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Recovery Tip: Recovery Is Not Based Just on Helping Others

One often hears in 12 Step recovery circles that "this is a 'We' " program, that "we can do together what I can't do alone." It is undeniably true that 12 Step recovery is based on the unique ability of one alcoholic or addict to help another. Also heard in 12 Step meetings, often from individuals in early recovery, is the declaration that helping other alcoholics or addicts is the cornerstone of their recovery. I have been reflecting on this emphasis on helping others, and have a few observations (solely my own opinion, of course). My concern is that the focus on helping others might distract the individual helping and the one helped from the primary result sought through 12 Step recovery, namely, a relationship with God, a Higher Power, or other source of spiritual strength.

Step 12, which is the principle underlying the action of helping other alcoholics or addicts, states unequivocally that "Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this mess...

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What Makes A Real Man

I was recently reading a blog in which the author – a mother of a young boy – was bragging that her son is “all boy” – meaning he is rough and tumble and plays with trucks, guns, and GI Joes. I found this offensive. What about the boys who like Barbies and arts and crafts are sensitive? Are they not complete boys? Are they somehow deficient? Would she be less pleased with him. It seems strange to me that we are still playing into gender stereotypes about masculinity in men and boys.

This creates potential problems for anyone who identities as male. The trans man has to figure out and come to terms with what his masculinity looks like. The gay 16 year old who likes drag has to accept that he can be feminine and still be a man. The straight man who holds his feelings in hears from his wife that he is emotionally distant, while he’s simply trying to be the “strong one”. It even makes life difficult for people who identify as straight female...

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Counseling and Therapy in Lexington KY, Frankfort KY, and Richmond KY

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Free Guided Meditation for Healing and Overcoming Adversity

Join Rev. Tracy Cox, B. Msc., IMM for a healing meditation, designed to relax your body, mind and spirit to allow true healing on all levels. Also, part of the meditation will be to help deal with the stress of overcoming adversity, as life has been quite stressful for many people recently. Rev. Tracy is an Ontario Licensed Wedding Officiant, as well as a pastoral and spiritual care provider, available in her Aurora Ontario office, or worldwide by phone. For more information, please go to





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The Unfortunate Reality of Veterans Returning Home - An Article Link.

This article describes the common issues of returning to civilization. This article is being shared to spread of awareness of the real traumas that veterans and their families suffer EVERYDAY.

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The River

The flow of our life is a lot like that of a river. It ebbs and flows. It can be icy and rigid or smooth and flowing. Sometimes it is wild and windy, other times it is clear and calm. When the latter happens, that river must have had a sense of equilibrium. By definition, equilibrium means "the condition of a system in which all competing influences are balanced, in a wide variety of contexts." The key word here is balanced! Similar to a river, A person's life must be balanced to achieve equilibrium or what the Chinese call Yin and Yang. It is no coincidence that we are so much like water as our bodies are made up of 70% water (and the earth's surface is the same). Water and electricity are also very similar. Both are made up of currents (energy) and both seek the easiest route -this is why rivers flood and why people get shocks (I was going to say electrocuted but I want to keep this blog positive). Just like water what we are always seeking is that perfect equilibrium or balance in o...

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I'm never going to get out of this depression!

Most people would say that depression is a state of deep sadness, but you know it is far more than that. Depression is a way of thinking: thinking that your situation is hopeless, or that you are shameful or deeply flawed. Those thoughts make your depression worse, and that intensifies the negative thoughts. You have started down the depression spiral. So how do you get off?

First of all, let me tell you that your thinking is wrong. If you are feeling down, you fall prey to negative irrational thoughts without even realizing they are irrational. Those thoughts keep going around and around in your head as you travel down that spiral. We call this negative thought pattern rumination, and the antidote to rumination is reflection: stepping back from your situation and seeing it in a more positive, helpful light.

But if you could see your situation in a more positive light, you wouldn’t be depressed, right? So let me share with you a strategy I employed with someone who came to see ...

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Motivated by Fear

In the thick of experiencing severe anxiety and panic attacks, it can seem like they are your biggest problem. This is natural, your body is in survival mode, it can only focus on what’s happening to it in the moment, like a pounding heart, feeling nauseated, feeling scared and hopeless. However, that anxiety and the uncomfortable sensations that accompany it are usually just the tip of the iceberg, meaning the anxiety is often a symptom of a bigger issue(s). Common bigger issues include low self-esteem, a need for control, fear of dying, etc. Sometimes it’s just one big issue, other times it’s a combination of several smaller issues, and unfortunately for some of us, these issues manifest in the form of anxiety and/or panic attacks because our bodies can only handle so much fear and stress before its tries to tell us “ENOUGH!”

If anxiety and panic attacks are present within you, it’s important to ask yourself: “Am I motivated by fear?” I...

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7 Things to Get Rid Of That Will Instantly Ease Your Nerves


Modern life is full of “conveniences” that are supposed to make life easier, but often end up making life more stressful. If you want to lead a lower-stress life—and as a result be happier and healthier—you can start by discarding some of these stress-makers.


The constant ringing, texting and browsing the Internet can be stressful and result in frayed nerves. Recent research has shown that smartphones can increase stress. The irony? It’s not because they’re being used for business. Using smartphones for business is at least neutral from a stress standpoint, but when people use it for personal relationships, they become obsessed with checking and responding to emails and social media posts on Facebook and Twitter. The result is a constantly heightened sense of social anxiety.

Background Noises

Although some people may get relaxation from white noise generators and other types of background noise, other people may actually be stressed o...

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Taking Child's Pose

Have you ever taken a yoga class? If so, then you are surely aware of one of the most basic poses – Child’s Pose. When taking this pose, you are folded over your knees, forehead of the ground and arms and hands either flat by your sides or stretched out in front of you. I understand it to be a resting pose – used when you need to take a break from the current flow of the class. You might be too tired, you might have noticed a pain somewhere in your body, you might simply not want to do the current pose that the rest of the class is doing. So you opt out and take Child’s Pose.

Child’s Pose is a legitimate asana – or body position. Every yoga teacher I know speaks of Child’s Pose as a fantastic option. They often will direct me and my other classmates to ‘take Child’s Pose.’ But they also point out that this position is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength, intuition, and self-care. Knowing when you’ve pushed yo...

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