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How Do You Show Love??

How do you show your partner love in a way that maintains a feeling of intimacy and connection in your relationship or marriage? How do you need to recieve love? We often attempt to show our loved ones love in ways that we would like to receive love rather than the way they recognize and receive love. Once you understand they ways they need to be shown love, you can change your patterns in the relationship. Visiting a Relationship Counsellor can provide the opportunity to explore what is meaningful to each member of the partnership or marriage. Learn how two have your needs met while also understanding your partners needs.

Kerry Vega, MTC, RPC

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How to Enjoy Exercise

     Many people are scared of the word “exercise.” Oftentimes when we hear from the doctor, health professional, friend, family member, etc that we “should really start exercising,” we immediately flash to the vision of the woman in the neon leotard or the man in the tank top with rippling muscles. Couple this image with the sound of a beefy personal trainer yelling, “give me one more! No pain, no gain!” and it’s no wonder we want to say “no thank you!” to that whole exercise thing!


     The primary reason that we retain this particular image when it comes to exercise is due to the significant rise in fitness facilities in the 1980s… and it just kinda stuck. So then, when it is suggested that we begin exercise we can’t help but think that that means we have to buy a gym membership, new clothes, a gym bag, a water bottle, and new shoes and on top of that, have to start running on a treadmi...

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Authenticity in my practice

Starting my own hypnotherapy practice has been anything but straightforward. As with anything new, I'm struggling to find my own voice and a clear path. It seemed so simple at first.


Authenticity and transparency are qualities that I have struggled to embody in my life and my relationships. I'm a child of the 60s and, as an impressionable teenager, I assimilated many of the core beliefs of the hippy generation: An anti-establishment, anti-capitalistic, almost anarchic philosophical and political stance; a strong belief in the goodness and power of people; respect of people's freedom and the reality of their experience. My spiritual life has been a patchwork of Buddhist, Hindu, Taoist beliefs and, at this point, I'm pragmatic with no religious affiliations. The Universe is impersonal and is ruled by certain laws. If I allow negativity to rule my life, I will attract more of the same. If I allow positivity to guide me, like attracts like.


As an entrepreneur, how can I reconcile being s...

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Being Mindful

I see us as energetic beings with the ability to change; everything around us has energy as do thoughts, emotions and feelings. What I have found is that Mindfulness is the energy that helps me to recognize happiness that is present at every moment of my life and is the source of happiness and joy. Whether it be simply walking the dogs and taking in deep breaths of air, enjoying my visits with the horses along the way, noticing the changes of the seasons as I walk, but every moment noticing the beauty of the each present moment and no longer being on autopilot.

Many people go about their everyday life on autopilot their minds full of what their obligations are in their busy life or caught up in worry, fears, anger or regret, reliving the past or being anxious about their future instead of being in the present moment, living a deeply fulfilled life. I practice mindfulness daily and now drive more safely because I’m not on autopilot, I am concentrating on what I am doing, being in...

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Relationships: Start Strong and Stay Strong

Relationships – Start Strong and Stay Strong Relationships can be resilient and enduring. It’s important to go in with your eyes wide open and to do ‘your part’ to nurture the relationship. Know yourself and what you want out of the relationship. When you get right with yourself, it opens up the door to opportunities that directly relate to developing a strong union. Contentment and happiness come from inside and are major contributions to ‘doing your part’ in your relationship. Enter a relationship with realistic expectations. Don’t expect your spouse to support his/her needs and all of yours too. You are ultimately responsible to support yourself emotionally, spiritually, and intellectually. Work on thinking positively. Search for the meaning in your life. Continue to learn. These are opportunities to develop your self for a richer, more satisfying life. ***

While complete independence is neither possible nor desirable, by standing on your ow...

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Five Guidelines for Finding Purpose and Meaning in Life

     Many people struggle with finding meaning and purpose in life.  In the following ideas I offer five guidelines for a person struggling in this way. (1) Assess and then figure out what helps you want to live.  Questions like 'what gets me out of bed each day and gets me going?' are an example of how to examine what there is in life that makes life worth living. (2) Explore general resources that aid a person in achieving what he/she is meant to do with his/her life to make sense out of that life.  Various writers study and then describe issues and concerns in relation to purpose and meaning in life; turning to these writers can provide ideas and direction for this search. (3) Seek out professional resources who can aid in this exploration of purpose and meaning.  This experience might include a therapist who is willing to share ideas about how the therapist has gained his/her own purpose and meaning in life.  Often times this type of search with...

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Questions from an Aspiring Therapist (And Useful Information for a Better Awareness)

Questions from an Aspiring Therapist (And Useful Information for a Better Awareness)

Why did you become a Mental Health counselor? All my experiences, including other careers, friends and travels have convinced me that I should be in this field. Teachers and professors have proven to me that one person can change another person’s life. Community, normalization and empathy are possible when people have similar experiences. My pains will and have served as awareness, relief and understanding and most of all HOPE. Holding Onto Positive Expectations – Even the most tragic experience can turn out to be a blessing e.g. organ donating. Someone must die for someone else to live. In the case of a therapist, we offer relief to people through our education and experiences. I have come to understand that reasons exist and experiences are not necessarily random. If something sticks out to you (in any situation) pay attention to it. ***

2. Explain your experiences with taking the exam ...

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On Marriage

Have you ever wondered why people get married? It’s no longer a necessity in modern day, so why is that piece of paper still so important to some of us? Why do people get married in the first place? There are a number of different reasons that people marry. Only you can decide if it’s right for you. It is certainly beneficial and respectful to the commitment of marriage that two people enter the union with their eyes open. Marriages that are born on faulty ground can be doomed before the ceremony. The following reasons to get married are in themselves, not enough to ensure the best beginning in planting the seed that we all hope will grow into a lasting relationship. If that’s what you’re working toward, the following list may be warning signs that that readiness and rightness are not adequate and that you might not be quite prepared to have a relationship built on a solid foundation.

On Marriage - Have you ever wondered why people get married? It’s no lo...

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Taking time

Too often people view time as a dangerous enemy. When time is actually waiting to befriend us. It's not uncommon to hear comments like, "I killed some time..." I recently asked a friend why he habitually arrived at movie theaters only minutes before the movie begins. He said that if he arrived any earlier he might not have anything to say to his wife. Then adding, "what would we do?" The word "do" implies action. The need for structure. Guidelines. Distractions. Predictability. Slowing down is perceived as a threat because it is unfamiliar and change can usher in anxiety. A kind of stage-fright or the "gap between now and later," as Dr. Fritz Pearls described it. Our zeitgeist which promotes easy distraction and quick fixes is no help at all.

However, it is by slowing down to take a stroll or to reflect that stretches and informs us. Our feelings serve as a conduit to clarifying our needs. It's far easier to get your needs met if you know what they are. Also, being passionate and trul...

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The Ice Bucket Challenge

The Ice Bucket Challenge

If you have a social media account, or have been watching the news lately, then you have probably heard about the Ice Bucket Challenge. The Ice Bucket Challenge, is part of an awareness campaign to inform people about ALS (Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis), also known as Lou Gehrig’s Disease, and encouraging them to donate to the cause.

The popular trend began around the beginning of August, and has seen millions of people participate, including celebrities and politicians. People choose to either dump a bucket of ice water over their head, or donate $100 to the ALS Association, some do both. These participants then challenge a few of their friends to do the same, thus continuing the chain. This campaign has gained worldwide popularity, and according to the ALS Association, has raised $31.5 million in donations, compared to the $1.9 million they received in the same time period last year (1).

In addition to the donations received, perhaps one of the most ...

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