fear?” I...

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7 Things to Get Rid Of That Will Instantly Ease Your Nerves

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Modern life is full of “conveniences” that are supposed to make life easier, but often end up making life more stressful. If you want to lead a lower-stress life—and as a result be happier and healthier—you can start by discarding some of these stress-makers.

Smartphone

The constant ringing, texting and browsing the Internet can be stressful and result in frayed nerves. Recent research has shown that smartphones can increase stress. The irony? It’s not because they’re being used for business. Using smartphones for business is at least neutral from a stress standpoint, but when people use it for personal relationships, they become obsessed with checking and responding to emails and social media posts on Facebook and Twitter. The result is a constantly heightened sense of social anxiety.

Background Noises

Although some people may get relaxation from white noise generators and other types of background noise, other people may actually be stressed o...

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Taking Child's Pose

Have you ever taken a yoga class? If so, then you are surely aware of one of the most basic poses – Child’s Pose. When taking this pose, you are folded over your knees, forehead of the ground and arms and hands either flat by your sides or stretched out in front of you. I understand it to be a resting pose – used when you need to take a break from the current flow of the class. You might be too tired, you might have noticed a pain somewhere in your body, you might simply not want to do the current pose that the rest of the class is doing. So you opt out and take Child’s Pose.


Child’s Pose is a legitimate asana – or body position. Every yoga teacher I know speaks of Child’s Pose as a fantastic option. They often will direct me and my other classmates to ‘take Child’s Pose.’ But they also point out that this position is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength, intuition, and self-care. Knowing when you’ve pushed yo...

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Art therapy with Autistic kids

Recent studies on children with autism spectrum disorders (ASD) have revealed that seventy percent of children with ASD between the ages of 10 and 14 have also been diagnosed with another disorder, anxiety related disorders are named as the most common one!

Behavioral therapists working with kids with ASD admit that anxiety is an inevitable factor of lives of kids and teenagers with ASD. However, studies have shown that combining behavioral and art therapy techniques with kids with developmental disabilities and autistic traits, will improve communication skills and will increase interpersonal interaction in them; which results in reducing social anxiety.Therapy serves as an outlet to express emotions and thoughts, and also helps kids with ASD to make sense out of daily events...

To read more, please visit http://blog.montrealarttherapy.com/art-therapy-with-autistic-kids/

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Serenity Prayer: Tool for Emotional Health

The Serenity Prayer is a well known spiritual tool used in 12 Step recovery whose origins are unclear. Most attribute the prayer to the Christian (Protestant) theologian, Rheinhold Niebuhr (Karl Paul Rheinhold Niebuhr, 1892-1971). Here is a long version of Niebuhr's prayer, with some Christian context:

"God, give us grace to accept with serenity the things that cannot be changed,
courage to change the things which should be changed,
and the wisdom to distinguish the one from the other.
Living one day at a time,
Enjoying one moment at a time,
Accepting hardship as a pathway to peace,
Taking, as Jesus did,
This sinful world as it is,
Not as I would have it,
Trusting that You will make all things right,
If I surrender to Your will,
So that I may be reasonably happy in this life,
And supremely happy with You forever in the next.
Amen."

In any event, I heard an interpretation of the Serenity Prayer, I think from a Father Martin film (remember those things on reels?), that I have used for over 36 years...

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Keeping your inner calm

Many times it is challenging to keep calm when life keeps throwing you curve balls. You make some plans and everything that could go wrong does. Your car doesn’t start, your boss yells at you for a late report, your kid is sick, you have to work overtime on a Friday, and so on. At times these small crises seem to happen all at once and it can be overwhelming. How do you stop and find your way back to a state of calm?

It is essential to remember that regardless of any outside circumstances, drama or family issues we may experience we all have a part of us that is a center of calm. It might be clouded by all the turmoil that is happening in our lives but it is always there, waiting for us to tap into it. It is waiting for us to come back to this state of peacefulness. On days like this, we need to stop and take a quiet moment alone if possible. This could be in the car, bathroom, your office wherever you can get a moment’s peace.

Close your eyes and for every inhalation tel...

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